shelley clarke

Parenting comes with many seasons, some more comfortable and enjoyable than others... so what do we do when we feel ourselves being stretched to our very limits? In today's episode Shelley chats to us candidly about navigating her family and burnout and ways that we can support ourselves to move through these hard phases in our parenting.
 
In this episode you'll learn about:
- the power of listening to your body and it's yes' and no's
- how you can reframe rest and connection as the most productive thing you can do
-  why the body remembers certain times of year and how to navigate that
- the healing phenomenon of laughter with friends
- what coming back to the basics can do for your health... and so much more!

If you want to shift back into energy and connection within your family, then this is the podcast episode for you!

21 days of play course

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This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

Re-establishing who one is outside the role of Mother is often layered with conflicting emotions, connecting to purpose and sinking into your why can help this identity shift. In this episode of the Mind, Body, Parenting podcast Shelley chats with Emily Bagaric about coming back to oneself for inspiration, joy and a more fulfilling life!

Emily  Bagaric is a former teacher, circle holder, parent coach and motherhood support practitioner, passionate about transforming the way that mothers meet themselves and therefore raise their children.

In this episode you'll learn about:
- the importance of having support structures in place
- why it is more than ok to show up imperfectly in all aspects of motherhood, life and business
-  what the practice of feeling into your body can do for you and your children
- the strength that comes from connecting back to your inner power in micro moments
- how to offer play and connection when kids behaviour is hard... and so much more!

If you want to feel more connected to purpose alongside your mothering journey then this is the podcast episode for you!

21 days of play course

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Connect with Emily Bagaric here:
IG - @embagaric
FB - @ebagaric
www.emilybagaric.com

This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

Managing the mental load of the family is heavy and can often be an invisible pinch point in relationships. In this episode of the Mind, Body, Parenting podcast listen as Shelley chats with clinical psychologist and Founder of Share to Thrive, Elyse McNeil about how to share the mental load, communicate well with your partner and tackle the list of familial responsibilities as a team!
 
In this episode you'll learn about:
- How Elyse became a clinical psychologist
- What the expertise gap means if you're the lead parent and how to share that better
- The importance of having a structured conversation with your partner to alleviate explosive conversations
- What routine and non-routine tasks are and how they affect the mental load
- Why separating the mental load from the physical load can help with understanding
- The myth of the 50/50 split and how to navigate that... and so much more!

If you want to feel less resentment and more support and validation in all aspects of raising a family, then this is the podcast episode for you!

21 days of play course

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Connect with Elyse McNeil from Share to Thrive here:
IG - @sharetothrive
Sharing the Load Course
https://mentallabour.sharetothrive.com/

This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

It's heartbreaking to watch our children have fears and anxieties in life, but how do we help them? In this episode of the Mind, Body, parenting podcast listen as Shelley shares some brilliant tools and techniques to help our children and empower ourselves as parents to help our children when they're frozen with fear.
 
In this episode you'll learn about:
- Why looking at the environmental circumstances and developmental age first is key
- Asking yourself as a parent what this fear brings up in you
- Different attachment play games to help open up the conversation with your kids
- How to know when to set a loving limit and when to acquiesce
- The power of telling our children stories that involve overcoming fears... and so much more!

If you want to help your child actually move through their feelings when it comes to fears and anxieties and empower their resilience, then this is the podcast episode for you!

21 days of play course

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This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

In this episode Shelley chats with fellow Marion Method mentor Attalia Egerton.  Passionate about psycho-spiritual inquiry, re-parenting and re-culturing, Attalia is also a primary school teacher, kinesiologist, somatic meditation and embodiment facilitator and mother to two. Her vision is mentoring other parents and teachers in integrating this work into their lives and the education system at large.

In this episode you'll learn about:
- what bringing a psycho-spiritual lens to the classroom does for Attalia
- why all teachers can feel *less* exhausted when using the Marion Method in class
- the importance of speaking authentically to children and giving them a safe space to be themselves
- why understanding the 'love' and 'will' needs/hurts according to the Marion Method helps teachers in the classroom
- how competition is embedded into the school system and what it is doing to our children... and so much more!

 If you are believe it is the birthright of our children to feel safe and connected and to thrive in the classroom, then this is the podcast episode for you!

Shelley's 21 days of Play course

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Find Attalia Egerton here:
IG: @attaliaegerton
FB: @attaliaegerton.com.au
https://attaliaegerton.com.au/

This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

In this episode Shelley chats with fellow Aware Parenting Instructor and somatic wellness coach Abbey Stanbrook. Abbey supports families to find balance in their bodies and within their family units, is also the founder of The Somatic Seasons podcast and runs circles and workshops for families online and in person.  Listen as she shares with us about the different parts of our nervous system and how they impact our parenting.

In this episode you'll learn about:
- what a grounding and orienting practice sounds and feels like
- the voo sound and how it can bring your body back into balance
- what hyper and hypo activity in your nervous system may look like
- the relationship between sympathetic activation and social engagement is
- how to work through anger and grief as a parent
- some easy to use tools and practices to help when your nervous system is activated... and so much more!

 If you are wanting to feel like you are equipped with the tools to be a more calm, balanced parent, then this is the podcast episode for you!

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Find Abbey Stanbrook here:
IG: @abbeyheartlove
FB: Abby Stanbrook
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This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

Continuing with the back to school theme, this week Shelley speaks to the anxieties parents feel at this time of year as well as sharing a story about her own experience that has come up for her in this last week. And if you are the person that the child is being handed over to... carers, educators and teachers, then this episode speaks to you about how to cultivate a sense of safety in the classroom.
 
In this episode you'll learn about:
- How to deal with tough parenting moments
- A practical process to help your own inner child
- The difference your tone and expression make to a child feeling safe
-  How to listen to a child's feelings
- What creates a safe environment for children to learn in

If you want to support the children in your care, then this is the podcast episode for you!

Email Shelley about speaking to your educators here

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This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

Continuing on form last week's episode, listen as Shelley shares the tools to helps support your kids (and you) to navigate the big feelings that come up at the start of a school year... whether it's kindy, reception or transitioning into high school. Shelley shares a personal family story so we can better understand what it means to hold space for our kids and meet the feelings underneath the behaviours they may be displaying.
 
In this episode you'll learn about:
- How to deal with the activation that can come up in your body as a parent
- Why it is so important to give yourself compassion for the unseen work of parenting
- How unenjoyable behaviour is really a big red flag that your child needs support to process their big feelings
- Why the withdrawn behaviour is just as alarming as the outwardly unenjoyable behaviour
- Evidence of how parenting this way can help your children develop their awareness and capacity

If you want to support your child for a connected transition to school, then this is the podcast episode for you!

Reclaim yourself and your parenting - nine week program

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This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

With the start of the 2023 school year fast approaching, listen as Shelley shares the things that she does to help her children transition to school, kindy or childcare.  Whenever big transitions like this happen, there's going to be some feelings coming up about a new teacher, a different classroom, different friends in the classes...
 so if you want to know where to start, start here!
 
In this episode you'll learn about:
- Why it is important to identify and understand what is yours in this life transition
- How you can help your child move through the feelings around school
- How to make sure you child feels connected to you before drop off
- Some of the attachment play games you can play in the lead up to school
- How to prepare and tackle the 'after-school' behaviour

If you want to help ease your child into a connected transition to school, then this is the podcast episode for you!

21 days of play course

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This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

Welcoming you all to 2023, listen as Shelley shares a bit about her willingness practice. A beautiful process Shelley learnt from Marion Rose's work in the Marion Method, hear how you can use the willingness practice to work towards the things you want for this new year.

In this episode you'll learn about:
- What is our will and a willingness practice
- What the difference is between manifesting and willingness
- Why, when we stop trusting our internal compass, we lose access to what we really want
- What an inner loving presence process is and how to offer yourself more love and compassion
- The importance of being congruent with what we’re saying and doing in our bodies, so our children feel it

If you want to live a life where you're fully willing, and life just...  flows, then this is the podcast episode for you!

21 days of play course

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This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

In the final solo episode for 2022, listen as host Shelley Clarke shares with us a moment of pause as she reflects and celebrates on the year that's been. As humans wired to be looking forward to achieving the next thing, we can quite often forget to take stock and celebrate, join Shelley as she encourages us to pause and do the same.

In this episode you'll hear about:
- Shelley's intention for the year as she began 2022
- how intention coupled with action can create beautiful momentum
- why it is important to celebrate the things we don't often see as parents
- how Shelley is 'listening to life' and what that looks like for her in 2023
- how thankful she is for each and every podcast listener 

21 days of play course

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This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

In this incredibly raw episode, listen as Shelley interviews her parents, vulnerably discussing how they came to understand and eventually embrace a shift in parenting paradigm.  Listen as Shelley begins this episode by reading her parents a heartfelt letter, touching on the nuances that come with doing it differently from how she was parented.

In this episode you'll learn about:
- what the hardest parts of learning a new way are for grandparents
- how to deal with misbehaviour when we are frozen in our own nervous system
- the importance in connection and relationships when bringing up kids
- the anaolgy Shelley's Dad offers which perfectly sums up how to communicate a new parenting paradigm 
- the turning point in Shelley's Mum understanding the importance of listening to feelings... and so much more!

If you are wanting to know how to have the conversation around parenting this way with Grandparents and caregivers, then this is the podcast episode for you!

FREE downloadable PDF for Grandparents and caregivers
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This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

We are embarking on one of the busiest times of year... the festive season! In this episode listen as host Shelley Clarke shares with us how we can prioritise connection in our family.  Hear about how to frame the big feelings that inevitably come up for our children during festive season and the tips and tools we can use to really make the most of these school holidays.

In this episode you'll learn about:
- what a connection plan is and how you can easily create one for your family
- how understanding and planning 'decompression' days can benefit your child and your sanity
- how to make your child feel safe and connected at parties and events this festive season
-  how to use attachment play to facilitate comfort and safety for your child at family events
- what the broken cookie and spoiled outing analogies are and how they can help you stay connected to your child

If you are wanting to hear how to stay connected to your kids during this festive season, then this is the podcast episode for you!

21 days of play course

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This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

Continuing on from last week Shelley answers some more listener questions in this solo episode, sharing suggestions for how to respond compassionately to your children in the moments it feels hardest.

In this episode you'll learn about:
- what to do if silly behaviour in your children is a trigger for you
-  why giving children lots of information to help them process what’s going on is so important
- how to talk to a highly sensitive child that shuts down and a great game to play to help them open up
-  why repair is so important for our children and what that looks like
- the reasons to make sure you’ve had a chance to process your own feelings as a parent

If you are wanting to hear how to meet your child where they are and help them shift the tension, then this is the podcast episode for you!

21 days of play course

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This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

In this solo episode Shelley Clarke answers some questions that listeners have sent in, sharing with us her incredible knowledge around how to navigate aggressive behaviour in children and what might help parents of sensory or strong-willed children.

In this episode you'll learn about:
- the role power reversal games have in helping with aggressive behaviour challenges
- why its important to regulate your own nervous system and body before approaching aggressive behaviour
- a simple introduction to different sensory profiles and why learning you and your families puts you ahead of the curve
- what paying attention to your thoughts as a parent can do for your connection and relationship with your child/ren
- how to approach strong-willed behaviour and having awareness around the intention behind your play

If you are wanting to hear how to approach aggressive behaviour, sensory or strong-willed children, then this is the podcast episode for you!

21 days of play course
Attachment Play Episode

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This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

In this episode Shelley chats with Founder of Peaceful Parenting, Nic Wilson. As an Aware Parenting and The Marion Method mentor, Nic shares her work through amazing and informative social media posts, paid programmes and One to One parenting support. Listen as she shares with us how to navigate co-parenting and separation using Aware Parenting. 

In this episode you'll learn about:
- how to let go of the grief and guilt after separating from your child's other parent
-  Nic’s journey with attachment play and how it was a total game-changer 
- why making friends with all feelings should be a prerequisite course for all new parents
- what catch up crying is and why it is important to hold your child through it
- why the key to peaceful parenting is actually creating spaciousness in yourself through self-care... and so much more!

 
If you are wanting to let go of the should's and supposed-to's and create a great co-parenting relationship after separation, then this is the podcast episode for you!

21 days of play course

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Find Nic Wilson here:
https://www.instagram.com/peacefulparenting/
Free e-book - Attachment Play

This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

*Content heads up, this podcast episode talks about miscarriage and early infant loss*

In this episode our host Shelley Clarke explains her recent break from podcasting and vulnerably opens up about her recent pregnancy loss. Listen as Shelley bravely shares with us her story in the hope that it may help someone who has been through he same experience to feel less alone.
 
In this episode you'll learn about:
- the importance of ritual after a miscarriage and the role it plays in your healing
- how everyones grieving process looks different and normalising the emotional numbness
- how craniosacral therapy supported Shelley during this painful time
- why it is important to honour mother and baby
- how to support someone who is (or has) going through pregnancy or early infant loss

If you are wanting to give yourself permission to feel and process all emotions, and get some tools to implement into your family life, then this is the podcast episode for you!

Miscarriage and early pregnancy loss support:
https://www.pinkelephants.org.au/
https://www.sands.org.au/
https://www.bearsofhope.org.au/
https://rednosegriefandloss.org.au/

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NTM 281: Healing from miscarriage with Shelley Clarke & Katie Parker

This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

In this episode Shelley chats with child activist and Author of 'You Already Knew' Zoe Haack. 
As a motherhood mentor, Zoe is driven to see children experience freedom and autonomy and uses her voice to explore child rights issues, and is the co founder of Akuna concepts. She believes that by bringing awareness to parents, we have the capacity to create great change for the children of today. 

In this episode you'll learn about:
- how Zoe brought the idea of her book into fruition from writing notes in her phone across weeks and months of breastfeeding
- why people should think twice before giving unsolicited parenting advice out in public
- what makes Zoe want to shift the way we as a society perceive step parents
-  the crucial role that language plays in our children's internal dialogue as they grow
- how to reconnect children back to their own innate ideas and wisdom... and so much more!

 
If you are wanting to create a generation of future adults who aren't trying to unpack their childhood wounds, then this is the podcast episode for you!

21 days of play course

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Find Zoe Haack here:
https://akunaconcepts.com/
https://www.instagram.com/zoe.haack.childactivist/


This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

In this episode Shelley chats with Aware Parenting instructor of 16 years, Joss Goulden. 
With a background in psychology and counselling, and a love of supporting families with aware parenting and natural learning, this Mother of two teenage children has a wealth of knowledge for the Aware Parenting community. If you've ever wondered what the experience of children and parents who have practiced the Aware Parenting paradigm through the seasons of time feels like, then listen as Joss shares that with us. 
 
In this episode you'll learn about:
- how refusing to do sleep training and control crying led Joss to find Aware Parenting
- the powerful ways to connect with your teenager without having to result to punishment and rewards
- the role privacy and autonomy plays for our teenagers and why it is so vital
- the importance of looking for the underlying needs when behaviour is challenging and meeting their needs in a way that allows respect for them, and feels good for all
- why a conflict free household is never the goal and how to handle conflict in a way that leaves everybody feeling loved
 
If you are wanting to cultivate an emotionally safe environment for your teenager to grow into an adult whilst staying connected to you,  then this is the podcast episode for you!

21 days of play course

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Find Joss Goulden here:
https://awareparenting.com.au/
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063759596832
https://www.instagram.com/awareparentingwithjoss/

This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being

Listen as Shelley reflects on mothering and parenting for 10 years, speaking to the things she's learned and what she knows now that she wish she knew back then. Grab the tissues as you'll also hear her read aloud a heartfelt and stunningly honest letter she wrote to the 10 years ago version of herself. 
 
In this episode you'll learn about:
- why it is important to celebrate and reflect on the parenting journey so far
- why the inner growth work has been just as much a part of Shelley's parenting as the child rearing
- the powerful way of journaling and documenting to gain clarity on where you're going
- the beauty in being sensitive and honouring emotions
- what the process of moving from lots of mother rage to embracing fun 

If you are wanting a good life, a great relationships with your kids, alongside raising your children as consciously as you can, then this is the podcast episode for you!

21 days of Play course

Continue the conversation with Shelley here:
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This podcast is produced by Nikki O'Brien from Quintessential Being