Podcast Summary
Embrace your power to save yourself: Recognize inner abilities to overcome toxic situations and live up to potential, self-awareness and engagement crucial in healing process, pandemic a catalyst for introspection and self-discovery, unique situations may call for different approaches.
It's essential to recognize and utilize our inner abilities to "save ourselves" from toxic situations or living beneath our potential. And while self-care and kindness are crucial, they should not replace the importance of self-awareness and engagement in our own healing process. The pandemic has given many an opportunity for introspection and self-discovery, highlighting the power within us to overcome impediments and move forward. The concept of "saving yourself" applies to those who are unaware or unwilling to acknowledge their abilities to do so. It's important to remember that everyone's situation is unique, and this concept may not apply to all. But for those it resonates with, it's a call to action to embrace your power and take control of your life.
Babying oneself hinders growth: Self-care becomes detrimental when it hinders personal growth, preventing us from identifying reasons for actions, learning from experiences, and using critical thinking.
Babying oneself, or treating oneself like a baby, can hinder personal growth and development. This behavior can stem from harsh self-talk or a desire for attention and validation. When we baby ourselves, we fail to identify reasons for our actions, learn from our experiences, and use critical thinking. Instead, we remain stagnant and diminish our potential. Saving ourselves, on the other hand, means taking responsibility for our lives and acknowledging the power within us to seek help and tools for growth. This approach fosters personal growth and maturity.
Recognize and utilize inner power to navigate challenges: Make conscious choices for mental health and well-being, set boundaries, seek support, practice self-care
Saving yourself means recognizing and utilizing your inner power to navigate life's challenges, rather than feeling isolated and helpless. It's about making conscious choices to improve your mental health and well-being, even when things aren't perfect. This can involve setting boundaries, seeking support, and practicing self-care. Remember, saving yourself doesn't mean being a lone warrior, but rather being aware of what you need to feel together and taking steps to make that happen. It's an ongoing process, not a destination. So, consider what are the ways you save yourself and make a commitment to prioritize your own well-being today.
Comparing mental control to flying a kite: Managing thoughts requires effort and tools, remember you're not alone in self-improvement journey, focus on personal growth and joy in solitude
Saving oneself from mental turmoil and negative thought patterns can be compared to flying a kite. If you let the string get too long, you lose control, but by reeling it in, you regain control and can navigate the wind better. Similarly, managing thoughts requires effort and application of tools and practices. The journey to self-improvement can feel lonely, but it's important to remember that it won't always be that way. Change is the constant, and finding a supportive tribe, no matter the size, can help alleviate feelings of isolation. Ultimately, the goal is to focus on personal growth and finding joy in solitude, even during challenging times.
Setting and maintaining high standards: Be true to yourself: Identify what truly matters, be self-honest, handle challenges with ease, give yourself breaks, and remove toxic influences for inner peace
Setting and maintaining high standards for oneself requires self-honesty and identifying what truly matters to us. Being best friends with oneself allows for easier handling of life's challenges, but it's important to give ourselves breaks when necessary and not babysit ourselves. The hardest part is attaching our standards to things that genuinely matter to us, rather than comparing ourselves to others or adhering to external pressures. Saving ourselves includes removing ourselves from toxic relationships and cutting out unhealthy influences, allowing us to find peace within ourselves.
Identifying and eliminating sources of disruption to find peace: Honestly communicate and compassionately handle disruptive relationships, understanding disappointment and letting people down are natural, and it's never too late to find good friends.
Taking care of yourself and finding peace is a powerful ability, akin to a superpower. It's important to identify and eliminate anything that disrupts your peace and joy, including unhealthy relationships and habits. However, dealing with people who may be bothered by your self-care can be challenging. Remember, you don't have to internalize their feelings or solve their issues. Instead, be honest and compassionate, and understand that disappointment and letting people down are a natural part of life. If someone consistently disrupts your peace, they may not be meant for your space. Keep in mind that it's never too late to find good friends and build strong relationships.
The importance of a solid support system: Building relationships and finding acceptance is essential for personal growth and self-discovery, even if it takes time and effort.
Building a solid support system and finding people who understand and accept you is a valuable and worthwhile endeavor, even if it takes time and effort. This is especially important for those who are unconventional or have unique perspectives. The example from the movie "Working Girls" illustrates this concept, as Melanie Griffith's character takes a risk and seizes an opportunity to advance in her career without harming others. Similarly, in "The Color Purple," Sealy finds liberation and self-empowerment through the influence of a strong, independent woman. Both stories remind us that saving ourselves doesn't require hurting others and that the journey to self-discovery and growth is often made easier with the help and support of those around us.
Reclaiming Power and Saving Oneself: Women in 'The Color Purple' and 'Where'd You Go Bernadette' demonstrate the strength and resilience needed to save oneself from toxic relationships, reminding us that self-preservation is essential and sometimes drastic actions are necessary.
Saving yourself from toxic situations or regaining your lost strength can be a challenging and complex process. Abusive relationships can make you feel like you depend on the abuser for your identity and understanding of yourself. Leaving such relationships can result in significant consequences, including having to leave home, family, or even incriminate the abuser. However, it's essential to remember that everyone has the inherent ability to save themselves, and sometimes, an external influence can help remind us of that. The movies "The Color Purple" and "Where'd You Go Bernadette" provide powerful examples of women reclaiming their power and saving themselves, even if it seems drastic or erratic to others. It's crucial to recognize that self-preservation doesn't always mean abandoning others, and sometimes, taking care of oneself is the best thing we can do for those around us. Alanis Morissette's "Jagged Little Pill" album is an excellent reminder of the importance of self-expression and refusing to be kept down.
Finding Angels in Life: Valuable Guidance from Influential Figures: Reflect on influential figures in your life, let go of toxic relationships, prioritize emotional and mental equality, and take action to receive what you deserve.
We all need people in our lives who can help us see things from a new perspective and guide us towards making positive changes. The speaker shares her personal experience of having angels or influential figures who have come into her life at pivotal moments, providing her with valuable advice and helping her make important realizations. She emphasizes the importance of letting go of toxic relationships, recognizing the value of emotional and mental equality in significant others, and being resolute in making decisions that prioritize self-care. The act of "saving yourself" is about recognizing your worth and taking action to receive what you deserve in life. It's essential to be aware of the relationships and interactions that drain us and prioritize our own well-being. The speaker encourages us all to reflect on the people in our lives who have had a profound impact on us and to be open to receiving guidance and wisdom from others.
Protect and Save Yourself: Trust others but never abandon self-defense, seek joy and abundance, and utilize resources like FAFSA for financial aid and scholarships to secure your future.
We all need to be prepared to protect ourselves and save ourselves, just as the woman in the image holds both vulnerability and strength. As Apollo Coelho's quote suggests, we should trust others but never abandon our own defense. This means cutting out what doesn't serve us and continuing to seek joy and abundance in our lives. The pandemic may eventually end, but the enduring importance of self-care and looking out for each other remains. Furthermore, opportunities for financial aid and scholarships, like the FAFSA, can help individuals save themselves and secure their futures. So, remember to keep your sword sharpened and continue seeking ways to save and better yourself.
