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    • Mental health, social connections, and financial well-beingCalifornia trains wellness coaches to improve youth mental health, social connections impact happiness, empathy expert shares insights, Apple Card boosts financial well-being, potential income from Airbnb

      Mental health is a significant issue for nearly half of California's youth, and the state is addressing this by training a new workforce of certified wellness coaches to help improve children and youth's mental health and well-being. Meanwhile, social connection plays a crucial role in our happiness. Despite being surrounded by people, many of us struggle to engage in meaningful social interactions. Professor Jamille Zaki, an expert on empathy and author of "The War For Kindness," shares valuable insights on how to build stronger social connections and improve our overall well-being. Apple Card, with its cashback rewards, can also contribute to our financial well-being. Lastly, if you're considering sharing your home as an Airbnb while you travel, it could potentially generate income. These are just a few of the topics discussed in this podcast episode, emphasizing the importance of mental health, social connections, and financial well-being.

    • Overcoming Fears of Loneliness and Connecting with OthersDon't let your mind deceive you into believing others are less friendly or more judgmental than they truly are. Take small steps to engage and gather data that challenges negative thoughts, leading to meaningful connections.

      While it's normal to feel lonely during this time of social distancing and adjusting to new environments, it's important not to let our imaginations create unnecessary fears that keep us from connecting with others. Our minds can deceive us into believing that others are more judgmental or less friendly than they truly are. By taking small steps to engage with others, we can gather valuable data that challenges these negative thoughts and leads to meaningful connections. Evanna's question about being happy alone during the pandemic touched on the fear of loneliness and the difficulty of making new friends. However, the speaker emphasized that loneliness is a common feeling and that taking small steps to connect with others can lead to unexpected positive experiences. The speaker also mentioned that our minds often lie to us about other people and that avoiding interactions due to imagined fears can prevent us from meeting friendly and potentially valuable new connections.

    • Fear of rejection in social situations is often overblownFocus on others' stories and experiences to build empathy and understanding, reducing fear of connecting

      Our fear of rejection and mean interactions in social situations is often exaggerated in our minds, much like the fear of shark attacks. According to social scientists, the likelihood of rejection or awkwardness when reaching out to others is actually quite low. Instead, these encounters often result in meaningful and deep connections. However, in today's socially fraught world, it can feel especially daunting to connect with people who hold different perspectives. To build healthy relationships across these differences, it's essential to focus on the stories and experiences of others, rather than their statistics or labels. By doing so, we can foster empathy and understanding, and overcome the fear that keeps us from connecting. As the podcast guest emphasized, taking that first step to reach out and connect can lead to surprising and rewarding outcomes.

    • Bridging the gap with individual storiesUnderstanding people's unique stories and perspectives can help build connections and find common ground, leading to personal growth and a more empathetic society

      While it's easy to label people on the other side of the political divide as extreme or evil, we often don't truly know who they are as individuals. This misunderstanding can stem from an overreliance on statistics and stereotypes. To bridge this gap, it's essential to make an effort to understand people's unique stories and perspectives. By showing genuine curiosity and actively listening to others, we can build connections and find common ground. This approach not only helps us connect with those on the other side of the political divide but also with people on our own side. By focusing on individual stories and experiences, we can discover unexpected points of connection and create meaningful relationships. This not only benefits our personal growth but also contributes to a more empathetic and understanding society.

    • Traveling in an Airbnb makes travelers feel at home and an opportunity to earn extra income by hostingTraveling in an Airbnb offers a homely feel and a chance to earn extra income by hosting. Empathy is crucial during tough times, but remember, we cannot control others' well-being.

      During travel, staying in an Airbnb makes the traveler feel more at home. However, the traveler also realized that their home could potentially be an Airbnb when they're not there. Therefore, hosting on Airbnb can be a great way to earn extra income. Additionally, supporting friends going through tough times during the pandemic can be challenging without compromising one's own happiness. Empathy is important, but it's crucial to remember that we cannot control others' well-being. The goal is to be attentive, supportive, and nonjudgmental, and our empathy has succeeded if we've done our best to show up for them. For more resources on self-compassion and empathy, check out Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer's work online.

    • Support doesn't always mean fixing problemsEmpathy and compassion make a difference by just being present and listening, while practicing self-care is essential for effective support

      Providing support to others doesn't always mean fixing their problems. Sometimes, all people really want is someone to listen and be there for them. It's essential to remember that empathy doesn't require us to carry the burden of solving others' issues. Instead, being present and compassionate can make a significant difference. Additionally, it's crucial to practice self-compassion and take care of ourselves when supporting someone going through a tough time. In work environments or situations where people's moods and goals differ from ours, focusing on our own happiness and well-being is essential. We can't control others' emotions, but we can control how we respond to them. Emphasizing the positive and practicing empathy and compassion can help us navigate such situations.

    • Understanding others' happiness goalsInstead of judging others based on appearance, try to understand their perspective and extend compassion to help overcome feelings of burnout and disconnection. Our interactions can create a virtuous cycle, leading to positive outcomes for all.

      People may come across as unhappy or disconnected, but it's essential to remember that they might still share the same happiness goals as us. Instead of judging others based on their outward appearance, try to understand what might be preventing them from feeling happy. Compassion and empathy can go a long way in helping others and ourselves overcome feelings of burnout, exhaustion, and disconnection. By expressing compassion towards others, we not only help them but also feel more connected and fulfilled ourselves. It's crucial to remember that our interactions with others can create a virtuous cycle, leading to positive outcomes for all involved. So, next time you encounter someone who seems unhappy or disconnected, try to understand their perspective and extend compassion towards them. You might be surprised by the positive impact it can have on both of you.

    • Helping Pessimists Shift Towards OptimismPractice gratitude, set achievable goals, reframe negative thoughts, and seek financial stability through Airbnb or employment assistance to help pessimists shift towards optimism.

      When dealing with individuals who exhibit extreme pessimism or negativity, it can be challenging but not impossible to help them shift their mindset towards optimism. The pandemic and various social issues have significantly impacted young people's mental health, highlighting the need for certified wellness coaches to provide support. Meanwhile, for adults, including Brandon's wife and children like Katie's, focusing on the positives can be difficult. However, techniques such as practicing gratitude, setting achievable goals, and reframing negative thoughts can help. Additionally, earning extra income by hosting through Airbnb or seeking employment assistance from Express Employment Professionals can bring positivity and financial stability. Remember, it's essential to approach these situations with patience, understanding, and empathy.

    • Focusing on good intentions and common groundDespite disagreements and negative feelings, most people have good intentions and want to make a positive impact. Finding common ground and learning from each other can help create happy teams and foster growth.

      It's natural to feel pessimistic given the state of the world, but it's important to remember that most people have good intentions and want to make a positive impact. This perspective can help us feel less alone and more motivated to work towards a better future. Additionally, when it comes to disagreements, it's essential to remember that everyone has unique experiences and perspectives. Rather than getting bogged down in disagreements, we can focus on finding common ground and learning from one another. In the workplace, creating happy teams requires effective communication and an understanding that disagreements are a natural part of the collaborative process. By approaching disagreements with an open mind and a willingness to listen and learn, we can turn potential sources of conflict into opportunities for growth and innovation.

    • Distinguishing Task and Relational ConflictTask conflict is about differing opinions on goals, relational conflict is about personal dislikes. Focus on common ground and intellectual humility to navigate disagreements effectively.

      When we encounter disagreements with others, it's essential to distinguish between task conflict and relational conflict. Task conflict refers to differing opinions on how to accomplish a goal, while relational conflict indicates a personal dislike for the other person. Being clear about the nature of the disagreement and focusing on common ground can help make discussions more productive and less threatening. Additionally, approaching disagreements with intellectual humility, recognizing that our opinions do not define our self-worth, can lead to growth and learning opportunities. By understanding and addressing these conflicts effectively, we can navigate disagreements more successfully and build stronger relationships.

    • Fostering social connection and productive disagreementBe open to challenging assumptions, engage in respectful dialogue, and build foundations of empathy, compassion, and mutual respect for productive disagreement.

      Fostering social connection and productive disagreement requires both intellectual and emotional bravery. This means being open to challenging our assumptions and being willing to engage in respectful, empathetic dialogue. However, to cultivate this bravery, we need to feel socially safe and supported. Empathy, compassion, and mutual respect are essential foundations for open-minded and productive disagreement. It's important to remember that being brave doesn't always mean doing something new; it can also mean revisiting old ways of connecting with others. By applying the science of social connection, we can become more resilient and better equipped to navigate the challenges of disagreement and reconnection in our personal and professional relationships.

    • Investing in Mental Health for Youth and California's New Wellness CoachesCalifornia's new wellness coaches support youth mental health, San Diego's climate and scenery boost mental health, Canva Presentations aid professionals in effective work presentations.

      Investing in mental health and wellness, especially for our youth, is crucial for overall happiness. California is leading the way with a new workforce of certified wellness coaches, who work directly with children and youth to build essential skills for improved mental health. Meanwhile, places like San Diego offer physical and mental health benefits through their sunny climate, welcoming people, and beautiful scenery. Furthermore, tools like Canva Presentations can help professionals excel in their work presentations with AI-powered assistance, allowing them to focus on their content without distraction. Overall, prioritizing mental health, seeking inspiration from places like San Diego, and utilizing innovative technology can significantly contribute to a happier, healthier, and more productive life.

    Recent Episodes from The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos

    Does the You of Today Hate the You of Tomorrow?

    Does the You of Today Hate the You of Tomorrow?

    We often do things now that will make our lives more difficult or stressful in the future. We spend money, when we should save. We eat junk food, when we should exercise. We agree to commitments, when we should protect our free time. We act so thoughtlessly that it's almost like we hate our future selves. 

    Dr Laurie asks UCLA's Hal Hershfield to help her find the happiness balance between listening to what she wants now, and the preferences she might have in the future. And she steps into an AI time machine to get some happiness advice for herself decades from today. 

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    The Power of Awe... and Where to Find it

    The Power of Awe... and Where to Find it

    Awe reduces stress, helps us forget our minor worries and makes us feel more connected to the people around us. We all need more awe in our lives - but surely it's not that easy to find awesome experiences on your average Tuesday?

    Actor Tony Hale explains how everyday awe helps ease his anxieties, while UC Berkeley's Dacher Keltner shows us how to find awe in music, art, scenery... even in a walk around our block. And Dr Laurie explores the things that give her a sense of awe with the help of Mike Menzel - who built a space telescope that lets us see billions of years into the past.  

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    How to Tame Stress

    How to Tame Stress

    Dr Laurie is stressed, and it's harming her health. Constant worry and stress is bad for our bodies and our minds, but how can we break the cycle and relax? It turns out scientists have learned a lot from one of America's most stressed-out communities - caregivers.  

    Hollywood star Steve Guttenberg talks about the toughest chapter of his life - caring for his dying dad - and Dr Elissa Epel explains why some caregivers suffer badly from stress, while others seem to find ways to live with the awful situation they find themselves in daily.  

    Further reading:

    Steve Guttenberg - Time to Thank: Caregiving for My Hero.

    Dr Elissa Epel - The Stress Prescription: Seven Days to More Joy and Ease

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    How I Stopped Fearing Boredom

    How I Stopped Fearing Boredom

    Dr Laurie HATES boredom! Since childhood she's found it so painful that she'll do anything to avoid being bored. She'll watch crappy TV. She'll find extra work to do. She'll snack. But boredom is actually an incredibly useful tool to boost our happiness and creativity.  

    With the help of leading boredom experts, Dr Laurie learns how to embrace doing nothing and finds that in the midst of tedium our brains can come up with the most amazing breakthrough ideas. 

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    How to Fight Perfectionism

    How to Fight Perfectionism

    Holding yourself to impossibly high standards is self-defeating and makes for a miserable life. Can Dr Laurie Santos find ways to tackle her constant perfectionism so she can perform better and have more fun? 

    She hears from researcher Thomas Curran about a worrying growth in perfectionism in society, and asks "recovering perfectionist" Jordana Confino how to tackle the nagging voice in your head telling you to always push yourself and work harder.  

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    My Personal Struggle to be Happy (Coming June 3)

    My Personal Struggle to be Happy (Coming June 3)

    Sometimes the happiness teacher flunks her own class. In a deeply personal new season, Dr Laurie Santos opens up about the things she really, really struggles with. Things like crippling perfectionism, chronic stress and a paralyzing fear of death. 

    With the help of world-class experts, a Hollywood star and a host of normal people who grapple with the same issues, Dr Laurie will face up to her own happiness demons and try to defeat them. 

    Coming June 3, wherever you get your podcasts. 

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    Happiness Through Generosity : Liz Dunn on The TED Interview

    Happiness Through Generosity : Liz Dunn on The TED Interview

    Liz Dunn is a regular guest on The Happiness Lab, but in this extended interview with TED's Chris Anderson she take us on a deep dive into her research. It shows that by increasing our generosity and by giving to others we can significantly boost our own happiness. 

    Listen to more episodes of The TED Interview wherever you get your podcasts.  

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    Unlock Your Hidden Potential with Adam Grant and Maya Shankar

    Unlock Your Hidden Potential with Adam Grant and Maya Shankar

    A chance to hear a recent episode of A Slight Change of Plans in which Maya Shankar asks psychologist Adam Grant about his new book "Hidden Potential: The Science of Achieving Greater Things". They talk about how to filter out unhelpful feedback, the benefits of imperfectionism, and why we need to give soft skills more respect. 

    Listen to more episodes of A Slight Change of Plans  wherever you get your podcasts. 

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    Five Tips to be Happier at Work (Dr Laurie at SXSW)

    Five Tips to be Happier at Work (Dr Laurie at SXSW)

    Work is a worry. Are we paid enough? Should we be getting promoted quicker? Is artificial intelligence about to replace us all? 

    Speaking at SXSW 2024, Dr Laurie Santos argues that because of all our career woes we often neglect our happiness. She walks through her top five tips for improving our workplace wellbeing - which will not only make us feel better, but might even cause our salaries to rise!  

    Suggested reading from this episode:

    Radical Compassion: Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of RAIN by Tara Brach

    Slow Productivity: The Lost Art of Accomplishment Without Burnout by Cal Newport

    Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff

    The Truth About Burnout: How Organizations Cause Personal Stress and What to Do About It by Christina Maslach

    The Business of Friendship by Shasta Nelson

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    Tame Those Devices: 10 Tips to Achieve Digital Balance

    Tame Those Devices: 10 Tips to Achieve Digital Balance

    Technology is amazing! We can make video calls, find facts in an instant and watch movies on our phones. We take all this for granted, but have we let our screens and devices take over too much of our lives? 

    To mark Digital Wellness Day on May 3, we hear from Amy Blankson (author and "chief evangelist" at the Digital Wellness Institute) about her ten tips to tame our devices at home and in the workplace. 

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    For an even deeper dive into the research we talk about in the show visit happinesslab.fm

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    Happiness Lessons of The Ancients: Forgiveness

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    Miroslav’s brother was killed in a childhood accident, and the Volf family’s journey through misery and hatred finally ended in a powerful act of forgiveness inspired by Christian teachings. He tells Dr Laurie Santos how seeking to "unglue" the deed from the doer is a gift we can give others and ourselves.

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    Psychopaths and Superheroes

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    For an even deeper dive into the research we talk about in the show visit happinesslab.fm

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    551: How to Live a Happy Life with Dr. Marc Schulz

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    In 1938 the Harvard Study of Adult Development began. It followed the lives of 268 Harvard students and 456 inner city kids in Boston, and remains the largest, longest study of its kind, gathering data on physical health, mental health, personality, and social connections. The study's findings have served as the basis for an impressive body of work on lifestyle fulfillment and happiness, and my guest on this week’s podcast has co-authored a book highlighting his learnings.

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    • Why social fitness should be given the same priority as physical fitness
    • How war, hardship and adversity can provide a sense of community that leads toward happiness and contentment
    • Why 20 to 40 percent of the population admit to feeling isolated and lonely
    • Creative strategies to build connections at any age 

    Links

    Marc’s Site

    ABOUT OUR GUEST

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