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    (Matt Monday): Should You Lower Your Standards?

    enDecember 26, 2022

    Podcast Summary

    • Setting Relationship Standards: Kindness Matters MostIdentify non-negotiables and prioritize kindness in relationships, as it sets the foundation for healthier and more fulfilling connections.

      It's essential to be aware of what truly matters to us in a relationship and set our standards accordingly. Matthew Hussey, in the Love Life Podcast, emphasizes the significance of kindness as a deal-breaker in any relationship. He shares how he values kindness above all else and would not continue a date with someone who exhibits a mean edge or gossips in a nasty way. He encourages listeners to identify their non-negotiables and stick to them, even if they seem high. However, it's also essential to consider the context and intent behind actions or behaviors that might initially seem like deal-breakers. For instance, a text message with misspelled words might not necessarily reflect a lack of intelligence or eloquence. Ultimately, setting and maintaining standards that align with our values can lead to healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

    • Assessing communication skills before a datePhone or video calls can reveal valuable insights into someone's communication style and help determine compatibility, saving time and effort on incompatible dates.

      Having a meaningful conversation with someone before going on a date can save time and help determine compatibility. The speaker emphasizes the importance of assessing someone's articulation and language skills early on, as it can be a significant factor in determining attraction and rapport. A phone call or video call can provide valuable insights into a person's communication style and help avoid wasting time on incompatible dates. The speaker suggests getting on the phone with someone before meeting in person to gauge their expressiveness and gauge whether there is any rapport. This approach can lead to more productive and enjoyable dating experiences.

    • Setting boundaries and managing time in relationshipsEffective communication and prioritizing time and energy are essential for building and maintaining healthy relationships. Set boundaries, communicate clearly, and utilize resources like '9 Texts' to enhance your conversations.

      Effective communication is key in building and maintaining relationships, but it's important to prioritize your time and energy. In the podcast, the speaker mentions that she will speak to someone on the phone, but she won't give them an entire night of her life. This highlights the importance of setting boundaries and managing your time wisely in relationships. Additionally, the speaker encourages listeners to download her free guide, "9 Texts," which provides specific text messages to create more attraction and spice up conversations. This emphasizes the role of communication in building connections and keeping things interesting in a relationship. Overall, the key takeaway is that effective communication and prioritizing your time and energy are essential in building and maintaining healthy relationships. Whether it's through in-person conversations or text messages, the words we choose and the time we invest can make a significant impact. So, make sure to communicate clearly, set boundaries, and utilize resources like the "9 Texts" guide to help you along the way.

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