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    • Navigating Personal and Global Challenges in 2021Stay connected to local and global communities, find ways to make a positive impact, and utilize resources like Rick Hansen's Foundations of Well-being program for personal growth and resilience.

      The year 2021 presented a unique challenge for many people, marked by a juxtaposition of personal and global events. For some, it was a year of personal growth, while for others, it was a year of despair and disheartening news. The ongoing COVID-19 pandemic, resistance to vaccinations, and new variants, such as Omicron, added to the sense of uncertainty and weariness. At the same time, the urgency of addressing global issues like climate change continued to demand attention. The discussion emphasized the importance of staying connected to both the local and global communities and finding ways to make a positive impact, even in the face of overwhelming challenges. Rick Hansen's Foundations of Well-being online program offers a comprehensive resource for personal growth and developing resilience in the context of these complexities. The program includes over 50 hours of teaching videos, deep dive interviews, guided meditations, self-assessments, and more. Listeners can use the code "beingwell25" for a 25% discount and a 30-day money-back guarantee during the New Year's sale.

    • Appreciating the positive and growing togetherReflect on the year, express gratitude, look for helpers, and strive for personal and collective growth.

      Despite the challenging year we've all experienced, it's important to appreciate the positive aspects of our lives and the ways we've grown, both personally and collectively. The speaker expressed gratitude for the success of their podcast and the community it has brought them, and emphasized the importance of looking for helpers and contributing to the greater good. Reflection and goal setting are valuable practices for personal development, and the speaker shared their own tradition of reflecting on their life's journey at the end of each year. By focusing on the positive and striving for growth, we can help maintain the fabric of society and make the world a better place for ourselves and others.

    • Exploring inner self through collage-makingCollage-making can help align with deepest desires, uncover hidden intentions, foster connection to inner self, provide a sense of accomplishment, and inspire personal growth

      Engaging in creative and reflective practices, such as collage-making, can serve as a powerful tool for introspection and intention-setting. This process can help individuals align themselves with their deepest desires and values, and cultivate a sense of inner peace and purpose. By cutting out images and words from various sources and arranging them in a meaningful way, one can tap into their subconscious and uncover hidden desires or intentions. This practice can also foster a sense of connection to one's inner self and serve as a reminder of one's goals and aspirations throughout the year. The physical act of creating and arranging these collages can also provide a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction, and can be a source of inspiration and motivation in times of uncertainty or doubt. Overall, the collage-making process can be a valuable tool for personal growth and self-discovery, and can help individuals live more intentionally and authentically in their daily lives.

    • Creating a personal collage for self-reflection and goal settingEngaging in creating a personal collage helps tap into desires, values, and aspirations, focusing on being, and staying connected to exploration, joy, and independence for growth and development.

      Creating a personal collage can serve as a meaningful tool for self-reflection and goal setting. By gathering images and words that resonate with us on a deep level, we can tap into our desires, values, and aspirations, and use them as a guide for our actions and decisions. This process encourages us to focus on being rather than just becoming, and can help us cultivate positive emotions such as kindness, compassion, and joyfulness. Our goals, whether personal or professional, are ultimately driven by our desires, and engaging in this reflective practice can help us stay connected to the childlike sense of exploration, joy, and independence that can fuel our growth and development.

    • Shift from negative to positive mindset for new year's resolutionsInstead of focusing on negative aspects and self-criticism, focus on positive goals and desired qualities for successful new year's resolutions

      Approaching new year's resolutions with a positive, aspirational mindset rather than a negative, self-critical one can significantly increase the likelihood of success. Instead of focusing on what we haven't been doing and feeling bad about it, we should focus on what we want to achieve and the positive qualities we want to cultivate within ourselves. For example, instead of saying "I will stop neglecting my physical fitness," we could say "I am committed to finding enjoyment in moving my body every day." This shift in mindset can help us approach our goals with a more positive and sustainable attitude. Additionally, practicing any kind of activity-driven pursuit, such as dancing or playing an instrument, requires discipline and internal motivation. By focusing on the enjoyment and internal satisfaction we gain from these practices, we can commit to them more fully and consistently.

    • Being intentional with languageExpress ourselves more fully and authentically using intentional language. Use present tense and affirmative statements to align with our values, intentions, and desires.

      Language is only a small part of the brain's processing, and our intentionality is deeply rooted in somatic, emotional, and visual experiences. The most passionate and authentic moments often arise from nonverbal communication. However, since we'll be focusing on language in this context, we can still make our language more intentional and present. For instance, instead of using tentative language like "I would like to find a kind of thing," we can express ourselves more fully with "I enjoy moving my body" or "I will enjoy moving my body, right now." Another technique is sentence completions, where we finish a stem with a statement that reflects our values, intentions, or desires. For example, "As a dancer, I enjoy expressing myself authentically" or "As a worthy being, my relationships are grounded in authenticity." These exercises can help us be more present, authentic, and intentional in our communication, both with ourselves and others.

    • Exploring the power of identity in personal growthEmbracing our identities and focusing on personal growth can lead to more successful habit formation and resolution-keeping. Listen to The Doctor John DeLaney Show and ZOE Science and Nutrition podcast for practical advice and insights.

      Identifying with certain aspects of ourselves can help guide our behaviors and commitments. During the discussion, it was mentioned how some sentence stems make us feel obligated or uneasy, indicating potential value for personal growth. The Doctor John DeLaney Show, a top-5 podcast on Apple Podcasts, offers practical advice for navigating common challenges related to relationships, anxieties, and emotional well-being. This direct and accessible format complements the theoretical nature of Being Well. Additionally, identity-based statements can be powerful tools for habit formation and resolution-keeping. For instance, instead of focusing on a behavior to change, like quitting a bad habit, we can focus on an aspect of our identity we want to embrace. This shift in perspective can make the change feel more natural and sustainable. Another valuable resource for understanding health and wellness is the ZOE Science and Nutrition podcast. With a science-based approach, it provides accurate information to help listeners make informed choices about their health. In summary, embracing our identities and focusing on personal growth can lead to more successful habit formation and resolution-keeping. The Doctor John DeLaney Show and the ZOE Science and Nutrition podcast offer valuable resources for exploring these concepts and making positive changes in our lives.

    • Identity shapes behaviors and change requires alignment with itAligning our visions, intentions, values, and goals with our identity is crucial for creating lasting change. Identity shifts can lead to transformative experiences but require a supportive infrastructure to stick.

      Our identity plays a crucial role in shaping our behaviors and habits. Changing deep-rooted behaviors requires modifying our self-concept or underlying identity. James Clear's work on identity-based habits provides valuable insights into this concept. Personal growth efforts, whether through therapy or podcasts, often fail due to a mismatch between desired changes and our sense of self. Similarly, relationships and organizations form equilibriums that resist change. To create lasting change, it's essential to align our visions, intentions, values, and goals with our identity. When we do this, change feels natural and sustainable. Personally, I've experienced significant identity shifts that led to transformative changes in my life. One such instance occurred in my mid-twenties when I realized I had been mislabeling myself as a wimp. This revelation led to a profound reframing of my past and a newfound confidence. However, the key to making this change stick was not just the new perspective but also the infrastructure I built to support it. By challenging the scripts others had written for me and standing firm in my new identity, I was able to create a stable foundation for lasting change.

    • Reframing Personal Narratives for GrowthAcknowledge past experiences, validate strengths, and leave behind old limiting narratives to embrace personal growth and new identities

      We all tell stories about ourselves and others that shape our identities. These narratives can be limiting or empowering. To break free from old, restrictive narratives, it can be helpful to revisit and reframe our personal narratives. By acknowledging and validating past experiences that align with the new identity we want to adopt, we can make room for growth and change. This process can involve looking at old photographs and reflecting on past experiences to identify ways we were strong, smart, or capable, even if those qualities weren't recognized or encouraged at the time. Ultimately, the freedom to step into a new identity and claim it, even if we don't know exactly where it will lead, is an essential part of personal growth. Like the character in Straw Dogs, we may not know our destination, but we can leave behind old scripts and puppet masters and embrace the uncertainty of the journey ahead.

    • Reclaiming Aspects of YourselfIdentify and cultivate desired aspects of self, appreciate unique qualities, and find joy in pursuing passions.

      As we go through life, we may put certain parts of ourselves aside due to various reasons. However, it's important to recognize and reclaim these aspects of ourselves, especially as we age. By doing so, we can add value to our lives and find joy in pursuing our passions. Begin by identifying what you aspire to cultivate more of in your life and what aspects of yourself you would like to bring forward. These foundational elements can lead to a fulfilling and intentional year. Additionally, they can help us appreciate the qualities we possess and preserve the beautiful goodness within ourselves, even amidst challenges. So, take some time to reflect on the unique parts of you that you want to make room for in 2022 and beyond.

    • Living in alignment with core aspirationsDefine identity, reflect on past, embrace positive purposes, cherish life's preciousness, and surrender to best inclinations.

      Identifying our core aspirations and living in alignment with them can bring meaning and purpose to our lives. This involves intentionally defining who we are and what we will do, reflecting on how our past experiences have shaped us, and fully embracing our positive purposes. It's important to remember that life is a precious gift, and each day that passes is irreplaceable. By focusing on our core identity and living in accordance with it, we can make the most of our limited time and create a fulfilling life. Surrendering to our best inclinations and recognizing the impact of our past experiences can help us step into the life we truly want.

    • Small changes, big impactMaking intentional daily habits and mindset shifts can significantly support goal realization and create positive growth.

      Making small, intentional changes in our daily habits and mindset can significantly support the realization of our larger goals. This can include eliminating distractions, committing to personal practices like meditation, and focusing on cultivating positive qualities like generosity. Another important aspect is recognizing and addressing negative patterns, such as self-centeredness and anger, and finding ways to engage with the world without despair. By focusing on these small, yet meaningful actions, we can make progress towards our bigger intentions and create positive growth in our lives.

    • Reflecting on the past and connecting with our deeper selvesIdentify authentic identities and engage in practices that resonate with us to enter the new year with purpose and alignment

      As we look towards the new year, it's important to reflect on the past and lean on the support of others. Rick Hanson, in preparing for a new year, emphasizes the importance of connecting with our deeper selves and identifying authentic identities. He suggests using stem phrases, which involve claiming an identity and making a statement of action that flows naturally from it. Additionally, it's essential to consider who is supporting us and who may be holding us back in our interpersonal sphere. By engaging in practices that resonate with us and focusing on our inner selves, we can enter the new year with a clear sense of purpose and alignment with our true selves. So, take some time to reflect on the past year, identify your authentic identities, and lean on the support of those around you as you move into the new year.

    • Claiming Positive Identities for Lasting ChangeIdentify aspirations, claim identities in present tense, examine internal narratives for genuine change

      Claiming positive identities for ourselves and aligning our actions with those identities is a powerful way to bring about positive change in our lives. This process begins by identifying our aspirations and the qualities we want to reveal more of in the year to come. Next, we fully claim those identities by stating them in the present tense, as if we are already living them. Lastly, we examine our internal narratives and focus on the ways we have always been that kind of person, even if those qualities have been covered over. This three-step process can help us make genuine and lasting changes in our lives, rather than just trying to force new behaviors with self-criticism and self-recrimination. Remember, Rick's Foundations of Well-Being online program is an excellent resource for those looking to grow more of what they want in their mind and heart. Use the code "beingwell25" for a discount and consider applying for a scholarship if the cost is a concern. Thank you for listening to the Being Well Podcast in 2021, and we look forward to continuing the journey with you in 2022.

    Recent Episodes from Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

    Psychological Defenses: How to Understand (and change) Your Mind and Behavior

    Psychological Defenses: How to Understand (and change) Your Mind and Behavior
    Psychological defenses are subconscious strategies we use to protect ourselves from uncomfortable emotions, and they exert a hidden power over our behavior. From denial and repression to projection and rationalization, Dr. Rick and Forrest explore how these defenses shape our actions, influence our relationships, and affect our overall well-being. They start with the function and structure of most defenses, before giving a few simple examples. Rick then dives into the role of defenses in psychoanalytic theory, their role in managing self-worth and shame, and what we can do to become less defensive over time. They close with practical strategies for working with our defenses, including a brief discussion of what we can do to help other people with their defenses. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 2:30: Psychological and historical factors influencing psychological defensiveness 8:00: Some examples of unconscious anxiety bubbling up 12:00: Repression, regression, projection, reaction formation, and sublimation 16:55: An overview of Freud’s developmental model of the personality 24:10: A few examples of how our defenses manifest 33:40: Consciousness, competence, and joining the defense 44:00: Navigating shame and guilt 50:15: Distress tolerance 57:15: Social connection, and finding healthy outlets 1:00:20: When and how to approach others about their defensiveness 1:10:45: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. Zocdoc helps you find expert doctors and medical professionals that specialize in the care you need, and deliver the type of experience you want. Head to zocdoc.com/being and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    The Fawn Response: People Pleasing, Self-Abandonment, and Standing Up for Yourself

    The Fawn Response: People Pleasing, Self-Abandonment, and Standing Up for Yourself
    Dr. Rick and Forrest finish their series on the stress responses with the fawn response: an appeasement strategy where we manage stressful situations by giving others what they want. Rick and Forrest start by discussing common symptoms, including people pleasing, self-abandonment, difficulty saying no, weak boundaries, and chronic self-sacrifice. They talk about the roots of the fawn response and its connection to complex PTSD before exploring people pleasing in detail. In the second half of the episode they focus on practical tools for developing healthy boundaries, self-acceptance, and a stronger sense of self. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics:  0:00: Introduction 2:15: What the fawn response looks like 9:05: Power imbalances, shame, and contempt 11:35: What personal history tends to lead to fawning? 20:00: How to work on the tendency to fawn 36:30: Shame, self-acceptance, and opening up to self-expression 41:25: The fawn response in relationship 46:40: Becoming your own source of safety 52:20: Making equitable arrangements, and acknowledging your best efforts 1:01:50: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. Zocdoc helps you find expert doctors and medical professionals that specialize in the care you need, and deliver the type of experience you want. Head to zocdoc.com/being and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    How to Create a Secure Relationship with Elizabeth Ferreira

    How to Create a Secure Relationship with Elizabeth Ferreira
    Somatic trauma therapist Elizabeth Ferreira joins Forrest to explore how we can create more secure relationships. They talk about the lessons they've learned from their relationship, the impact of trauma and prior relationship wounds, and how very different people can make things work. Topics include complex PTSD, how to work through disagreements, changing our model of relationships, and learning how to actually support your partner. I loved this conversation, and hope you enjoy it! You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics:  0:00: Introduction 1:10: The myth of relationships solving your problems, and self-awareness 4:25: Me, you, and us 13:45: Changing your partner by changing yourself 16:45: Embracing the challenges of vulnerability 23:25: Disagreeing well, making specific requests, and holding space 33:05: Learning how to support your partner 37:40: Five different styles of relationship 40:55: Moving from trying to please your partner to showing compassion 45:15: Love as a choice, and expressing wants and needs positively 49:30: Simply liking your partner I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! If you’re navigating something messy, call The Dr. John Delony Show. Dr. John shares practical advice on how to connect with people, face depression, overcome anxiety, and learn what it means to be well. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    Becoming Self-Confident, Learning Healthy Relationship Skills, and Trusting Yourself: June Mailbag

    Becoming Self-Confident, Learning Healthy Relationship Skills, and Trusting Yourself: June Mailbag
    Dr. Rick and Forrest open up the mailbag and answer questions from listeners. They explore how to deal with chronically negative people, managing avoidant tendencies that get in the way of us finding a great relationship, and separating normal desires for support from more problematic ones. They then talk about how we can build self-confidence and become more internally referenced, before closing the episode with a sticky situation involving supporting an aging parent.  If you’d like to send in a question to be answered on the podcast, join our Patreon or email us at contact@beingwellpodcast.com. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics:  0:00: Introduction 1:00: My friend is chronically negative, what can I do? 13:05: How can I move past a cycle of avoidance that’s inhibiting my ability to find a good relationship? 26:05: I want to be supported by my partner, but I’m worried about becoming enmeshed. How can I seek help in a healthy way? 39:30: How do I stop seeking validation from others? 45:20: How do I react to ongoing criticism from an aging parent? 58:15: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! If you’re navigating something messy, call The Dr. John Delony Show. Dr. John shares practical advice on how to connect with people, face depression, overcome anxiety, and learn what it means to be well. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    The Psychology of Manifesting: How to Create the Life You Want

    The Psychology of Manifesting: How to Create the Life You Want
    Forrest and Dr. Rick explore “manifesting:” the idea that our thoughts impact the world around us, and by changing those thoughts we can change our lives. Talking about manifesting is complicated, because on the one hand our thoughts really do matter. On the other, manifesting is closely tied to a small mountain of problematic pseudoscience. They discuss and debate some of the issues with manifesting and the law of attraction before focusing on how to apply key psychological principles to create the life you want.  Rick and Forrest talk about creating clarity around our goals, setting intentions, improving self-worth and self-efficacy, and overcoming some of the negative unconscious beliefs that can get in our way, before exploring authenticity, consistent effort, and working with fear and inhibition. Then Rick closes the episode by walking us through a practical example of how to change a belief. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 3:00: Defining manifestation, and separating psychological and supernatural mechanisms of action 6:55: The mind-body connection, and the psychological aspects of manifesting 15:50: Charlatanism, preying on uncertainty, and the problems with the law of attraction 25:20: Changing behavior vs. changing thoughts, and the lure of the supernatural 32:10: If you want to skip the context, start here. 32:35: Getting what we subconsciously believe we are worthy of, and “don’t know” mind 38:50: Identifying wants, surrendering to the best within us, and using pain as a guide 48:55: Embracing the reality of consistent effort 54:55: How to change a negative belief 1:08:10: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! If you’re navigating something messy, call The Dr. John Delony Show. Dr. John shares practical advice on how to connect with people, face depression, overcome anxiety, and learn what it means to be well. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    Understanding the “Flight” Response: Anxiety, Avoidance, and Feeling Safe

    Understanding the “Flight” Response: Anxiety, Avoidance, and Feeling Safe
    Dr. Rick and Forrest discuss the “flight” response to stress, which includes feelings of anxiety and fear, avoidant behavior, and an underlying sense of insecurity. They explore the emotions and behaviors associated with the flight response, and how we can build up a stronger, more secure sense of who we are. Rick shares some practical tools that will help you change your self-concept, safely apply principles from graduated exposure, and feel safer from the inside-out. I’ve loved this series on the stress responses, and think you’ll get a lot out of this episode. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:00: The purpose of the flight response, and when it is and isn’t useful 5:35: Social withdrawal, conflict avoidance, and preserving safety vs. comfort 12:15: The trouble with low likelihood, high-cost risks 16:35: Exploring our capacity for stress, and identifying the risks worth taking 26:30: Feeling “sturdy,” and why we choose the flight response vs. other stress responses 33:30: Graduated exposure  39:05: Learning to trust our new capabilities as we change 44:50: Overdoing a change as a form of self-sabotage, and reserving the power to flee 54:25: Responding to anxiety 1:01:40: Being present with painful situations we can’t escape 1:08:40: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! If you’re navigating something messy, call The Dr. John Delony Show. Dr. John shares practical advice on how to connect with people, face depression, overcome anxiety, and learn what it means to be well. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    Managing The “Fight” Response: Anger, Repression, and Self-Regulation

    Managing The “Fight” Response: Anger, Repression, and Self-Regulation
    Dr. Rick and Forrest continue their series on the stress responses with the “fight” response to stress. They explore anger, repression, and the balance of self-expression and self-regulation before talking about how we can claim the adaptive aspects of the fight response without falling prey to its more problematic aspects. A major focus of the episode is resentment and repression, alongside related topics like empowering yourself, managing expectations, and “experiencing out.” You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:15: The useful aspects of anger 5:40: Specific behaviors associated with the fight response 8:35: Giving yourself permission to express anger 13:40: Navigating resentment 21:40: Thwarted expectations as a source of unhealthy anger 32:05: Claiming your anger, and being wary of its seductive nature 35:45: Developing an authentic sense of empowerment 39:45: Going from complaint to request 43:30: Antidotes to unhealthy anger 52:40: Challenging authority without feeling intimidated or shamed 54:20: When we’re angry at ourselves 59:00: Recap I am now writing on Substack, check out my work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! If you’re navigating something messy, call The Dr. John Delony Show. Dr. John shares practical advice on how to connect with people, face depression, overcome anxiety, and learn what it means to be well. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co. Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

    Everything You Need to Know About Therapy

    Everything You Need to Know About Therapy
    In this mega-episode, clinical psychologist Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest Hanson explore everything you need to know about therapy. They share how you can get more from therapy, finding the approach that’s right for you, and some perspectives on why therapy is so expensive. They then run through the five major schools of Western psychotherapy before discussing a few alternative modalities. You’ll learn how long to stick with a therapist before looking for alternatives, questions to ask a prospective therapist, and how to maximize your results. You can watch this episode on YouTube. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction 1:40: The biggest factors that contribute to therapy going well 7:25: Finding the therapeutic modality that works for you 14:00: The cost of therapy, and the problem created by insurance companies 20:35: The five major schools of western psychotherapy 21:20: Psychodynamic therapy, and investigating the unconscious 23:20: Behavioral therapy, and variable reinforcement 25:55: Humanistic psychology, and seeing the good in yourself 29:05: Cognitive therapy, why insurance companies like CBT, and exploring our beliefs 36:15: Mindfulness-based therapies, and being with our experiences 41:15: Family systems therapy, social justice, somatic therapy, and non-Western thinking 46:20: The differences (and similarities) between therapy and coaching 52:40: How long therapy should take, and how to evaluate if it’s working 1:02:15: The role of client motivation  1:04:55: Questions to ask a prospective therapist 1:10:15: The importance of the therapist’s engagement 1:12:50: Common qualities Rick found challenging with past clients 1:16:05: The importance of internalizing change, and recognizing what’s really shifting 1:21:20: Recap Forrest is now writing on Substack, check out his work there.  Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! If you’re navigating something messy, call The Dr. John Delony Show. Dr. John shares practical advice on how to connect with people, face depression, overcome anxiety, and learn what it means to be well. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.  Transform your health with the ZOE Science & Nutrition podcast. Find it wherever you listen to podcasts. OneSkin focuses on delivering more than superficial results for your skin. Get started today with 15% off using code BEINGWELL at oneskin.co.  Connect with the show: Subscribe on iTunes Follow Forrest on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow Forrest on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Visit Forrest's website

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