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    The Debrief w/ Jocko And Dave Berke #24: Don't Be The Easy Button and Keep Your Opinions to Yourself

    enFebruary 02, 2023

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    • Encourage team members to think for themselvesAvoid being the 'easy button' by solving all team problems. Encourage team members to make decisions and think for themselves to foster growth and independence.

      As a leader, it's important to avoid becoming the "easy button" for your team members by constantly solving their problems for them. This can create a dependency on your decision-making and hinder their growth and ability to make decisions independently. In the discussion, Jocko and Dave shared an example of a CEO who was frustrated with her team coming to her for every little question, despite having capable individuals. Jocko advised that the CEO should encourage her team to think for themselves and make decisions, as solving all their problems would make her the "easy button" and limit her time and resources for other important tasks. Keeping your opinions to yourself is also important in this context, as sharing your opinion too frequently can discourage team members from thinking for themselves and developing their own problem-solving skills. The key is to strike a balance between providing guidance and allowing team members to learn and grow through their own experiences.

    • Encouraging Collaboration for Effective DecentralizationCEOs should avoid dominating decision-making and instead encourage junior team members to collaborate, fostering a more inclusive and efficient process.

      Effective decentralization of decision-making within an organization is crucial for efficiency and productivity. However, if the CEO is the only one solving problems, it creates inefficiencies and wastes time. In this case, the issue wasn't due to team members being incapable or unwilling, but rather the CEO's tendency to aggressively advocate for her ideas. To prevent this, the CEO could adopt General Mead's approach and start with the junior team member to encourage collaboration and avoid undue influence. This not only fosters a more inclusive decision-making process but also allows the identification of the minimum viable plan, which may obviate the need for input from higher-level leadership.

    • Framing team brainstorming as a competition can hinder collaboration and innovationLeaders should trust their team's abilities, encourage open communication, and focus on collective success to foster effective planning and collaboration

      Framing team brainstorming sessions as a competition of "best idea wins" can hinder collaboration and innovation. This approach can lead to a power dynamic where the leader holds back information and training from team members, creating an unfair advantage. Instead, it's important for leaders to trust their team's abilities and encourage open communication and collaboration. By detaching from the planning process and providing strategic guidance, leaders can empower their team to come up with effective plans while ensuring that no important details are overlooked. Additionally, focusing on the collective success of the team rather than individual victories can foster a more positive and productive work environment.

    • Shift from competitive mindset to open collaborationEncourage open communication and idea sharing, be fully present and actively listen in team settings to foster effective collaboration and better outcomes

      Effective collaboration in a team setting requires open-mindedness and a shift away from a competitive mindset. Framing projects as a competition for the best idea can hinder the flow of ideas and limit the potential for innovation. Instead, it's essential to encourage open communication and the sharing of ideas, allowing everyone to contribute and learn from each other. Additionally, being fully present and actively listening during team meetings can help individuals better understand the situation at hand and make more informed decisions. By fostering a collaborative environment and encouraging active listening, teams can work together more effectively and produce better outcomes.

    • Detach from personal attachments to ideasLeaders should foster a culture where the best idea wins, ask earnest questions, and let team members execute plans to maximize strengths and create a collaborative work environment.

      Effective leadership involves the ability to detach from personal attachments to ideas and trust the team to come up with the best solutions. This can be particularly challenging for founders and those deeply invested in their ideas, as it may feel like their "baby." However, fostering a culture where the best idea wins, rather than competing for personal victory, can lead to more productive and innovative outcomes. Leaders should strive to ask earnest questions to help their team members see potential blind spots, but ultimately let them execute their plans. By doing so, leaders can maximize the strengths of their team and create a more collaborative and successful work environment.

    • Be open to others' ideas to save brain damage and build influenceBeing open to others' ideas leads to adaptability, better outcomes, increased leadership capital, and improved communication.

      Being open to and implementing viable plans presented by peers, subordinates, or superiors, regardless of position, saves brain damage and builds influence. This approach allows for adaptability to unexpected situations and increases the ability to influence others. When evaluating plans, it's important to remember that no one can predict the future, and being open to different ideas can lead to better outcomes. Additionally, implementing this mindset can lead to increased leadership capital and improved communication. In the words of Jocko, "Let's use their idea."

    • Effective listening and withholding judgment can lead to better outcomesAllowing team members to express themselves freely without imposing opinions fosters creativity, collaboration, and avoids misunderstandings or offense

      Keeping your opinions to yourself can be a powerful tool, especially for leaders. This was highlighted in a conversation where a CEO recognized that she had not been effectively listening to her team and giving them the space to share their ideas. When she finally acknowledged this and allowed her team to express themselves freely, it led to a breakthrough moment for both her and her team. By not imposing her opinions, she was able to create a blank canvas for new ideas to flow, giving her the flexibility to interpret and react in a way that best benefited the team and the project. This approach not only fosters creativity and collaboration but also helps to avoid potential misunderstandings or offense that can come from prematurely sharing strong opinions. In essence, listening and withholding judgment can lead to better outcomes and a more productive team dynamic.

    • Effective communication and open-mindedness are key to successful teamwork and idea generationEncourage collaboration, listen actively, infuse ideas, welcome debates, and use the Explanation Effort Meter to gauge communication effectiveness

      Effective communication and open-mindedness are crucial for successful teamwork and idea generation. The indirect approach, where you infuse your ideas with others', can lead to the best ideas. However, it's essential to encourage pushback and not shy away from healthy debates, as it can help identify potential issues and improve relationships. Additionally, the Explanation Effort Meter (EEM) is a useful tool to gauge the effectiveness of your communication. If you find yourself putting in excessive effort to explain an idea, it might be a sign that you need to listen more and consider the possibility that you might be wrong. Remember, the goal is to foster an environment of collaboration and mutual respect, where everyone's ideas are valued and can contribute to the team's success.

    • Effective communication leads to successPractice active listening, embrace diverse perspectives, and be open to constructive criticism for successful communication and innovative solutions

      Effective communication is crucial for success in both personal and professional relationships. If you have a brilliant idea that you cannot convey clearly and succinctly to another person, there might be a problem with the idea itself. Instead of assuming the other person is an undercover agent or incompetent, try practicing "vigorous listening" by actively listening to their perspective and asking earnest questions. It's important to remember that everyone has unique ideas and perspectives, and a diverse team can lead to innovative solutions. Additionally, embracing constructive criticism and encouraging team members to push back can lead to better decision-making and improved outcomes. As Colonel Hackworth said, "If you're not getting any pushback, you're wrong." So, surround yourself with individuals who challenge you and contribute their ideas, and be open to their feedback.

    • Effective communication and clear explanation are crucial for successful leadershipClear communication and taking ownership of actions are essential for effective leadership. Listen to feedback and adapt explanations to meet understanding.

      Effective communication and clear explanation are crucial for successful leadership. If your team doesn't understand your plan or ideas despite your best efforts, it might be time to reevaluate your approach. The counterintuitive nature of leadership means that the harder you work to convince others, the less effective you may be. Instead, listen to their feedback and adapt your explanation to meet their understanding. The same principle applies to working with kids - using excessive force or effort can hinder progress. The Extreme Ownership Academy offers resources and courses to help individuals improve their leadership skills and take ownership of their situations. The first free course, "Framework of Extreme Ownership," provides practical guidance on how to take ownership in tough situations, while "Barriers to Extreme Ownership" addresses common obstacles to effective leadership. By recognizing the importance of clear communication and taking ownership of our own actions, we can make significant improvements in our personal and professional lives.

    • Recognize personal power to overcome barriersInstead of blaming external factors, take responsibility for your actions and situations to effectively lead and grow.

      Blaming external factors for problems is not productive. Instead, it's essential to recognize that we have the power to overcome barriers and take ownership of our situations. The "Barriers to Extreme Ownership" course at extremeownership.com can help provide guidance on this. For organizational leadership, consider Echelonfront.com. I've also written several books on leadership, including "Extreme Ownership," "Dichotomy Leadership," and "Leadership Strategy and Tactics." Additionally, check out the Warrior Kid podcasts, Jocko Podcast, and Jocko Unraveling. Support these resources by purchasing gear at jockostore.com, originusa.com, or fuel at jockofuel.com. In conclusion, take responsibility for your actions and situations to effectively lead and grow.

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