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    4 Tips To Getting Your Career Back On Track & Upgrading Your Mental Software

    enJuly 24, 2020
    How can embracing change improve resilience during uncertain times?
    What role do focused work practices play in productivity?
    Why is it important to limit working hours for knowledge workers?
    How can personal growth outside of work enhance job performance?
    What benefits does Synbiotic Plus offer for digestive health?

    Podcast Summary

    • Embrace change for personal and career growthFocusing on opportunities for growth can lead to a more fulfilling and resilient life, whether through personal experiences or professional investments.

      Embracing change and upgrading ourselves and our careers can lead to greater resilience and strength, even during uncertain times. Whether it's through planning unforgettable getaways with the help of booking.com or incorporating herbs into your wellness journey, every step can bring about positive change. Additionally, investing in a company like UKG that prioritizes creating a great place to work can lead to long-term growth and development. It's important to remember that striving for normalcy can sometimes hinder our potential for progress, and instead, focusing on the opportunities present can lead to a more fulfilling and resilient life. So, be open to upgrading yourself and your career, and embrace the journey towards a new normal.

    • Embrace Change for Growth and ProgressStrive for adaptability, resilience, and openness to new opportunities to thrive in uncertain times. Change can be uncomfortable, but it's necessary for growth and progress.

      Striving for normalcy and resisting change can lead to complacency, stagnancy, and ultimately more challenges in our personal and professional lives. Using the example of nature and companies like Google and Amazon, the speaker emphasizes that growth and evolution are essential for survival and success. The speaker encourages listeners to embrace change, learn from it, and use it as an opportunity to upgrade themselves. In our current uncertain times, this means being adaptable, resilient, and open to new opportunities. Just like software updates, change can sometimes be uncomfortable, but it's necessary for growth and progress. So, instead of longing for the old ways, focus on adapting, learning, and growing to create your next version of yourself.

    • Navigating personal and professional growth like upgrading phone softwareEmbrace resilience and adaptability during challenging times, while also leveraging strengths during opportunities for growth.

      Just like upgrading your phone software, undergoing personal and professional growth involves going through a period of discomfort and uncertainty. It's natural to feel hesitant or even regretful during this "glitching" phase, but it's essential to remember that the end result will be a better and improved version of yourself. To navigate this process effectively, adopt the mindset and skills of a versatile athlete. Be prepared to switch between offensive and defensive play, meaning, be resilient and adaptable during challenging times while also taking charge and playing to your strengths when opportunities arise. By embracing both aspects, you'll be better equipped to handle the ups and downs of life and career growth.

    • Staying in the game despite challengesEven during hardships, keep putting in effort to stay in the game for potential long-term benefits and growth opportunities

      Even when we're facing challenges and hardships, it's important to keep showing up and staying in the game. Just like tennis players running around to get to the ball, we may feel exhausted and out of energy, but those efforts are necessary to stay in the point and ultimately win the game. The same applies to our personal and professional lives. Losing a job or facing difficulties doesn't mean we're doing something wrong, and it may even present opportunities for growth and success. In fact, studies show that people who get jobs during a financial crisis are more satisfied with their jobs in the long run due to increased gratitude for the opportunities and benefits they provide. So, while it may be difficult to see the positive in the present moment, it's important to keep a long-term perspective and continue to put in the effort to stay in the game.

    • Turning Challenges into OpportunitiesDuring uncertain times, invest in yourself by upgrading skills, focusing on what you can control, and looking for opportunities for growth.

      It's important to keep an open mind and look for opportunities during challenging times, even if they may not be apparent in the moment. As Steve Jobs once said, we can only connect the dots looking back. While it's natural to feel overwhelmed or uncertain, especially during periods of financial insecurity or career transitions, these moments can also provide valuable opportunities for growth. One way to make the most of these situations is by upgrading your skills. Whether it's learning a new language, coding, communication skills, or pursuing a qualification, investing in yourself can pay off in the long run. In fact, according to Lori Khan, CEO of Media Staffing Network, companies will be looking for candidates who have used this time to build their skills and expand their knowledge base. Additionally, it's important to remember that everyone goes through challenging times, and it's okay to acknowledge the struggle. But instead of dwelling on the negatives, focus on what you can control and look for the smaller opportunities that are present. Whether it's gaining extra time to learn a new skill or reevaluating your career goals, these moments can lead to personal and professional growth. So, instead of playing video games or feeling stuck, use this time to invest in yourself and prepare for your next opportunity. The future may be uncertain, but with the right mindset and actions, you can turn challenges into opportunities.

    • Finding balance during challenging times: Personal growth, self-care, and restReading and learning new skills can reaffirm spiritual grounding, rest is crucial for brain function and long-term health, traveling can help discover new aspects of self, Booking.com offers various accommodation options, trusting gut instincts is important but Ritual can provide support when they lead astray.

      During challenging times, it's important to find a balance between personal growth and self-care. Reading and learning new skills can help reaffirm your spiritual grounding and build a stronger foundation for the future. However, it's also crucial to recognize when you need a break from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Most people are getting less sleep than they need, which can negatively impact brain function and long-term health. So, take some time to rest and recover. Additionally, traveling and immersing yourself in new experiences can help you discover new aspects of yourself. Remember, when planning your next adventure, Booking.com has a wide range of accommodation options to suit every kind of traveler. Lastly, trusting your gut instincts is important, but sometimes they may lead you astray. In such cases, Ritual can provide support for your gut health.

    • Relieving digestive issues with Synbiotic Plus and expanding wellness offeringsSynbiotic Plus provides relief from bloating, gas, and diarrhea with clinically studied prebiotics, probiotics, and a postbiotic. Meanwhile, CVS Health expands wellness offerings, including virtual care and mental health services. Cal Newport suggests increasing productivity by focusing intensely and taking short breaks.

      Synbiotic Plus, a 3-in-1 supplement from Ritual, offers relief from bloating, gas, and diarrhea with clinically studied prebiotics, probiotics, and a postbiotic. It's gentle on the stomach, making it suitable for daily use. Meanwhile, CVS Health is expanding its wellness offerings, including virtual care and mental health services. For those working remotely, productivity isn't just about working longer hours. Instead, focus and efficiency are key. By noticing what habits help increase productivity, individuals can make the most of their time and create a better work-life balance. Cal Newport, a professor at Georgetown University, suggests cultivating periods of intense focus, followed by short breaks. This approach can lead to increased productivity during fewer hours. By implementing these habits, individuals can make the most of their time and improve their overall well-being.

    • Balancing focused work and less demanding tasksEffective work practices include setting up dedicated focus time, limiting hours for knowledge-intensive tasks, batching work, minimizing context-switching, and taking time for personal growth.

      Effective work practices, such as setting up dedicated focus time and limiting working hours for knowledge-intensive tasks, can significantly boost productivity and job satisfaction. During the industrial revolution, studies showed that workers' performance and health declined after working long hours. However, recent research by digital anthropologist Rahaf Harfoush reveals that knowledge workers' performance declines after only 6 hours of creatively intensive work. To make the most of our workdays, it's essential to balance focused creative time with less demanding tasks. By batching work and minimizing context-switching, we can maximize our productivity and enjoy the sense of accomplishment that comes with focused work. Additionally, taking time for personal growth and exploration outside of work can help us recharge and bring new perspectives to our jobs.

    • Focus on the next step for personal growthEmbrace new experiences, improve wellness, and overcome challenges by focusing on the next step. Booking.com and Nature's Way can help you along the way.

      No matter what stage of life or challenges we face, focusing on the next step can lead to personal growth and success. Whether it's planning a new adventure with Booking.com or focusing on wellness with herbs from Nature's Way, or even overcoming adversity like Oprah Winfrey, the key is to keep moving forward. Booking.com offers a wide range of accommodations for every kind of traveler, allowing us to discover new sides of ourselves and embrace new experiences. And when it comes to wellness, Nature's Way provides high-quality herbs that support both body and mind. Oprah Winfrey's story serves as a reminder that even during tough times, focusing on the next thing can lead to unexpected opportunities and achievements. From a difficult childhood to becoming a media mogul, her determination and resilience demonstrate the power of taking one step at a time. So whether you're planning your next trip, improving your wellness routine, or facing challenges in your personal or professional life, remember to focus on the next thing and trust that the journey will lead you to new discoveries and growth.

    • Take the next small step in your careerFocus on learning new skills, networking, and updating your professional profile to stay competitive in the job market and advance through word-of-mouth

      Advancing in your career involves taking small, consistent steps. Whether it's learning a new skill, networking, or updating your professional profile, focusing on the next small action can lead to significant progress. CEO Laurie Khan of Media Staffing Network emphasizes that 94% of hiring comes from word-of-mouth, so letting people know you're available for new opportunities is crucial. Additionally, being adaptable and continuously learning new skills are essential for staying competitive in the job market. So, remember to play offense and defense, invest in your education, and focus on the next step towards your desired career.

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    How to have wifi-free meals

    How to replace morning phone use with healthier habits

    How to stay mindful when using technology

    How to engage in a cell phone detox

    The ultimate goal is to create a healthier, more intentional relationship with technology, leading to a more fulfilling and balanced life.

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    Jay Shetty

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    06:19 Six Steps to Phone Detox

    07:01 Dopamine

    11:23 People Aren’t As Happy As Before

    13:39 How Often Do You Check Your Phone?

    14:27 Cortisol

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    19:19 Step 2: Wait an Hour Before Going Online

    21:18 Step 3: The WiFi-Free Meal

    23:45 Step 4: Watch What You Consume Online

    24:54 Step 5: Limit Potions

    25:48 Step 6: Intermittent Fasting

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    How to support a friend

    How to manage criticism

    How to build a strong friendship

    How to stay authentic

    How to handle creative blocks

    How to empower others

    Embrace the balance of your masculine and feminine energies, break free from societal expectations, and empower each other to thrive on the journey to self-discovery and growth.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

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    • 03:38 Beginning of a Friendship 
    • 08:25 Growing Together Independently
    • 10:21 Going Through Big and Small Changes
    • 15:19 Creative and Emotional Intelligence
    • 18:30 Validating and Complimenting Each Other 
    • 21:59 Types of Archetypes
    • 27:18 What's Holding Women Back?
    • 29:46 Start Embracing Your Feminine Energy
    • 33:38 Why Did It Trigger You?
    • 41:00 How to Prepare for Life
    • 45:23 Living an Internally Peaceful Life
    • 52:44 Balance Between Masculine and Feminine Energy
    • 01:02:25 Dealing with the Imbalance in Your Energy
    • 01:07:00 You Can Do Uncomfortable Things
    • 01:10:16 The Best Journaling Practice
    • 01:14:39 Speak to Your Subconscious
    • 01:16:55 Try Leaning Into the Moment
    • 01:23:27 Relationship Checklist 
    • 01:28:38 Alexis and Allie on Final Five 
    • 01:37:46 Giving Each Other the Grace of Change

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