Podcast Summary
Signs of lack of commitment in communication and energy: Inconsistent communication and energy are indicators of someone not being serious about a relationship. Recognizing these signs can save time and energy.
Instead of focusing on whether someone likes us, we should look for signs of genuine progress in their actions towards us. Two subtle signs of someone not being serious are inconsistency in communication and inconsistency in energy. Inconsistency in communication means that someone may be very active one moment and then disappear for an extended period. This inconsistency shows a lack of commitment to keeping the relationship ongoing. Inconsistency in energy refers to significant changes in someone's enthusiasm towards us. When someone's energy levels fluctuate drastically, it often indicates that they enjoy the experience of being with us but don't want to build something long-term. For instance, someone may shower us with compliments and grand gestures during a date but then disappear for weeks afterwards. These inconsistencies are signs that they may not be serious about progressing the relationship. By recognizing these signs, we can save ourselves time and energy on people who are not genuinely interested in us.
Signs of inconsistency in emotions and future plans: Be cautious of individuals who exhibit intense emotions but lack commitment to future plans, as they may not be serious about a long-term relationship.
The inconsistency of intense emotions and a lack of willingness to project into the future are signs that someone may not be serious about a relationship. These individuals may enjoy the experience of intense emotions but have no intention of investing in a long-term commitment. Their focus is on the present moment and they dismiss the possibility of future plans. This can result in a rollercoaster relationship with bursts of forward momentum followed by sudden reversals. It's important to be aware of these patterns and consider them when evaluating the potential for a meaningful and sustainable relationship.
Signs of a stagnant relationship: If a relationship feels stuck or lacks progression, it may indicate that one or both partners aren't taking it seriously. To deepen the connection, have an open and honest conversation about your feelings and future plans.
If you've been seeing someone for a while and there's a lack of progression or integration in your lives, it could be a sign that they're not taking the relationship seriously. You might find yourselves stuck in a repetitive pattern with no clear direction for the future. If you're both genuinely interested in each other, you'll want to make plans to deepen your connection and spend more time together. When you care about someone, you look forward to sharing experiences and creating new memories with them, not just maintaining a consistent but stagnant routine. So, if you sense that things are standing still in your relationship, consider having an open and honest conversation about your feelings and where you both see things going.
Evaluate progress in a relationship instead of focusing on likes: Instead of fixating on someone's feelings for us, assess if the relationship is making progress and if we're moving towards our goals. If not, prioritize our time and consider moving on.
Instead of focusing on whether someone likes us in a relationship, we should look for signs of genuine progress. Someone can like us, but that doesn't necessarily mean a committed relationship is on the horizon. It's essential to evaluate if the relationship is moving forward and if we're making progress towards our goals. If we can't see progress, it's crucial to value our time and consider moving on. However, it's important to remember that every situation is unique, and there are no black-and-white answers. We can be proactive by taking steps to improve ourselves and the relationship. By shifting our focus from "do they like me?" to "is there progress?", we can make more informed decisions about where to invest our time and energy.
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