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    213: How To Stop Obsessing Over Your Ex's Life After A Breakup

    enMay 03, 2023

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    • A relationship that ends is a rental, not something that belongs to us permanentlyFocusing on personal growth and confidence can help let go of negative feelings towards an ex's success and find value within oneself

      Our attachment to past relationships and the belief that our value derives from them can make it difficult for us to move on and be happy for an ex's success. We may feel rejected, resentful, and even worried that someone else is benefiting from what we believe was meant for us. However, it's important to remember that a relationship that ends is a rental, not something that belongs to us permanently. Focusing on our own growth and confidence can help us let go of these negative feelings and find value within ourselves, rather than in external relationships. Don't miss out on the opportunity to join Matthew Hussey for immersive coaching at the virtual retreat. Head to mhvirtualretreat.com to secure your spot.

    • Focus on building value within yourselfInvest in creating your value through your own efforts, traits, and qualities to build self-confidence, not relying on external sources like relationships or possessions.

      Our value comes from within ourselves, not from external sources such as relationships or possessions. It's natural to compare ourselves to others or derive a sense of worth from our relationships, but this is a losing game. Instead, we should focus on building our value through our own efforts, traits, and qualities. This not only applies to our personal relationships but also to our professional lives. Even if we build something of value with someone or in a company, our value remains intact when we leave or lose it. It's essential to recognize this and invest in creating our value outside of ourselves to build a strong foundation of self-confidence. Ultimately, our worth is not determined by external factors but by the person we are and the value we create within ourselves.

    • Focus on building your own valueDon't equate self-worth to external possessions or relationships. Build value through personal growth and focus on what truly matters.

      We must understand the difference between building value in our lives and equating our self-worth to external possessions or relationships. We are the only guaranteed asset we have in life, and relying on external sources for our value can lead to a fear of loss and even staying in toxic situations. Instead, we should focus on building our own value through relationships, careers, and businesses, while recognizing that these things are not our inherent value. Shortcuts to external validation can be tempting but ultimately lead to a lack of freedom and potential unhappiness. By focusing on building our own value, we can hold on to what truly matters and let go of what no longer serves us.

    • Focus on creating value within yourselfBuilding and owning things for yourself brings true value and fulfillment, while neglecting self-development can lead to insecurity and dissatisfaction.

      True value and fulfillment come from building and owning things for yourself, rather than trying to rent or attach yourself to external sources. A healthy relationship or friendship is about growing something valuable together, while maintaining your individual value. However, some people may seek shortcuts by trying to attach themselves to others with perceived value, neglecting the importance of self-development and ownership. This can lead to feelings of insecurity and dissatisfaction, as the value and control are not truly yours. It's essential to focus on creating value within yourself, even if it takes more time and effort, to achieve a sense of true ownership and security.

    • Invest in yourself, not in external validationFocus on personal growth and self-worth, rather than seeking validation from relationships or possessions.

      Instead of seeking validation or value from external sources, such as relationships or possessions, it's essential to focus on investing in oneself and owning one's personal growth and happiness. The speaker emphasizes that our exes or past relationships should not dictate our self-worth, as their success or happiness is not directly related to ours. Instead, we should focus on building and improving ourselves, just as one would with a house, making it beautiful and special. By doing so, we become the masters of our own lives and value, rather than borrowing it from others. The speaker encourages listeners to reflect on their priorities and invest time and energy into themselves, rather than seeking validation from external sources. This may feel challenging at first, especially if one has derived their worth from external sources for a long time, but the rewards of self-investment and self-ownership are invaluable.

    • Investing in Yourself: Building Your Own WorthFocus on building your own worth to approach situations with confidence and overcome fears, comparisons, and post-breakup obsession. Consider attending a virtual retreat as a dedicated investment in yourself.

      Investing in yourself and recognizing your inherent value is essential for personal growth and empowerment. By focusing on building your own worth, you approach situations with confidence and boldness, rather than seeking validation from external sources. This mindset can help you overcome fears, comparisons, and even post-breakup obsession. Consider attending a virtual retreat as a dedicated investment in yourself, where you can clarify your goals, gain confidence, and build the asset that is you. Remember, you own your value, and by investing in yourself, you safeguard yourself against any potential losses in life. To get started, visit mhvirtualretreat.com and book a call with the team.

    • Impactful Perspective and Mindset ShiftListening to the Love Life Podcast can inspire a shift towards a more positive growth mindset, resonating with listeners' doubts and insecurities.

      Listening to the Love Life Podcast can have a profound impact on one's perspective and mindset. The reviews shared during the podcast highlight how the show resonates with listeners' doubts and insecurities, redirecting them towards a more positive growth mindset. The hosts expressed gratitude for the audience's support and encouraged listeners to book appointments for the upcoming virtual retreat at mhvirtualretreat.com before it's too late. A listener's unexpected encounter during a hike served as a reminder of the podcast's reach and impact. Overall, the podcast offers valuable insights and uplifting messages, making it a worthwhile investment of one's time.

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