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    • Trust your inner voiceListen to your unique needs and make decisions based on your inner voice, not external influences, for better outcomes in various aspects of life.

      We should approach feeding ourselves with the same intuition and self-trust as we do with other bodily needs. The discussion touched on various topics, including the Apple Card's cashback rewards, the potential of renting out your home on Airbnb, and the pressures of New Year's resolutions. However, a common theme emerged: the importance of trusting our inner voice and not being swayed by external influences, especially when it comes to our bodies and eating habits. Andrea Wachter, a psychotherapist and author, shared her personal journey with disordered eating and how she learned to listen to her inner hunger voice to avoid the shame of outside diet advice. The speaker also highlighted the potential financial benefits of turning your home into an Airbnb and the ease of finding employment with Express Employment Professionals. While the conversation covered various topics, the message remained consistent: trust your inner voice and make decisions based on your unique needs and circumstances. Whether it's about your home, your body, or your career, remember that you are the expert on your own life.

    • Ignoring natural hunger and fullness signalsSociety's pressure to conform to certain body sizes and the continuous promotion of new diets can lead to disconnection from our innate knowing, causing unnecessary stress and potentially harmful behaviors.

      Our obsession with diets and weight loss can lead us to ignore our natural hunger and fullness signals, causing unnecessary stress and potentially harmful behaviors. Society's pressure to conform to certain body sizes and the continuous promotion of new diets can seduce us into believing that our worth is based on our size. This programming can lead to a disconnection from our innate knowing, causing us to restrict, obsess, or binge. The diet industry's growth despite its high failure rate is evidence that this mindset is pervasive and harmful for many people. Instead of focusing on external solutions, it's essential to trust our bodies and develop a healthier relationship with food and our bodies.

    • Trusting inner voice for healthy food relationshipIntuitive eating encourages individuals to listen to their bodies' signals for hunger, fullness, and cravings, rather than relying on external dietary rules.

      The journey towards a healthy and peaceful relationship with food involves trusting one's inner voice and letting go of external dietary rules. This concept is known as intuitive eating, which encourages individuals to listen to their bodies' signals for hunger, fullness, and cravings, rather than relying on external factors. The speaker shared her personal experience of struggling with an eating disorder and the turning point when she prioritized peace of mind and wellness over being a certain size or number. Intuitive eating is a commitment to self-care and can be challenging for those accustomed to following external rules. However, it originated in the 1990s with the book "Intuitive Eating" by two dietitian authors and remains a valuable approach to wellness in today's culture of conflicting food advice.

    • Embrace self-respect and well-being through intuitive eatingIntuitive eating is a non-restrictive approach that focuses on self-respect and well-being, allowing individuals to listen to their body's signals for hunger and movement, rather than societal standards of appearance.

      Intuitive eating is about giving yourself permission to feed and treat your body respectfully, rather than trying to conform to societal standards of appearance. This approach, which is related to the Health at Every Size movement, encourages self-care, non-restrictive eating, and listening to your body's signals for hunger and movement. The process of embracing intuitive eating involves becoming aware of diet mentality and recognizing the ineffectiveness of diets. It also requires paying attention to your body's needs amidst the noise of external signals and the demands of daily life. By focusing on self-respect and well-being, rather than a specific size, intuitive eating promotes a holistic approach to self-care.

    • Listening to your body's signals instead of relying on external cuesIntuitive eating promotes a healthier relationship with food and improved overall well-being, without focusing on specific body size or weight.

      Intuitive eating is about listening to your body's internal signals rather than relying on external cues such as scales or food tracking apps. It's essential to understand that everyone's motivations and experiences with food are unique. For those with a history of disordered eating or body image issues, avoiding scales and tracking apps can be beneficial. Instead, focus on self-care and loving motives for eating. Intuitive eating does not promise a specific body size or weight, but rather the benefits of a healthier relationship with food and improved overall well-being.

    • Listen to your body and honor its signals for intuitive eating benefitsIntuitive eating leads to increased energy, clarity, decreased disordered eating, improved well-being, happiness, and even better cholesterol levels. Focus on self-love and careful attention to inner voice for a healthy relationship with food.

      Intuitive eating, a practice of listening to our bodies and honoring their signals, can lead to numerous physical and mental health benefits. These benefits include increased energy and clarity, decreased disordered eating and eating disorders, improved well-being, happiness, and even improved cholesterol levels. However, the journey to intuitive eating can be challenging, especially for those who have a history of dieting or struggle with unmet needs and underlying issues. It's important to remember that intuitive eating is not about giving in to unhealthy cravings or indulging in hot fudge sundaes every day. Instead, it's about finding a loving and respectful relationship with food and dealing with the underlying issues that may be contributing to disordered eating. By focusing on self-love and careful attention to our inner voice, we can move towards a more intuitive and healthy relationship with food.

    • Exploring resources for hosting, employment, and intuitive eatingAirbnb helps determine home worth and simplifies hosting, Express Employment Professionals provides personalized job search assistance, and intuitive eating expert Andrea Wachter encourages reducing shame and focusing on awareness for a healthier relationship with food and bodies

      There are resources available to make life easier in various aspects. For those considering hosting, Airbnb offers an opportunity to discover their home's worth and ease the hosting process. For job seekers, Express Employment Professionals offers personalized assistance in finding employment with no fees. In the realm of food and body image, intuitive eating expert Andrea Wachter emphasizes the importance of reducing shame and focusing on awareness. By recognizing that societal programming can lead to problematic relationships with food and bodies, individuals can begin their journey towards a more intuitive relationship with eating. Remember, it takes work, practice, and patience, but the rewards of peace of mind and wellness are worth it. Whether it's hosting, employment, or food, don't go at it alone. Utilize the resources and support available to you.

    • Tuning into your body's wisdom for food choicesIntuitive eating is a non-restrictive approach to food, focusing on body wisdom and mindful attention, despite challenges and past diet experiences.

      Intuitive eating is about tuning into your body's wisdom to make loving, respectful, and non-restrictive food choices. It requires mindful attention and intention, as well as patience and practice. This process may be challenging for those who have a long history of dieting and struggle with feelings of shame and guilt. However, it's important to remember that diets often promise quick fixes but don't deliver long-term results. By questioning the diet mentality and focusing on listening to your body, you can develop a healthier and more sustainable relationship with food.

    • Challenging societal programming and rejecting diet mentalityIntuitive eating is about more than food, it's about body acceptance and freedom from diet mentality, leading to greater wellness.

      Intuitive eating is about more than just the food we put in our bodies. It's about challenging societal programming around body sizes, perfectionistic eating, and fat phobia. It's about siding with our bodies and rejecting the diet mentality that can lead to a toxic relationship with food and ourselves. It's important to be aware of the subtle ways diet mentality can creep in and keep renewing our commitment to peace and freedom from the obsession with weight and control. Intuitive eating is not about perfection, but rather about staying awake and aware, and continuing to practice and renew our commitment to this new way of being with food and our bodies. The benefits of intuitive eating include a greater sense of freedom, more time, and an overall feeling of wellness.

    • Learning to trust your inner voice for food and body imageIntuitive eating encourages individuals to listen to their own inner hunger and fullness cues, challenging diet mentality and promoting a healthier relationship with food and overall well-being.

      Intuitive eating offers a liberating and freeing approach to food and body image, where individuals tune in to their own hunger and fullness cues, rather than relying on external rules and restrictions. This can be a challenging transition, as it requires unlearning diet mentality and trusting one's inner voice. Many people find this approach to be more effective and sustainable in the long run, as it allows for a healthier relationship with food and a greater focus on overall well-being. However, it can be difficult to let go of the seduction of new diets and the deep-rooted beliefs that a certain body size will bring happiness and success. The journey towards intuitive eating involves washing away these beliefs and trusting oneself to make nourishing choices for the body and mind. The benefits of this approach can be significant, including the freedom from obsessing over food and body image, and the ability to enjoy food without guilt or restriction.

    • Practice self-compassion instead of external pressuresFocus on body needs, shut out external voices, and strengthen positive self-talk muscles for overall wellness

      Instead of focusing on external diet and fitness messages that can often lead to self-criticism and unrealistic expectations, we should listen to our bodies and practice self-compassion. The diet and fitness industries, as well as the media, can put undue pressure on us during the new year, but by shutting out these outside voices and focusing on what our bodies truly need, we can promote both physical and mental wellness. Additionally, committing to exercises that strengthen our positive self-talk muscles can help us be kinder to ourselves. In the next episode of The Happiness Lab, we'll explore this concept further and discuss ways to practice self-compassion and improve our relationship with ourselves. Remember, happiness is not just about physical health, but also mental wellness, and taking care of ourselves in a compassionate and loving way is essential for overall well-being.

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