Podcast Summary
Misplaced Gratitude Can Hinder Personal Growth: Believe in your right to be unhappy, communicate intentions, build competence, and trust oneself for personal growth and business success.
Gratitude can become toxic when it holds us back from pursuing our goals and growing as individuals. Lisa Bilyeu, the host of Women of Impact and best-selling author of Radical Confidence, shares her experience of feeling stuck in her marriage for eight years due to a misplaced sense of gratitude. She emphasizes that believing in our right to be unhappy and communicating our intentions to those around us are crucial steps towards personal growth and building a successful business. Additionally, Lisa highlights that confidence is a byproduct of getting started and building competence, rather than a prerequisite. She encourages listeners to keep pushing forward despite setbacks and to avoid seeking validation from toxic relationships. Overall, Lisa's message is about embracing change, developing the necessary skills, and trusting oneself to achieve success.
Limiting beliefs and their impact on our potential: Recognizing and addressing limiting beliefs is crucial for unlocking our full potential and achieving our goals. Identify what's holding you back and focus on acquiring necessary skills to build a business or pursue passions.
Limiting beliefs, instilled in us from a young age or reinforced through experiences, can hinder our potential for growth and achieving our dreams. For instance, being told that our future is only meant for marriage and motherhood can limit our belief in our ability to pursue other passions and build successful businesses. Gratitude, while important, can also keep us stuck if we use it to justify staying in unhappy situations. To overcome these barriers, it's crucial to acknowledge that we're not living the life we want and identify what's holding us back. This might involve recognizing our worthiness to express dissatisfaction and communicating our intentions to those around us. Once we've addressed these mental hurdles, we can focus on acquiring the necessary skills to build a business or pursue our goals. The journey to self-discovery and growth may not be easy, but it's essential for unlocking our full potential.
Fueling Confidence with Purpose and Passion: A clear sense of purpose and mission can help fuel our drive and confidence, even during challenging times or significant success.
Building confidence and achieving success is not a waiting game. Instead, it's about taking action and practicing new skills, which in turn leads to competence and ultimately, confidence. As the speaker shares from her personal experience, even after building a successful $1 billion company, she and her husband felt the need to start a new project, Impact Theory, driven by a bigger mission and purpose. This sense of mission and passion kept them going, even after selling a portion of their company and receiving a substantial financial reward. The money became a means to further their mission, rather than the end goal. The key takeaway is that having a clear sense of purpose and mission can help fuel our drive and confidence, even during challenging times or when faced with significant success. Confidence is not something we wait for, but something we build through action and dedication to our goals.
Addressing mindset for global impact: Recognize the importance of addressing mindset to help people on a global scale, be it through authentic podcasts or personal interactions. Question 'shoulds' and focus on present happiness for sustainable impact.
Helping people requires addressing both the physical and mental aspects. The speaker, who co-founded Quest Nutrition, realized that while they had successfully catered to those who believed in their worthiness to use their products, there were still many people like her mom who didn't believe they were enough. This led them to recognize the importance of addressing the mind to truly help people on a global scale. They pivoted and started a podcast to reach more people and inspire confidence. It's crucial to be authentic and committed to the mission, but also to ensure personal happiness and well-being to sustain the effort. The speaker emphasizes the importance of questioning "shoulds" and focusing on what truly serves us in the present moment.
Reflecting on Our Beliefs and Actions: Question limiting beliefs, replace 'should' with empowering words, and take ownership to overcome autopilot and achieve goals. Utilize tools like Indeed for efficient hiring and invest money to beat inflation.
Being on autopilot with our belief systems can hold us back from achieving our goals. The use of the word "should" can be particularly limiting, as it can prevent us from questioning whether we truly want or need to do something. To overcome this, it's important to pause and reflect on our actions, replace "should" with empowering words, and take ownership of our responsibilities. Additionally, hiring can be a time-consuming process, but tools like Indeed can streamline it by helping to find qualified candidates and assess their skills. Lastly, it's crucial to invest our money to beat inflation rather than keeping it in a savings account. By implementing these strategies, we can make progress towards our goals and avoid falling into a victim mindset.
Managing finances and businesses effectively: Using tools like Yahoo Finance for investments and Shopify for businesses saves time and provides valuable insights, enabling focus on growth.
Effective management of finances and businesses can significantly improve one's life. In the case of managing finances, using tools like Yahoo Finance to link and view all investment accounts in one place can save time and provide valuable research and data. For starting and growing a business, platforms like Shopify offer an all-in-one solution for selling products and services, making it easier for entrepreneurs to focus on growth rather than the technicalities of setting up an online store. The speaker, a successful businesswoman and author, emphasized the importance of these tools in her own journey to building confidence and achieving her goals. She also shared how expanding the reach of her message through a book allowed her to help women on a larger scale.
Impact of toxic relationships on women's confidence: Toxic relationships can hinder women's confidence, but setting boundaries, identifying non-negotiables, and seeking uplifting partners can help build it back up.
Toxic relationships can significantly impact a woman's confidence more than other stressors like losing a job or selling a house. These relationships can bring women down by mocking their dreams and goals, making them doubt themselves, and even manipulating them into becoming toxic back as a defense mechanism. Identifying and addressing toxic relationships is crucial for building and maintaining confidence. Women should set boundaries and non-negotiables in new relationships and never rely on someone else for their confidence. The speaker learned this lesson the hard way when she met her husband, who uplifted her instead of holding her back. It's important to remember that no one can control another person's behavior, but women can control how they respond and build their confidence back up.
Embracing Fear and Insecurities for Radical Confidence: Radical confidence isn't about being fearless, but acknowledging fears and insecurities while taking action towards goals. Clear boundaries, learning from mistakes, and a growth mindset are key.
Confidence is not about having it all figured out or never experiencing fear or insecurities. Instead, it's about having "radical confidence," which means acknowledging our fears and insecurities but continuing to take action towards our goals. Lisa illustrates this through her personal experience of rebuilding her confidence after a toxic relationship. She emphasizes the importance of having clear boundaries and finding a partner who respects them. Lisa also shares how she uses her insecurities as fuel to drive herself forward, rather than letting them hold her back. Radical confidence is about embracing the unknown, learning from mistakes, and keeping a growth mindset. It's about recognizing that confidence is not a fixed trait but something that can be cultivated through consistent action.
Embracing Insecurities: Instead of letting insecurities hold us back, embrace them as a source of guidance and growth.
Insecurities can hold us back from achieving our goals and living our authentic selves. The speaker shares her personal experience of being bullied and teased in school, which led her to hide her weaknesses and failures to avoid judgment. She realized that her fear of being judged was actually feeding her insecurities instead of eradicating them. To overcome this, she embraced her insecurities and started to listen to the negative voice in her head, recognizing that it was trying to guide her. By acknowledging and addressing her insecurities, she was able to transform the critic in her head into her coach and use it to help her mission. The takeaway is that instead of letting insecurities hold us back, we can learn to embrace them and use them as a source of guidance and growth.
Validating yourself through personal achievements: Focus on building self-worth through personal accomplishments instead of relying on external validation.
It's crucial to validate yourself internally rather than relying on external sources for self-worth. The speaker shares how she got trapped in an identity of being a "great wife" despite not wanting to be a stay-at-home wife. She built her validation around this identity, which limited her personal growth. To avoid this, she reassesses her identity regularly and focuses on building validation through personal achievements. External validation can be a trap, as it can prevent us from leaving comfortable situations or pursuing our true goals. Instead, we should find ways to validate ourselves through our own actions and abilities. The speaker emphasizes that no one else can save us, and we must take responsibility for our own happiness and growth.
Building self-worth and identity from within: Relying on external validation for self-worth is unhealthy. Instead, focus on personal growth and set clear, actionable goals to build a strong sense of self and increase chances of success.
Relying on external validation from others, such as a partner, for self-worth and identity can be unhealthy and unreliable. Instead, building a strong sense of self-worth and identity from within is essential for personal growth and happiness. The speaker shares her experience of relying on her husband's validation, which led to feelings of inadequacy when he was preoccupied or having a bad day. She realized that her validation should come from herself and not from her husband or anyone else. Another key takeaway is the importance of having a clear, well-defined goal towards one's dreams. Without a clear goal, progress can be slow or nonexistent. The "no bullshit, what would it take?" game is a helpful tool for identifying specific actions and metrics to reach a goal. By making goals crystal clear and taking actionable steps towards them, individuals can increase their chances of success.
Understanding the sacrifices needed to achieve ambitious goals: To reach ambitious goals, consider what you're willing to give up and ensure the goal aligns with your desired life.
Setting ambitious goals requires a clear understanding of what it takes to achieve them and a willingness to make sacrifices. By asking yourself what you're truly willing to give up to reach your goal, you can remove excuses and false limitations. For instance, if your goal is to get 100,000 views on 10 videos within 30 days, you might need to cancel date night or give up daily Starbucks runs. This level of introspection can help you determine if the goal aligns with the life you want. Additionally, external factors like appearance can impact confidence, but it's essential to remember that capabilities and personality are not determined by height or other physical attributes. Instead, focusing on building inner confidence and using protective mechanisms in a healthy way can help overcome past experiences of feeling small or insignificant.
Relationships and Surroundings Impact Confidence: Being in toxic relationships or negative surroundings can gradually erode self-confidence, it's crucial to prioritize being with people who uplift and support us.
Our surroundings and relationships can significantly impact our confidence. The speaker shared her personal experience of how being in a toxic relationship with a verbally abusive partner led her to question her abilities, dreams, and even her appearance. The constant manipulation and lack of respect made her doubt herself and ultimately damaged her self-esteem. This is similar to how water droplets can gradually erode a rock over time. It's essential to be aware of such relationships and prioritize being with people who uplift and support us, allowing us to build and maintain our confidence.
Believing in a better relationship is possible: Changing your mindset to believe in a healthy, supportive partnership can lead to better relationships and improved confidence.
Our mindset plays a significant role in the relationships we attract and maintain. If we believe it's impossible to find a partner who uplifts and supports us, then we may settle for unhealthy relationships that erode our confidence. It's essential to change our mindset and believe that a better relationship is possible. Our actions reflect our beliefs, so if we believe we deserve more, we'll act accordingly. Lisa, a guest on the Young and Profiting Podcast, shared her personal experience of being in a toxic relationship that damaged her confidence. She emphasized the importance of self-belief and self-work to find a healthy and supportive partnership. Lisa's book, Radical Confidence, offers valuable insights and practical advice on building self-confidence and finding fulfilling relationships. If you're in a relationship that's negatively impacting your confidence, consider reading Lisa's book for inspiration and guidance.
The Power of Positive Relationships for Personal Growth and Success: Surround yourself with empowering people and positive relationships to boost personal growth and success. Confront insecurities and leave toxic relationships to live a fulfilling life.
Surrounding yourself with empowering people and positive relationships is crucial for personal growth and success. Radical confidence, confronting insecurities, and leaving toxic relationships are key components to living a fulfilling life. Lisa Billieux emphasized the importance of these elements during her interview on the Young and Profiting Podcast. She shared her experience of how leaving a relationship that held her back allowed her business and personal life to flourish. Additionally, she encouraged listeners to confront their fears and insecurities head-on and to find relationships that lift them up and contribute to their confidence. Overall, the message is to prioritize positive relationships and personal growth to overcome challenges and achieve success.
