Podcast Summary
Evolving relationships and finding intimacy: After significant life changes, giving permission to evolve relationships brings new possibilities and opportunities for growth and intimacy.
Transformation and intimacy are essential in long-term relationships. Everyone goes through pivotal moments in life, and giving ourselves permission to recommit and redefine relationships brings new possibilities. Julie Paya, a frequent guest on the podcast, shares her experiences of evolving her relationship with her husband Rich Roll after their children grew up. They discuss the importance of getting to know each other in new ways and the opportunities and fears that come with it. After 23 years of marriage, they continue to find intimacy and growth in their relationship. This conversation also includes special offers from Julie's company, SriMu, for RRP listeners.
Raising children presents an opportunity for couples to evolve: Couples can either deepen their relationship or risk decay when raising children, requiring vulnerability and honesty
Raising children can put a strain on a relationship, making it logistical and transactional. However, this does not define the entirety of the relationship. Instead, it presents an opportunity for couples to recommit and evolve, transcending old agreements and expectations to make room for something new. This process can be terrifying as it forces individuals to step out of their comfort zones and offer deeper levels of honesty and sharing. But, if couples choose to stay the same, they risk decay and eventual separation. Ultimately, the choice is to either move towards each other or away, and the decision to deepen the relationship is a scary but exciting prospect.
Investing in meaningful rituals and being present in relationships: Deepening connections and discovering new aspects of your partner requires intentional effort and presence. Embrace friction and differences for potential growth.
Investing in meaningful rituals and being present in relationships can help deepen connections and lead to new discoveries. The speaker shares a personal experience where they were moved by the raw, unfiltered version of their partner after a challenging experience, and they expressed a desire to know each other at that level. They acknowledged that even after 23 years of being together, there may still be aspects of themselves they haven't shared. The importance of being present and engaging in the relationship rather than letting it become a routine was emphasized, as was the potential for continued growth and discovery. The speaker encourages couples to embrace the friction and differences that can lead to alchemy and new frontiers in their relationships.
Embrace vulnerability for true intimacy: To foster deep connections, embrace vulnerability, accept each other's flaws, and focus on understanding and meeting each other's needs.
True intimacy lies in embracing vulnerability and accepting each other's flaws. Both individuals in a relationship have a need for privacy and autonomy, but it's essential to prioritize understanding each other's needs and anticipating how to meet them. Fear of being truly known can stem from a belief of being fundamentally broken and unlovable, but it's in the knowing and accepting each other's deepest aspects that true intimacy and love can flourish. A relationship requires effort to elevate the way we interact, and it's essential to focus on celebrating each other and creating a comfortable, non-judgmental space. Ultimately, embracing the fear and allowing ourselves to be seen in our rawest form is where the treasure of a deep, meaningful connection lies.
Understanding Partner's Perspective: Be open about personal quirks and listen to understand your partner's unique perspective to deepen intimacy in a relationship.
Open communication and understanding are key to deepening intimacy in a relationship. The speaker in this conversation shared an experience where her partner's seemingly odd behavior of buying separate theater seats led her to a deeper understanding of his unique perspective and needs. This realization brought them closer together and increased their intimacy. For those seeking to deepen their own relationships, the speaker suggests being open about personal quirks or habits, and being willing to listen and understand your partner's perspective. This kind of communication can lead to a greater sense of connection and intimacy in the relationship.
The importance of growing and deepening relationships: Communication, presence, and commitment help navigate challenges in relationships. Giving permission to recommit and redefine relationships is essential, as fear should not hold us back from truly knowing and being known by our partners.
The desire to grow and deepen a relationship is crucial. Communication and being present with each other are key elements in navigating challenges. The speaker and her partner have managed to stay together despite their differences and the external influences of the world around them. They have found value in their unique experiences and have committed to continuing their journey of discovery. Giving ourselves permission to recommit and redefine relationships is essential, as the only way out of the unknown is through it. Fear should not hold us back from truly knowing and being known by our partners. The speaker's relationship with her partner has been profound, and she values their presence and willingness to grow together. In essence, the true purpose of a relationship is to know each other deeply and to be known in return.
Next-gen premium fabrics and innovation in the apparel industry by On Labs: On Labs leads in high-performance running apparel with advanced technology, heightened sophistication, precision testing, and commitment to sustainability, offering a 10% discount with code 'richroll10'.
Technology and innovation are key factors in enhancing performance, especially in the apparel industry. On Labs in Zurich is leading the way with next-gen premium fabrics, heightened sophistication, precision, testing, and development, setting them apart from the competition. I've experienced their high-performance running apparel firsthand and am proud to be a brand partner. On is also committed to increasing product sustainability and offering an exclusive 10% discount with the code "richroll10" at ondot.com/richroll. Another exciting venture is Voicing Change Media, a consortium of thinkers, storytellers, artists, and visionaries, dedicated to fostering meaningful exchanges and sharing thought-provoking content. Lastly, I shared my recent experience of discovering my new favorite band, Wilco, and expressed my desire to have their frontman, Jeff Tweedy, on the podcast. It's heartwarming to discover new connections between the brands and experiences I'm involved with.
From abandoned Sears facility to vibrant community hub: Transformed an old Sears facility into a thriving arts and culture center, prioritizing community over revenue
The Crosstown Concourse in Memphis is more than just a magnificent structure; it's a symbol for a future Memphis and a testament to the power of vision and collaboration. Originally an abandoned Sears and Roebuck distribution facility, it was transformed into a thriving community hub by Staley Cates and Todd Richardson, who saw its potential as a beacon for arts and culture. Today, it houses a museum-quality art space, performance theater, recording studios, schools, healthcare facilities, and various businesses. Despite the odds, they created a nonprofit space that prioritizes the arts and community, rather than maximizing revenue. With a strong focus on creativity, collaboration, and social impact, the Crosstown Concourse is a shining example of what can be achieved when individuals come together with a clear vision for the future.
Unexpected connections in a new community: Moving to a new place can bring unexpected connections and opportunities, leading to remarkable experiences.
Community support and new beginnings can lead to remarkable experiences. The speaker shared her journey of moving her business to Memphis, Tennessee, feeling uncertain about making connections in a new place. However, she was pleasantly surprised by the warm welcome from local business leaders and the community. The opening of her cafe, SriMu, coincided with a new moon solar eclipse, adding to the magical feeling of starting anew. The speaker also discovered a deep connection between Memphis, Tennessee, and Memphis, Egypt, with various references to ancient Egypt in the city. Additionally, she met a filmmaker, Craig Brewer, whose office was located right above hers in the Crosstown area. These unexpected discoveries and connections made her feel honored and excited about her new chapter in Memphis.
Navigating Challenges in a New Location: Starting a business as a family is effective but unsustainable as it grows. Adapting to new regulations and environments leads to improvements and growth.
Moving a business to a new location, especially one where you don't know many people, comes with unexpected challenges. The entrepreneur in this discussion learned that leading the company like a family in its early stages was effective but not sustainable as it grew. She also discovered that the business required a higher level of responsibility and stability to thrive in its new location. One significant challenge was navigating regulations, such as proving product expiration dates and obtaining organic certification. However, these hurdles led to improvements, like hiring a food scientist and implementing gold standards for batching and recall. Despite the obstacles, the business continued to grow, releasing new products like a butter and a dessert called the Maclay cake. The entrepreneur's decision to add new SKUs is based on the quality of the products and the market demand. Overall, the experience of moving the business to Memphis taught the entrepreneur valuable lessons about leadership, responsibility, and the importance of adapting to new environments.
Managing product offerings and brand identity: Focus on a streamlined collection of high-quality products and foster community to build a strong brand identity
Carefully managing product offerings and maintaining a strong brand identity are crucial for business success. The speaker, a cheese company owner, shared her experience of expanding too quickly in the past and the negative impact it had on her brand. She emphasized the importance of focusing on a streamlined collection of high-quality products that truly represent the brand. Additionally, the speaker highlighted the importance of community in her business model and how it sets SriMu apart from other companies. From a business perspective, Memphis was chosen as the location for SriMu due to its cost-effectiveness and the unique community atmosphere of Crosstown Concourse. The company plans to foster this community through subscriptions, special offerings, and integrating spiritual elements into their brand.
Building a community through subscriptions: Engage customers beyond sales by sharing valuable, thematically relevant content, building trust and loyalty, and turning them into brand advocates
Building a community through subscriptions allows businesses to connect with their audience on a deeper level, beyond just sales. Instead, it's about sharing valuable, thematically relevant content that resonates with consumers' interests and values. This approach builds trust and loyalty, turning customers into brand advocates. The speaker's personal example involves her food company, where she and her team send out newsletters filled with lifestyle content, raising awareness about various causes, and even sharing dreams and plans for future projects. This approach not only strengthens the community but also allows the business to align with its audience's passions and make a positive impact.
New portable stage opens up opportunities for artists in Memphis: A new portable stage in Memphis provides artists with a versatile performance space and opens up possibilities for growth. The stage's creator finds inspiration from the community and local organizations like Memphis Rocks.
A new portable stage has been created, providing an immediate and portable performance space for artists. This stage, which was recently completed, has opened up new opportunities for artists to perform at various locations and has the potential for growth. The creator of the stage, who has faced challenges in the past, is now feeling settled and inspired by the community in Memphis, particularly by the work of Tom Shadyac and Memphis Rocks, a nonprofit organization that supports disadvantaged youth through outdoor and adventure skills training and expeditions. The stage's lead investor, Tom Lawrence, is also involved with Memphis Rocks and the organization is seeking support. This new stage represents a foundation for future growth and creativity.
Meeting Memphis Creatives: Tom, Matt Ross Spang, Will McGowan, and Citywood: Memphis is a city filled with unique individuals and businesses, from music producers and woodworkers to farmers and podcast collaborators, all contributing to a vibrant and innovative community.
Memphis, Tennessee, is home to a vibrant community of creatives and innovators, as highlighted by the experiences of Tom, Matt Ross Spang, Will McGowan, and Citywood. Tom, a wise and unique individual, was met in person for the first time in years during a visit to Memphis, where he shared his plans for a podcast collaboration. Matt Ross Spang, a music producer, runs an impressive studio offering residencies to 28 artists annually. Will McGowan, McLean's brother, operates a remarkable woodworking shop with an industrial-sized laser cutter for wood. Citywood is a group of farmers who provide locally sourced, reclaimed wood for various projects. These individuals and businesses represent the diverse and cutting-edge creativity in Memphis. Additionally, during this visit, Julie expressed her pride and admiration for McLean and her growth, emphasizing her unique perspective and impact on relationships and the world. As a token of appreciation, she offered exclusive deals on shrimu and her annual subscription. This encounter underscores the significance of Memphis as a hub for creativity, innovation, and personal growth.
Exploring the Journey of Personal Growth and Self-Discovery: The journey towards personal growth and self-discovery is unique and self-created, with a supportive community making it even more beautiful.
That the journey towards personal growth and self-discovery is a deeply personal and self-created experience. The community that supports this journey is beautiful and interconnected. To learn more about today's guest and the resources related to their discussion, visit the episode page at richroll.com. Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving reviews, and sharing episodes with friends. For updates and special offers, subscribe to the newsletter. The podcast is produced and engineered by Jason Camiolo and Blake Curtis, with additional contributions from various team members. The theme music was created by Trapper Pyatt and Harry Mathis. Keep exploring and growing, and remember, peace and plants.
