Podcast Summary
Reflecting on the Impact of 'Beverly Hills, 90210': Jenny Garth and Tori Spelling shared stories of their teenage years on 'Beverly Hills, 90210' and the unexpected influence it had on fashion trends and social media.
Jenny Garth and Tori Spelling, stars of the iconic 90s show "Beverly Hills, 90210," shared their experiences of being on the show during their teenage years and the impact it had on their lives, fashion trends, and social media. They discussed how they didn't fully realize the extent of their influence until much later. The episode also featured a promotion for Helix Mattress and merchandise available at vilefiles.com. Next week, Susan Kaye, author of "Quiet," will join the podcast to discuss introverts and extroverts. The hosts also shared their personal stories of being fans of the 90210 stars and how the show influenced them growing up.
Surprised by Success: Actors of 'Beverly Hills, 90210' Reflect on Impact: Actors initially unaware of show's impact, now proud of groundbreaking discussions and open dialogue on sensitive issues.
The actors of "Beverly Hills, 90210" were surprised by the show's success and didn't fully appreciate it until later. They worked long hours and were focused on their roles, often without realizing the impact their show was having on audiences, particularly in normalizing conversations around topics that were considered taboo at the time. Now, as parents themselves, they look back with pride on the show's groundbreaking discussions and feel grateful for the opportunity to be part of important conversations. Despite being labeled as "Jiggle TV," the show dealt with serious topics and helped open up dialogue around sensitive issues. The actors' sense of pride in the show's contributions has grown over time, and they continue to appreciate the impact it had on audiences.
Challenges faced as popular actresses in late 90s and early 2000s: They faced unique challenges, including sexist questions and pressure to be sexy and compete, but now instill self-confidence and empowerment in their kids.
Being popular during their early acting careers, particularly in the late 90s and early 2000s, came with unique challenges, including being subjected to different interview questions and treatment compared to their male costars. They both recalled uncomfortable experiences, such as feeling pressured to be sexy and compete with each other. Reflecting on their past, they now instill values of self-confidence and empowerment in their children, using examples like the movie "Dirty Dancing." They acknowledge that their experiences paved the way for their kids' more confident and different generation. Despite the progress, they acknowledge that sexist questions and expectations still exist, particularly for women in the public eye. Overall, their conversation underscores the importance of raising strong, confident individuals who can navigate the complexities of society and media.
Gratitude for missing social media during teenage years: Missing social media during teenage years allowed speakers to focus on puzzle games, family stories, and avoid potential negative consequences. Sharing and preserving family stories through services like Storyworth helps keep families connected and creates cherished memories.
The absence of social media during their teenage years allowed the speakers to focus on other things, such as puzzle games and family stories. They express gratitude for not having to deal with the potential negative consequences of social media at a young age, like unwanted attention or the pressure to curate an online image. The speakers also emphasize the importance of sharing and preserving family stories, which can be done through services like Storyworth. This not only helps keep families connected but also creates cherished memories for future generations.
The impact of social media on mental health, especially for young people: Social media can cause anxiety and mental health struggles, including depression and PTSD. Open discussions and promoting alternative perspectives are crucial to combat negative effects.
Social media and the pressure to present a perfect image online can cause significant anxiety and mental health struggles, especially for young people. This was a topic that wasn't openly discussed during the early days of celebrity culture, but it's now recognized as a common issue. The speakers shared their personal experiences of dealing with anxiety, depression, and PTSD related to public scrutiny and criticism. They emphasized the importance of open discussions about mental health and the need to combat the negative effects of social media by promoting alternative perspectives. The speakers also reflected on their own experiences as young celebrities in the 90s, noting the lack of awareness and conversation around mental health issues at the time. They expressed gratitude for the progress made in recent years, but acknowledged the ongoing challenges of navigating social media as parents and as public figures.
The isolating and emotionally stunting experience of fame: Celebrities during that time faced immense pressure to be perfect, lacked control over their narrative, and struggled to maintain relationships and express vulnerability, leading to emotional stunting.
The experience of fame, especially during the time when Jennie and Tori gained their celebrity status, was isolating and emotionally stunting. The constant pressure to be perfect and the lack of control over their narrative led to a feeling of helplessness. The absence of social media platforms made it even more challenging to maintain relationships and express vulnerability. Despite the challenges, the ability to stay grounded and remember where they came from was crucial in keeping them connected to their authentic selves. The stunted emotional growth was a common experience for celebrities during that time, and the lack of a safe space to express emotions made it a difficult burden to bear.
Friendships and the importance of understanding each other's experiences: Friendships can change as people grow and have unique experiences, but personalized sleep solutions and eco-friendly products can improve overall well-being.
Friendships can fade due to different life experiences and growing apart, even if it's not about being better than others. The speakers shared their experience of bonding deeply during a formative age and how no one outside their circle could fully understand their experiences. The discussion then shifted to the importance of getting a good night's sleep and the benefits of Helix Mattress and Public Goods. Helix Mattress offers personalized mattresses based on sleep positions and preferences, with up to $200 off and 2 free pillows for listeners at helixsleep.com/vil. Public Goods is a one-stop shop for sustainable, eco-friendly, and innovative products, with a $15 discount and a free gift for first-time buyers at publicgoods.com/vialandusecodevial@.
Forming deep, lasting friendships is crucial for personal growth: Finding a supportive inner circle of people who understand and accept you is essential for personal growth and mental well-being. Trust and shared experiences are key to forming deep, lasting friendships, which can help navigate life's challenges and evolve together.
Finding a supportive inner circle of people who understand and accept you is crucial for personal growth and mental well-being. The speaker, who appeared on a reality TV show, shared how the experience provided a safe space for her to open up and form deep, lasting friendships. She emphasized the importance of trust and shared experiences, which have helped her and her friend navigate their lives and evolve together. The speaker also reflected on the societal pressures and expectations they faced during their time on the show, particularly regarding their appearance and worth. She acknowledged how things have changed and how they've come to appreciate their experiences and the lessons they've learned. Overall, the speaker's message highlights the importance of self-acceptance, trust, and the power of meaningful relationships.
Open communication and self-awareness for raising confident children: Embrace life's ups and downs, normalize struggles, and share stories to inspire and learn from each other
Open communication and self-awareness are essential for raising confident and sensitive children. Jenny and Tory shared their experiences of instilling boundaries and trusting their instincts, which their children have adopted to stand up against toxic energy and body shaming. They also emphasized the importance of normalizing the struggles of finding love and the growth that comes with aging and sharing experiences. Jenny's openness about her past marriages and divorces has inspired many listeners, and Tory's decision to share her reality TV relationship showed the value of vulnerability and authenticity in inspiring others. Overall, the discussion highlighted the importance of embracing life's ups and downs and using platforms to share stories and learn from each other.
The importance of vulnerability and open communication in relationships: Being vulnerable and open leads to stronger connections, whether in personal or professional relationships. Authenticity resonates with others and builds trust and closeness.
Vulnerability and open communication are key to building strong relationships, whether it's with a partner or with fans. The speaker shared her experience of finding her voice and connecting with others through sharing her story. She also highlighted the authenticity of Tori Spelling and how her vulnerability resonates with fans. The speaker emphasized the importance of being real and communicating vulnerabilities in relationships, leading to greater acceptance and closeness. The group dynamic of their show brought them close, but being roommates presented unique challenges, highlighting the difference between being friends and being roommates. Ultimately, the speaker's experience underscores the importance of being vulnerable and open in all aspects of life.
Understanding and respecting differences in cleaning habits: Effective roommates acknowledge each other's unique ways of dealing with stress and maintaining a clean living space, finding a balance that respects both parties.
Effective roommates understand the importance of maintaining a clean common area. The speaker, Tori, acknowledges her messy habits and Jenny's meticulousness, recognizing their differences and how they complement each other. Tori explains her inability to keep track of her belongings and the mental energy it takes for her, while Jenny focuses on tidiness as a means to clear her mind and perform at her best. They both have unique ways of dealing with stress and processing information, which contributes to their successful co-living arrangement. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding and respecting each other's differences and finding a balance that works for both parties.
Jenny's mother's words and her experiences on podcasts: Jenny learned to prioritize people over tasks from her mother's advice. She shared her experiences on podcasts, including her time on Dancing with the Stars and Tori's experience on The Masked Singer, overcoming fears and finding comfort in performing.
Jenny, with her meticulous nature and OCD tendencies, learned the importance of prioritizing people over tasks. Her mother's words, "The people in this room are so much more important than that dish in the sink," have stayed with her and helped her find balance in her life. On a lighter note, Jenny and her co-hosts, Tori, share their experiences on their podcast, 9021OMG, where they rewatch and discuss their beloved show "Beverly Hills, 90210." Jenny opened up about her time on "Dancing with the Stars," sharing that while it was a challenging experience for her as an introvert, she ultimately enjoyed it and was grateful for the opportunity. Tori, on the other hand, found comfort in performing on "The Masked Singer" behind a mask, overcoming her fear of judgment and singing in public.
Relief and Comfort with Masks for Introverts: Introverts find masks provide comfort and anxiety relief in public places. Societal pressure to be extroverted should be recognized and accepted, as introversion and extroversion are not right or wrong.
Masks have provided a new level of comfort and anxiety relief for some individuals, especially introverts like the speaker. The speaker shares her personal experience of feeling more at ease in public places with a mask on, and expresses gratitude for the ability to wear one while singing. Additionally, the conversation touched on the societal pressure to be extroverted and the importance of recognizing and accepting one's introverted tendencies. The speaker shared her past experiences of feeling misunderstood and even bullied for being introverted, but emphasized that being introverted or extroverted is not right or wrong. She also expressed excitement about an upcoming conversation with Susan Cain, an author who explores introversion and extroversion, as a way to further understand herself.
Embrace Your Authentic Self: It's okay to be true to yourself and not always conform to societal expectations. Find a balance between being sociable and being true to yourself, and remember that introverts can still be successful in various industries.
It's important to be true to yourself and not feel the constant need to please others or conform to societal expectations. The speaker shares her personal experience of feeling the pressure to be outgoing and friendly at all times, even when it wasn't authentic to who she truly was. Through her interactions with Jen, she learned that it's okay to be introverted and not always put on an extroverted persona, especially when off the clock. It's essential to find a balance between being sociable and being true to yourself. The speaker also highlights that introverts can still be successful in industries that may seem extrovert-dominated, such as acting or performing. Additionally, the speaker and her guests engage in a game of "Do You Know Me?" where they make guesses about Tory and Jenny based on basic questions, showcasing their camaraderie and ability to connect with each other despite their differences.
Jenny and Tori's phone aversion and personal experiences: Jenny and Tori share their dislike for phone communication, reveal personal experiences like falling asleep during intimate moments and shedding tears over emotional content, and admit to quirks like being unable to touch their tongues to their noses.
Both Jenny and Tori have a strong aversion to using the phone for communication and prefer other platforms like Zoom instead. They also shared some personal experiences, such as falling asleep during sex, shedding tears over emotional content, and having pets make messes in their homes. One intriguing revelation was that one of them had once left a "gift" on an ex-boyfriend's doorstep in retaliation for poor treatment. They also admitted to not being able to touch their tongues to their noses. Despite their quirks and secrets, they maintained a lighthearted and playful tone throughout the conversation.
Exploring Human Curiosity and Understanding Ourselves: Through a playful conversation about physical abilities, the hosts highlighted the importance of curiosity, open-mindedness, and understanding personality traits like introversion and extroversion.
Learning from this podcast episode is the exploration of human curiosity and the lengths people go to understand themselves and each other. The hosts engaged in a playful and open conversation about various physical abilities, specifically the ability to touch one's tongue to one's nose. Despite initial challenges, they persisted in their attempts and shared their experiences with the audience. This conversation led to a broader discussion about introversion and extroversion, and the importance of understanding these personality traits. The episode ended with a promotion for an upcoming interview with Susan Cain, the author of Quiet, and a reminder for listeners to check out the guests' podcast, 902oneomg. Overall, the episode showcased the power of curiosity, open-mindedness, and the importance of learning more about oneself and others.
