#overthinker

Responding When Someone Has Been Hurtful

Managing anger, hurt, and frustration when someone has communicated unkindly can be hard for the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Do you say something? Do you suck it up because it can be dysregulating having a difficult conversation? Many HSPs tell me that they don’t know what to say in these situations. I went into a fawn response. Many of you have been gaslit and told that you’re making a big deal. This can make it hard to trust that your feelings are valid and that you have a right to voice your truth.

GUEST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

GUEST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT HUSBANDS ARE KEY TO A LASTING MARRIAGE

Jen’s Links

Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia’s Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6

Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4

To write a review in itunes:

1. click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2
2. select “listen on Apple Podcasts”
3. chose “open in itunes”
4. choose “ratings and reviews”
5. click to rate the number of starts
6. click “write a review”

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast

e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

 

Unrealistic Expectations

Do you have unrealistic expectations of yourself, followed by self-judgment, criticism and berating yourself? How do you honor where you’re at and find the balance between honoring and pushing? Much of the healing you do is in relationship with others. There may also be an expectation that you will “arrive” at a permanent state of healing or peace, and then you judge yourself when you drop back into the struggle. Specific tools are provided for when you’re back in the “meh.”

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

HIGHLIGHTS

• TOOLS:
  • This is phasic not basic
  • You will have peaks and valleys
  • It’s ok to rest
  • It’s ok to be tired
  • Can you find a book or magazine to read?
  • Can you walk barefoot?
  • Can you find something soothing to watch?
  • Can you reach out for support?
  • Do you need to lovingly move your body?
  • Can you spend time with a pet?
  • Can you spend time outdoors or in nature?
  • Found some great things on Netflix to watch
  • You haven’t “lost” anything
  • Can you find self-compassion?

LINKS

Patricia’s Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6

Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4

To write a review in itunes:

1. click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2
2. select “listen on Apple Podcasts”
3. chose “open in itunes”
4. choose “ratings and reviews”
5. click to rate the number of starts
6. click “write a review”

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast

e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

 

Adjusting to Unexpected Bumps

Do you expect that you will handle things with grace and ease, and you get angry at yourself (or others) when you don’t? What if being out of balance was to be expected? Jen and I talk about looking at the larger context when we don’t respond the way we’d like.  We talk about what may help you respond vs. react. We talk about the use of compassion, humility, and transparency when you are struggling. I talk about a series of events that happened before we recorded, and my response.

GUEST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

GUEST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Jen’s Links

Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia’s Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6

Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4

To write a review in itunes:

1. click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2
2. select “listen on Apple Podcasts”
3. chose “open in itunes”
4. choose “ratings and reviews”
5. click to rate the number of starts
6. click “write a review”

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast

e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

 

Managing Emotional Dysregulation Part 2

I share 5 things that happened in a few days that contributed to me being very dysregulated. My wounded parts were showing up in full force.  I share come of the common wounds that come up for people (hopelessness, feeling like you can’t count on others; no one cares, etc.), as well as a long list of tools you can use when you’re feeling out of balance. It’s ok to struggle, and not handle things as well as you’d like.  I talk about when to know if you need additional support, and acknowledging what IS going well.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

HIGHLIGHTS

• Why is this happening FOR me vs. Why is this happening TO me?
• Anxiety was dread of my own daring
• Is it safe to be me? Will I be rejected?

Tools to use when you’re feeling dysregulated:

• Simplify things
• Nap
• Find what is soothing and restorative
• Watch familiar shows—it gives your brain a chance to relax
• Go barefoot
• Be in water
  • Pool, beach, lake, sprinkler, water balloons, bath, squirt guns, spray bottle
• Find meditative activities
  • Chopping, sorting, cleaning, gardening, music
• Reading
• Gentle movement
• Talk with a friend
• Journal
• Cuddle with pets
• Cat café
• Dog park
• Cry
• Don’t’ do new things, or go to new places—try and calm your nervous system
• Cozy clothes that make you feel comfortable and happy
• Favorite scents
• Comfort foods
• Apply lotion
• Legs up the wall
• Self-compassion
• Put your hand on your heart
• Hold the wounded part
• Howl
• Shake
• Emotions are meant to move
• Light a candle
• Set an intention
• Know that you’re having growing pains

Wounds/beliefs that may come up

• This has always been this way and it’s never going to change
• Feeling overwhelmed
• Feeling hopeless
• No one understand me; no one “gets” me
• I can’t count on anyone
• I’m alone in this
• This always happens to me
• I’m too much; I need to much
• Wounds spill out
• Get energized and you’re busy and productive, maybe overfunctioning
• Dorsal—collapse, helpless, fatigue
• Feel unlovable
• Feel unwanted

LINKS

Patricia’s Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6

Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4

To write a review in itunes:

1. click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2
2. select “listen on Apple Podcasts”
3. chose “open in itunes”
4. choose “ratings and reviews”
5. click to rate the number of starts
6. click “write a review”

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast

e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

 

Managing Emotional and Physical Dysregulation

Jen and I both got triggered, and Jen talks about what it felt like physically to be dysregulated.  She talks about the wound of “Is it safe to be me? Will I be rejected?” and how she worked with those parts.  Jen shares 13 things she did to be present for herself and help calm her nervous system. Jen also has a beautiful reframe of “Why is this happening FOR me?” instead of “Why is this happening TO me?” Great episode for when you feel like you’re too much, too needy and you’re struggling.

GUEST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

GUEST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

HIGHLIGHTS

• Why is this happening FOR me vs. Why is this happening TO me?
• Anxiety was dread of my own daring
• Is it safe to be me? Will I be rejected?

Tools to use when you’re feeling dysregulated:

• Legs up the wall
• Self-compassion
• Put your hand on your heart
• Hold the wounded part
• Howl
• Shake
• Cry
• Emotions are meant to move
• Light a candle
• Pet an animal
• Set an intention
• Know that you’re having growing pains

LINKS

Jen’s Links

Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia’s Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6

Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4

To write a review in itunes:

1. click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2
2. select “listen on Apple Podcasts”
3. chose “open in itunes”
4. choose “ratings and reviews”
5. click to rate the number of starts
6. click “write a review”

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast

e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

 

Many people are feeling tired these days! In spite of the mess in the world, Jen and I talk about ways to find joy, pleasure, connection, AND honor the big feels.  We provide resources for activism, support and validation as well as things you can do to help self-regulate.

GUEST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

GUEST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Jen’s links

Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com

Phone: 215-292-5056

Website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Facebook.com/Heartfulnessconsulting

Burnout by Emily Nagoski

Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the unexpected Solutions by Johann Hari 

Patricia’s Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Unapologetically Sensitive Merchandise-- https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/merchandise/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6

Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4

To write a review in itunes:

1. click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2
2. select “listen on Apple Podcasts”
3. chose “open in itunes”
4. choose “ratings and reviews”
5. click to rate the number of starts
6. click “write a review”

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast

e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Do you get nervous before you travel (especially if it’s to a new place, or a foreign country)? I’m paddling for 14 days in Baja, and I’m nervous. How can you feel the fear or anxiety, AND walk through the discomfort to gather information so you can live a more expansive life? I talk about learning to roll in my kayak, and the fears that are coming up for me, AND the exhilaration of being able to do things that scare me.  I vacillate between excitement and feeling scared; I talk about how to navigate this.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6

Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4

To write a review in itunes:

1. click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2
2. select “listen on Apple Podcasts”
3. chose “open in itunes”
4. choose “ratings and reviews”
5. click to rate the number of starts
6. click “write a review”

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast

e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com