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Join Justin and his oldest daughter Keziah in their preparation to speak a seminar to parents on communicating with their high school teens.

We have another special guest on today's episode of The Debrief Podcast with Matt Brown, Madison Moses (aka Madi Brown, Pastor Matt's daughter)!

This is a special Father's Day episode where Pastor Matt and Madi talk about what it was like growing up as a pastor's kid, tips and advice PMB has for other parents, and how to manage relationships with your adult children!

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Listen to today's episode,  "6-Steps for Parenting with More Joy & Less Yelling with Susan Morley" as Parenting Coach, Susan Morley joins Dori Durbin. Susan shares:

• Susan's Career "Why"
• Busy Lives, Shorter Patience, More Clients 
• The Six-Step Plan
• The Vision & Mission Statement 
• Parenting Seasons
• Running From Responsibility
• Meeting Kids' Needs
• Steps 4-6
• Common "Problem" Themes By Age
• Family Happiness
• How to Reach Susan
• Piece of Parental Advice

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More about Susan:
Susan Morley is a Certified Elementary Educator and Parenting Coach with over 10 years experience helping moms end constant power struggles with their children, get on the same page as their parenting partners, and start having more fun with their families.
As a mom of two young adult women, one of whom was “spirited” from the moment she took her first breath, Susan created a Six Step system to help parents of spirited children set healthy limits and boundaries so they can feel confident that they are raising successful and happy adults.
It is Susan’s passion to help create new, deeper connections as they create a family legacy of love and success for generations to come.
When not on Zoom or on the phone with clients, Susan enjoys her new phase of parenting, “empty nester” and can be found on tennis courts around Atlanta or spending time with her husband Dean in the North Georgia mountains.

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More about Dori Durbin:
Dori Durbin is a Christian wife, mom, author, illustrator, and a kids’ book coach who after experiencing a life-changing illness, quickly switched gears to follow her dream. She creates kids’ books to provide a fun and safe passageway for kids and parents to dig deeper and experience empowered lives. Dori also coaches non-fiction authors and aspiring authors to “kid-size” their content into informational and engaging kids’ books!
 
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In todays' therapy session...Griffo tells Heidi that the worry of finances is taking up all of his brain space and this is WHY he isn't emotionally available and present.

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Is parenting hard for you? Are you concerned about the upcoming generation? The Bible has some takes on parenting and how to see parenting as part of a community experience that will bless you!

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Just how prevalent is self-injury among children under age 12?  Do the types and methods they use differ from those who self-injure at other ages? What about the reasons they give for self-injuring? In this episode, Dr. Imke Baetens and PhD candidate Lisa Van Hove from Vrije Universiteit Brussel (Brussels University) discuss the prevalence of self-injury and self-harm among children under age 12 and how parents can talk to their young children about the behavior. 

To learn more about the International Consortium on Self-Injury in Educational Settings (ICSES), visit www.icsesgroup.org. Learn more about Dr. Baetens at www.brucc.be/en/imke-baetens. To see her publications, click here, and to learn more about her work at the Brussels University Consultation Center (BUCC), visit www.brucc.be/en. Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn here. Below are some of their research referenced in this episode: 

1. Baetens, I., Decruy, C., Vatandoost, S., Vanderhaegen, B., & Kiekens, G. (2020). School-based prevention targeting non-suicidal self-injury: A pilot study. Frontiers in Psychiatry, 11, 437.
2. Van Hove, L., Baetens, I., Simundic, A., Bloom, E., & Heath, N. (in press). NSSI in elementary school children. In E. E. Lloyd-Richardson, I. Baetens & J. Whitlock (Eds.), The Oxford Handbook of Nonsuicidal Self-Injury. Oxford University Press.

Follow Dr. Westers on Instagram and Twitter (@DocWesters). To join ISSS, visit itriples.org and follow ISSS on Facebook and Twitter (@ITripleS).

The Psychology of Self-Injury podcast has been rated #5 by Feedspot in their "Best 20 Clinical Psychology Podcasts" and by Welp Magazine in their "20 Best Injury Podcasts."

In this week's episode we talk about why more adults are choosing to be childfree. We also announce episode 100, Barlo, and discuss why the dentist is a bully.

Adults are choosing to be childfree

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Tanya Valentine felt stuck within a false dream of domestication of apartheid South Africa. Her spirit called her to awakening through a series of challenges that she calls her life apprenticeship.

Today Tanya is a teacher and has  authored two books, including When She Wakes, She Will Move Mountains. Tanya uses Archetype work, Storytelling, NLP, REBT, Havening and her AWAKE mentoring framework to support women to claim their crown as the Queen of their own lives!

For over a decade Tanya has worked with women to understand, love and heal the relationship that they have with themselves.

Tanya Valentin is  a voice for Awakening, and this is her story.

[1:40] Domestication and awakening
[7:12]  Shadow and gift sides  of the genes
[9:15] Decisions that created patterns
[12:48] From passing fear and limitations to setting an example
[15:05] I worry vs I believe
[17:11] A near-death experience of a child and writing a book
[21:15] When She Wakes, She Will Move Mountains
[24:47] Message to the past self
[26:27] Message from the future self

Find out more about Tanya Valentin
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We know that being a parent is a full time job, and we also know that every parent deserves good care. In our world, where every minute counts, we created special Mini-Meds™ - 3 minute long meditations that will invite inner peace, understanding and prosperity into your life. Empower yourself with Mini-Meds™ (included in Empower-mE app subscription)

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Kelly Bermingham is a mom, entrepreneur and founder of The Motherhood Mentorship Program and The Stressed Mom's System for Creating More Joy.

Kelly got tired of pretending enough trying to fit into the societal mold of expectations. She chose to listen to and to follow her inner knowing of what it truly meant to be a woman and a mother.

Now Kelly is on a mission to help busy working moms create simple systems so they can stress less and enjoy the journey more. She helps women step into their own beauty and shine as their authentic selves. 

Kelly Bermingham is a voice for living as your authentic self and this is her story.

[4:44] Inner calling to nurture through kindness
[7:27] Pretending and trying to fit the mold
[9:11] Lying or Growing?
[14:39] About stress and creating community for mothers
[20:05] "Stressed out mom to creative joy" program
[23:01] Saying yes to so many things
[27:23] Message to the past self
[28:50] Message from the future self

Find out more about Kelly Bermingham
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We know that being a parent is a full time job, but we also know that every parent deserves a good care. In our world, where every minute counts, we created special Mini-Meds™ - 3 minute long meditations that will invite inner peace, understanding and prosperity into your life. Empower yourself with Mini-Meds™ (included in Empower-mE app subscription)

Unplug from draining feelings of overwhelm, anxiety, stress, confusion, loneliness, and lack and plug into empowering feelings and practices of support, peace, calmness, clarity, belonging, and prosperity with Empower-mE app.

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Create your reality with Manifest mE journal . Learn and lean into the Universal laws of manifesting that bridge your dreams with your reality.

Learn about forgiveness and conscious living with our Quantum Freedom group

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Rahima Khoja is a mom, an international speaker, an educator, and Founder and Director of Invincible Kids. 

She passionately informs, ignites, and inspires the kids to choose better thinking thoughts. Rahima Khoja is a voice for the Invincible Child, and this is her story.

[1:05] Who is an invincible kid?
[4:15] Power shifts and empowerment of a child
[10:53] Child's inner voice formation
[16:24] From enabling to empowering
[22:32] About self-talk
[26:58] Complimentary consultation
[28:39] Message to the past self
[29:58] Message from the future self

Learn more about Invincible Kids program and Rahima Khoja
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We know that being a parent is a full time job, but we also know that every parent deserves a good care. In our world, where every minute counts, we created special Mini-Meds™ - 3 minute long meditations that will invite inner peace, understanding and prosperity into your life. Empower yourself with Mini-Meds™ (included in Empower-mE app subscription)

Unplug from draining feelings of overwhelm, anxiety, stress, confusion, loneliness, and lack and plug into empowering feelings and practices of support, peace, calmness, clarity, belonging, and prosperity with Empower-mE app.

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Move away from fear to love with our 5 minute free meditation FROM SCARED TO SACRED Get it here yu2shine.com

Create your reality with Manifest mE journal . Learn and lean into the Universal laws of manifesting that bridge your dreams with your reality.

Learn about forgiveness and conscious living with our Quantum Freedom group

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Robert Saul MD, pediatrician, medical geneticist, educator, administrator and author deeply cares for all children. With over 44 years of medical practice Robert Saul MD has developed a keen awareness about parenting skills: how to raise children to be good citizens and how to improve our communities. 

His advocacy for children  has led him to write the books for parents that provide a multi-dimensional approach to parenting in a refreshingly new way.

Robert Saul MD is a voice for conscious parenting and radical empathy , and this is his story.

[3:32] Five steps to becoming the best parent you can be
[8:00] Forgiveness and parenting
[11:22] Radical empathy and compassion
[14:12] Conscious parenting
[22:22] Prescription for good citizenship
[25:52] Advocating for children
[27:34] A list of books about children for parents
[29:33] Message to the past self
[32:13] Message from the future self

Learn more about Robert Saul MD
https://mychildrenschildren.com/dr-robert-saul/

Read Robert Saul MD books
https://mychildrenschildren.com/book-author/robert-a-saul-md/

Blog  https://mychildrenschildren.com/readings/

We know that being a parent is a full time job, but we also know that every parent deserves a good care. In our world, where every minute counts, we created special Mini-Meds™ - 3 minute long meditations that will invite inner peace, understanding and prosperity into your life. Empower yourself with Mini-Meds™ (included in Empower-mE app subscription)

Unplug from draining feelings of overwhelm, anxiety, stress, confusion, loneliness, and lack and plug into empowering feelings and practices of support, peace, calmness, clarity, belonging, and prosperity with Empower-mE app.

Get Empower-mE on AppStore
Get Empower-mE on Google Play

Move away from fear to love with our 5 minute free meditation FROM SCARED TO SACRED Get it here yu2shine.com

Create your reality with Manifest mE journal . Learn and lean into the Universal laws of manifesting that bridge your dreams with your reality.

Learn about forgiveness and conscious living with our Quantum Freedom group

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Ineffective communication in all humans, will affect how we behave. Children who cannot communicate, do not have the life experience to handle their feelings and situations and that presents in their behavior. Ashley Scott, SLP-BCBA, shares in this episode the ongoing and intentional processes of building expressive language in children.

There is a difference between having vocabulary and functional language skills. A child may be able to count, say their ABCs, or identify color, but they may not be able to communicate. So they may know the color orange, but if they want an orange, can they say “mommy I want an orange”. Functional language is not just talking but using words to request, negotiate, and communicate with their parents and peers.

It is not cut and dry, “a kid can talk so they start talking”. If you are working on getting a child to talk, there are so many things that need to be in place, so it is important to have less focus on words and more focus on foundational skills as simple as learning to sit. Ashley’s advice for parents is to ask fewer questions. Narrating is a key to building language skills and understanding the meaning behind words. Ask less questions and comment and narrate everything as you and your child are doing it. Pair everything you’re doing with real words, to build connections between the activity or item and the word.

We want to expose kids to a rich vocabulary, but when kids aren't communicating, keep words simple. They don’t have to be long sentences, but instead small phrases and keywords. For example, you don’t need to say “you’re putting on your shoes” instead hold and point to the shoes and say “shoes on” or you don’t need to say “let’s open the door now” instead say “open” but say it a few times, clear and exaggerated.

One of Ashley’s big questions for therapists and parents is, “how much are you facilitating?” Wait time is a big piece. It is critical to give children time to process and respond. One thing Ashley said that makes so much sense is working on language is an art form, a unique balance between foundational skills, modeling, narrating, and allowing silent time for processing language.

Another key part of therapy is that the skills a child can perform in therapy should be able to be performed, across all of their environments  and with all people they interact with. It's important to create opportunities for communication. This differentiates the difference between can’t do or won’t do. Reinforcement is critical, modeling what it looks like to respond to a request. Repeating a request over and over is not effective. Say it one time, and if they do not comply, physically complete the request with them. For example, you don't need to say come here over and over. If they do not come the first time, show them what coming here looks like.

Building expressive language is about building independence. There are so many teaching opportunities that are missed because as adults we meet the child’s needs that they can do themselves and we do not give them the opportunity to ask for help or demonstrate their knowledge. The biggest takeaway for parents and professionals here is language and communication is more than just talking.

 #autism #speechtherapy

What's Inside:

• Getting started with expressive language delays.
• Real tips and strategies for parents and professionals.
• The art form of building expressive language.
• Building language happens in more than just the therapy room. 

Mentioned In This Episode:

 FREE live webinar- Autism Therapy Strategies for Toddlers and

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• Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
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GUEST INFORMATION: JUDY DELAWARE, OTR/LS BIO

Judy Delaware, OTR/L is an Occupational Therapist and Feeding Specialist who has been providing home-based feeding intervention within the infant-toddler population for the last 20 years via her private practice, Positive Therapeutic Beginnings LLC. She has over 39 years of experience working with infants and children in private practice, hospital settings and clinics. Judy is a mother of two and combines many years of practical parenting experience with sensory, motor, oral, and child development training using a fun, family-centered approach. She lives in Louisville, Colorado with her husband and dogs.

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GUEST INFORMATION: WAYS TO CONNECT WITH FEEDING LITTLES

• Check out the Feeding Littles website
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FEEDING LITTLES COURSES

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PODCAST INFO

• A new podcast episode drops every Monday.
• Music credit: L-Ray Music, Courtesy of Shutterstock, Inc.
• Learn more about your host, Cordelia, by clicking  here
• Be sure to follow Cordelia on Instagram: @codependentrecovery

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WORKBOOK + COMMUNITY + RESOURCES

• Are you going through a breakup or divorce?  Here is the link to the 98-page workbook.  Print version + ebook version available worldwide.
• Check out Cordelia's book recommendations here
  • Disclosure: Cordelia is an affiliate of Bookshop.org and she will earn a commission if you click through and make a purchase.
• Want to join the community (i.e., community club or book club)? Click here
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GUEST INFORMATION: ERIN O CONNOR'S BIO

The Director of New York University's Early Childhood Education Program, Erin is a tenured professor and holds a Doctorate in Human Development and Psychology from the Harvard Graduate School of Education, a Masters in Teaching from Fordham University, and a Masters in School Psychology from Columbia University. Erin teaches human development and education classes to pre- and in-service teachers in New York City schools. She also co-directs a community partnership working with families and caregivers. 

In addition, Erin leads a research program examining relationships with mothers and teachers and the impacts of these relationships on children's development in early and middle childhood. She also conducts randomized control trials of relationship-building interventions on the language and social development of pre-kindergarten children from low-income families and neighborhoods. 

Erin has published in educational and psychology journals including the American Educational Research Journal, Journal of Educational Psychology, and Journal of Applied Psychology. Her work is supported by grants from several institutions including the Institute for Education Sciences. She is a member of the American Educational Research Association, American Psychological Association, and the Society for Research in Child Development.

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• Check out Erin’s website
• Book a one-on-one consultation
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• Read more about Erin

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RECOMMENDATIONS TO KEEP LEARNING ABOUT INDEPENDENT PLAY (mentioned by Erin in the episode)

• Dr. Stuart Brown's website
• Tools of the Mind website
• Books by Vivian  Gussin Paley
• Bonus resource: Article on Erin's website published on May 28, 2021 - 5 Research-Backed Strategies to Encourage Independent Play

 After reading both Reset Your Child's Brain by Victoria L. Dunckley, MD and Glow Kids by Nicholas Kardaras, Ph.D.  we discuss the impact of screen time on our own children as well as the concept and the practicality of a 3 week "reset" as recommended by Dr. Dunckley.   In our discovery, our kids are being stimulated at a rate unlike any other generation.  The gaming industry has put the R&D into keeping our kids hooked on screens.  However, gaming isn't the only industry competing for our kids time.  Can we pull our kids off?  How much time is too much time.  A child's dopamine levels are incredibly high when immersed in an active screen.  Is this over stimulation sacrificing relationships?  Join us as we talk through both books, the over arching concept and perhaps one of the greatest challenges parents have with getting their kids to look up. 

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Please see also these resources on Rooted:

Pastoring With Truth in Love to Transgender Teens by Seth Stewart

Two Resources for Ministering to Students with Gender Dysphoria by Mike McGarry

Preparing Christian Children For the Transgender Moment by Cameron Cole

More from Rooted Parent Podcast:

Rooted Parent Podcast: Talking to Your Kids About Loving Their Enemies 

Rooted Parent Podcast: Parents, Turn Off the News (Responsibly)

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Ministry to Young Women Is Not A "Check Your Brains at the Door" Endeavor 

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