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    3 Steps to Eliminate Self Doubt & Get Everything You Want In Life

    enJuly 15, 2024
    What can triggers teach us about personal growth?
    How did Molly react to her neighbor's new business?
    What is the 100-day rule mentioned in the text?
    How can one overcome imposter syndrome according to Mel's experience?
    Why should we embrace triggers instead of viewing them negatively?

    Podcast Summary

    • Triggers as teachersOur triggers can provide valuable lessons for personal growth and transformation, instead of focusing on the negative, embrace the opportunity for learning and improvement.

      Our triggers, whether they come from people or situations, can be our greatest teachers. In the story shared, a friend of Mal's named Molly was triggered by a neighbor starting an interior design business despite having no formal training or accreditations. This triggered feelings of inadequacy and jealousy in Molly, leading her to have an emotional breakdown. Mal used this opportunity to remind us that our triggers can provide valuable lessons. Instead of focusing on the negative, we can learn from these experiences and use them to grow and improve ourselves. So, the next time you're triggered, take a step back and reflect on what you can learn from the situation. Embrace the opportunity for personal growth and transformation.

    • Using others' success as motivationInstead of envying others, see them as teachers and use their success as motivation to push ourselves out of comfort zone. Anger and frustration can be channeled into determination and action.

      Instead of feeling resentful or envious when we see others succeeding, we should view them as teachers and use their success as motivation to propel ourselves forward. The person who triggers us, whether a friend or an online presence, holds a unique ability to awaken our dormant potential and push us out of our comfort zone. They may not have a groundbreaking strategy, but rather, they consistently put in the effort and show up every day. By recognizing this, we can channel our anger and frustration into determination and action, ultimately leading us towards our own goals.

    • Triggers as opportunities for growthRealizing that triggers are opportunities for growth and learning can help us use anger as motivation and turn negative situations into positive ones.

      When we encounter irritating people who have what we want, it's often because they've put in the consistent effort and hard work that we haven't. This realization can be painful, but it's also a valuable lesson. Anger can be a powerful motivator, pushing us to take action and close the gap between where we are and where we want to be. Triggers, whether they come from people or situations, are opportunities for growth and learning. By recognizing and embracing the discomfort they bring, we can use them to fuel our motivation and ignite change in our lives. So the next time you're triggered, instead of complaining or feeling discouraged, take a deep breath and ask yourself what you can learn from the situation. What steps can you take to turn the trigger into a teacher and move closer to your goals?

    • Admitting limitationsAdmitting our limitations and not pretending to have skills we don't, can lead to opportunities for learning and growth, ultimately making us more effective and successful.

      Being honest about our limitations and admitting when we don't know something can lead to growth and success, even if it comes with embarrassment or shame in the moment. The speaker shared her experience of pretending to have skills she didn't possess in a past job, only to be exposed and let go. Though it was a painful experience, she learned the value of authenticity and the power of admitting what we don't know. This vulnerability can lead to opportunities for learning and growth, and ultimately, make us more effective and successful in our endeavors.

    • Imposter SyndromeFear of imposter syndrome can lead to undervaluing oneself and missing out on bigger opportunities. Speak up, ask for what you're worth, and embrace growth.

      Acknowledging our limitations and asking for help when needed can lead to tremendous growth and trust-building. However, there's another trigger that holds us back – the fear of playing small due to imposter syndrome. This is when we underestimate our capabilities despite others' belief in us. Mel shared her experience of keeping her speaking fees low out of fear, only to discover later that she was undervaluing herself and missing out on bigger opportunities. The painful truth was revealed when the head of HR told her she was ten times better than the other speakers, but her low fee made them doubt her abilities. So, don't let fear hold you back – speak up, ask for what you're worth, and embrace the growth that comes with it.

    • TriggersTriggers can be valuable opportunities for growth and self-improvement, turning them into daily practices or goals using the 100-day rule can help push past fears and limitations

      Triggers in life, whether they come from external sources or internal fears, can be valuable opportunities for growth and self-improvement. When we feel irritated or angry because someone else is achieving what we want or when we're called out on our BS, it's important to recognize these moments as lessons rather than setbacks. By embracing these triggers and using them as motivation to take action, we can push past our fears and limitations and reach our full potential. The 100-day rule, which involves committing to a daily practice or goal for 100 days, is a powerful tool for turning triggers into positive change. So the next time you feel triggered, remember that it's an opportunity to learn, grow, and take a step closer to the person you want to be.

    • Personal triggersRecognizing and addressing personal triggers can lead to personal growth and success. Anger can motivate us, but ignoring it can lead to more significant consequences. People around us can act as teachers, and acknowledging their role can help us use their lessons to move forward. Believing in ourselves is essential for creating a better life.

      Recognizing and addressing personal triggers is the first step towards personal growth and success. Anger can serve as a motivator, and ignoring it can lead to more significant and painful consequences. The people around us, even those who annoy us, can act as teachers in our lives. It's essential to acknowledge the role they play and use their lessons to propel us forward. Remember, we are our harshest critics, and believing in ourselves and our abilities is crucial to creating a better life. This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only, and is not intended as a substitute for professional advice.

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