emotional needs

Host's Note - If you prefer to watch this interview, check out the YouTube video.

This episode features our guest, Dr. Ardeshir Mehran, who is far from your “typical” psychologist, with more than 30 years expertise, here to talk about his ground-breaking theory: “You are not depressed; you are unfinished.”

TOPICS:
- Their journey - childhood trauma, emotional and physical abuse, staying curious, mystified by high performers, felt like he gave up, then he started to pay attention
- Watching how people tell stories with their bodies
- Somatic changes to those who have been traumatized and how to reconnect to your body and listen to the body's story
- Disconnection from emotions, grieving, loss
- People feel broken or that something is missing
- The seven emotional needs that he says we all have
- "The emotional Bill of Rights"
- Share what you believe in and tell your story
- Trauma survivors minimize your needs
- Trying to close trauma response loops
- Trauma robs us of boundaries
- Why depression are parts of you that are looking for change
- The need to have your energy channelled and to stay learning

GUEST RESOURCE RECOMMENDATIONS:
1. Peter Levine  - father of Somatic Experiencing
2. Gabor Mate  - understanding trauma & the body
3. The Book “Lost Connections” by Johann Hari

FOR MORE INFO ABOUT OUR GUEST:
1.  Website
2. LinkedIn
3. His Book: You Are Not Depressed. You Are Un-Finished.: Use Feelings of Depression and Anxiety to Fuel a Soaring Life

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Trauma Survivorhood is hosted by Sara Miley, CTRC-A, IFS - an IFS-informed certified trauma recovery coach with her own private practice called Full Circle Wellspring LLC. For one-to-one coaching, IFS guidance, classes, and more - visit: www.fullcirclewellspring.com

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Are you struggling with your mental health? Are you feeling misunderstood or disconnected in your life? 

Meet Noel Koons, Counselor, MS, CMHC

Noel is an experienced and empathetic Clinical Mental Health Counselor. He has worked doing one-on-one therapy, couples counseling, as well as working with struggling adolescents and families in wilderness therapy, therapeutic boarding school, and residential treatment settings.

He has a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology and a Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling. Noel loves working with adults, teens, and families. Inspiring effort and transformations are what continually draw me to this work. He is passionate about assisting people in their healing and growth.

Noel brings a curious, non-judgmental approach to his work while utilizing: mindfulness, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, 7 Challenges, Positive Psychology, CBT (Cognitive Behavior Therapy), Internal Family Systems, and Attachment Theory.

Dive into the world of psychological needs with Noel Koons, founder of Volition Counseling. He shares his expertise on mental health, discussing the six essential psychological needs that are foundational to our well-being. Whether it's navigating the complexities of adolescence or the intricacies of adult relationships, Noel's insights offer a roadmap to personal fulfillment and improved communication.

From the challenges of COVID-19 to the nuances of couple's therapy, this episode is an invaluable resource for anyone seeking to understand themselves and others on a deeper level.

📋 Episode Chapters

(00:00) This podcast focuses on improving your communication skills both professionally and personally
(00:58) Noel Clunes is the founder of Volition Counseling
(07:08) Parents may be concerned about their teenagers, how they're doing
(08:20) Avoidance is an adaptation, so it's not necessarily bad
(15:10) On your website, you write about emotional and psychological needs
(16:36) Psychological needs are foundational piece for effective communication, right
(24:51) Roberta: Acceptance of the other requires a lack of judgment
(31:54) How do couples cope if one or both are struggling with internal psychological needs
(35:28) Let's talk about how you communicate to your spouse
(39:01) Are my psychological needs being met well? Are they being

Connect with Noel:
Website: https://volitioncounseling.com
Email: Noel@VolitionCounseling.com

Listen to the Podcast, subscribe, leave a rating and a review:
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YouTube: https://youtu.be/P75DBibLwQo

One of the things I have been navigating lately is the difference between wants and needs, and what I am allowed to ask for in my life and in relationship, versus what I should be giving myself. Listen to this latest episode of The Living Through Heart podcast for my current take on all of this. 

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We go to school and learn things like how to add up, ancient history, and geography. And yet we are never taught just how to BE. We are asked the question, 'What do you want to be when you grow up?' but are never asked, 'Who are you now? What do you want? What is important to you? What does living in your authentic truth look like for you?'

Is it any wonder that we end up in a relationship that ultimately doesn't serve us, when we have no idea of what we truly want, or who we truly are? In this week's episode, I talk about compatibility within a relationship, how to work out what you want, what you need, and how to know when it's game over.

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Where can our personal desires naturally and spontaneously be met with receptivity and grace by the social ecosystems of our lives? Where is more work needed to prime these ecosystems for deeper receptivity? Where will we be met with resistance and where might we perceive or receive others’ disdain? What's our relationship with that external and internal tension?

In this offering, I'm sharing my personal notes and contemplations about the week ahead. Combining astrology, tarot, the Akashic & Cosmic Body perspectives, and guidance from my sacred ancestors, healing guides and my own spirit, I hope these messages will serve you as you walk your path.

While this contemplation was inspired by the energy and the astrology of the week of 07.17.23, I also offer the possibility that the message here is relevant for you - even if you found the episode sometime in the future. 

This week, the lunar nodes shift into Aries-Libra after having spent the last couple years (give and take) in Taurus-Scorpio. We have the New Moon in Cancer, the Sun will enter Leo, and Venus will begin its retrograde period in Leo. 

If you enjoyed this podcast, consider booking a reading with me. I offer astrology, divination, and subtle alchemy sessions.

Listen to & purchase my new song Friends on Bandcamp. You can also listen to it on your favorite streaming platforms.

Try the incredible breathwork and meditation app Open for 30 days free using this special link. 

This podcast is hosted, produced, and edited by Jonathan Koe. Theme music is also composed by me! Connect with me through my newsletter, my Instagram @jonathankoeofficial, and my music. For podcast-related inquiries, email me at healingthespiritpodcast@gmail.com.

Dr. John Gottman did a lot of research to determine some of the ways we can damage our relationships by making withdrawals. The four of us talk about how subtle it can be to make a withdrawal and what it takes to make up for a withdrawal. We also talk about examples in our own marriages of what affect these withdrawals can have. Check out Dr. Gottman's research and tools on his website. https://www.gottman.com

Marriage Unfiltered is an independent podcast hosted by The Carters and the Fields. This podcast is not affiliated with Stonegate Fellowship in Midland, TX

Top 10 most common emotional needs:

Admiration

___Affection

___Domestic Support

___Family Commitment

___Financial Support

___Honesty and Openness

___Intimate Conversation

___Physical Attentiveness

___Physical Intimacy

___Recreational Companionship

You can go to this link to complete an assessment. EMOTIONAL NEEDS ASSESSMENT WARNING:  Do not use the assessment as a weapon. Use it to have honest communication about your needs.

John Gottman Love Bank Video 

Marriage Unfiltered is an independent podcast hosted by The Carters and the Fields. This podcast is not affiliated with Stonegate Fellowship in Midland, TX

096  In the world of relationship improvement, “needs” gets used a whole lot! If you are using it in your own mind or saying it to your partner a lot, it makes sense...you were taught to.

But often when we say needs what we are really talking about is a want. We get these two terms mixed up–and it’s not good for our own emotional well-being, or our marriage, leading to all sorts of power struggles, feelings of resentment, disappointment, and helplessness to make things good between you.

 In fact, having confusion about the difference–and where our needs and wants get met– can be the downfall of many relationships that would otherwise thrive. 

So today we are going to bust some of this confusion apart and get you some real clarity about the difference between wants and needs in your marriage. 

We will also dive into where your true power is to get your emotional needs met–and some of the specific differences you might,  as a highly sensitive women,  have to address  around this–so you can have agency over your experience in your relationship–and a better marriage for the rest of your life!

What I share today may challenge what you’ve been taught and believed up until now, but it will change everything in your marriage for the better. 

If you want a light, loving, connected marriage, where you actually enjoy your partner and feel consistently secure and fulfilled , then this is essential listening for you. 

Dig in.

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This week we talk about who's responsibility is it to meet our emotional needs? Also, is it our job to make sure our wive's emotional needs are met? We get into being aware of your emotions and how that can play out.

We hope you enjoy!

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Let us know if you would like to be a guest on the show or share topic ideas

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Hey lovelies, in this episode we chat about communication, needs and asking for what you want. We also chat about how not everyone can meet those needs and emotional capacity. 

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Truth & Transformation is an unpolished raw podcast about unearthing the crap that holds us back. Aimed at women who want it all and wanna feel damn good about themselves. We will talk openly about struggles, the highs and lows of life, sex, family, relationships, emotions, healing, mindset, dreams, spirituality, vulnerability, money, bisexuality and so much more - in fact, nothing is really off the table. If it's holding you back from the life you want we will talk about it. If you wanna feel damn good we need to talk about the real stuff so that's what we are doing here. I believe when we love ourselves our life really transforms in the most beautiful ways and when we don't love ourselves we don't feel enough or fulfilled. This is a podcast to bridge the gap. It's a podcast about feeling good about yourself, living life in your truth, on your terms.

Today’s episode dives deep into some things we really struggle with as moms. We talk about how we wrap our identity in what we do instead of who we are. We talk about meeting the needs of everyone else instead of our own emotional needs. And we talk about how the stories we tell ourselves create our reality, real or not. 

Our guest today, Kim Keane, is a certified life coach, podcaster, speaker, and the founder of Girl Talk, a program for elementary and middle school girls focusing on empowerment and leadership skills.

Kim is a knowledgeable resource for moms since she understands firsthand the struggles and challenges that moms face as she has navigated them as a working mom and a stay-at-home-mom. She wants moms to know they are not alone, they are powerful beyond measure, and they are worthy. 

For the show notes and all the links mentioned in today’s episode, head to secretsofsupermom.com/59.

Stay connected!

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It’s Valentines Day – a day when many of us go out of our way to say “I love you” to those who are special to us. Parents, do you know that expressing love and paying attention to your children and teens actually helps them when it comes to their own sexuality? Research has shown that teens will often use sex as a means to express and satisfy emotional and interpersonal needs that have little or nothing to do with sex. Sexual activity becomes a coping mechanism to deal with the absence of love and affection at home. One recent study of ninth graders sought to discover why young teens want or would want to engage in sexual intercourse. Intimacy was the number one reason given, with respondents understanding intimacy as something that would make them “feel close” or “feel loved.” Our kids learn about what it means to love by watching their parents love each other. And, we need to shower our kids with the kind of grace-filled love and commitment shown to us by Jesus Christ.

Statistics are staggering. What are the solutions?

In this podcast, I address your DNA - your genetic identity - and the bigger concepts that play into decisions for any kind of plastic surgery, minimal procedure, or reconstruction.

What's real? What's perception? And how do you come to a solution for body image and any kind of procedure?

Listen now for my questions to ponder as well as solutions to overall health of your body and your mind!

IDENTITY.

BACKSTORY.
CHANGE THE STORY.
FOR HIS GLORY.

In this  episode of Heart's Happiness Podcast you will learn:

1. Why diets are a bad idea!
2. Where our food behaviours come from
3. How we can change our relationship with food
4. The benefits of coaching to change food behaviour
5. Manpreet's experience of neet nutrition coaching
6. More about intuitive eating
7. Benefits of movement instead of a hard exercise regime 
8. Book recommendations
9. Trauma in our gut

The books recommended in the episode are:

• Atomic Habits by James Clear
• What are you hungry for by Deepak Chopra
• The Hungry Brain

To work with Ravneet Panesar here is her website and you can follow her on instagram.

If you would like to find out more about products and services from 2021 then please check out the website for more information or email manpreet@heartshappiness.co.uk to arrange a FREE 30 minute discovery call. In January 2021 only group coaching is £197 starting mid February this is only for January only and then it will got up to £297. Here is a link to the free event on 17th January 2021 to help you find the REAL YOU beneath the intergenerational trauma. 

I have other book recommendations to kick off your healing in my FREE guide to transform your journey. 

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Everyone deserves to find their own Heart's Happiness and this podcast has been created with so much love from my heart to yours. 

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We're told failure is a positive thing. 
But if you're like me and you've been rewarded for achievement through life, there's a pretty potent fear of failure.

Being told that failure is important doesn't help to diminish that fear a whole lot. There is a way out however, through these five simple questions I outline in this Habit Stacker episode.

https://www.thewholelifesuccess.com

There’s nothing more frustrating than when you set your mind to doing something and then you go about doing the complete opposite.

In that very moment we begin the slippery slope downward into self-criticism, self-doubt 
and a very dangerous discipline of letting self down.

In this episode, we take a deeper look at a little but powerful something that sits beneath
your goal and does a mighty fine job of driving you toward self-sabotage.

https://www.thewholelifesuccess.com

Live into your ambitions with greater joy, vibrancy and meaning.
In this Habit Stacker episode, I give you a simple example of habit change success in action.

It's quick, simple and shows you exactly what you can do in your own life to finally achieve what you seek to achieve. 

https://www.thewholelifesuccess.com