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    Why your brain is an unreliable narrator (w/ Aparna Nancherla)

    en-usAugust 21, 2023

    Podcast Summary

    • Feeling like a fraud or not deserving of successImposter syndrome is common, even among successful individuals, and it's important to recognize and address these feelings to prevent them from being debilitating. Seek help when needed and remember that you're not alone.

      Imposter syndrome, the feeling of being a fraud or not deserving of success, is a common experience for many people, including successful individuals like Aparna Nancherla. Despite her accomplishments, Aparna has written about her own struggles with imposter syndrome and mental health challenges in her book, "unreliable narrator." These feelings can be debilitating and constant for some, and it's important to recognize and address them. In the podcast episode, Aparna shares her experiences and insights on how to cope with imposter syndrome and other mental health challenges. It's a reminder that even those who seem to have it all together may be dealing with inner doubts and insecurities. So, if you're feeling like a fraud or not good enough, know that you're not alone. It's okay to have doubts and to seek help when needed. And if you're interested in learning more about imposter syndrome and other topics in a fun and educational way, check out the podcast "Who Smarted." It's not just for kids, but for everyone who loves learning and laughing.

    • Exploring Imposter Syndrome: Personal Experiences and Mainstream MisconceptionsImposter syndrome, a feeling of being a fraud despite achievements, can affect anyone, especially women and minorities. Mainstream use of the term can dilute its meaning, but Aparna Nincherla's book offers valuable insights and a relatable perspective.

      The feeling of imposter syndrome, a term used to describe the persistent belief that one is a fraud or undeserving of success, can be a real struggle for many people, particularly women and minorities. Aparna Nincherla, a comedian and author of "Me, Myself and Imposter Syndrome," shares her personal experiences with this phenomenon and discusses how the term has become more commonly used in a diluted way. Imposter syndrome can be a serious issue, leading to mental struggles and feelings of not belonging. However, the mainstreaming of the term can also lead to its meaning becoming distorted. Aparna's book, which tackles this complex issue with a mix of seriousness and silliness, provides valuable insights and a relatable perspective on imposter syndrome. Whether you're dealing with these feelings yourself or just interested in learning more, "Who Smarted" podcast's episode with Aparna Nincherla is a must-listen for a thought-provoking and entertaining exploration of imposter syndrome.

    • Feeling like a fraud or not belonging - Imposter SyndromeImposter syndrome, a common feeling of self-doubt and not belonging, can affect anyone, even successful individuals. It can manifest in various ways, including doubts about appearance and fitting in. Reflecting on personal identity and intentions in comedy can help individuals navigate these feelings and continue to grow.

      Imposter syndrome, the feeling of being a fraud or not belonging, can affect anyone, even those who have found success in their chosen field. In the case of the speaker, a comedian with a background in psychology, imposter syndrome manifested in various ways, including self-doubt about her appearance and fitting in. She used humor to address her feelings, but also recognized that it might set up unrealistic expectations for her audience. The speaker reflects on how her identity and personality may have played a role in her feelings of not belonging, and she has evolved her comedy to address this in a more intentional way. Ultimately, the experience of imposter syndrome is complex and multifaceted, and acknowledging and understanding it can help individuals navigate their feelings and continue to grow and succeed.

    • Sharing experiences with imposter syndromeTalking about imposter syndrome with others and seeking therapy can help break the cycle of self-doubt and remind us of our worth.

      Dealing with impostor syndrome, a feeling of being a fraud or inadequate despite accomplishments, can be a personal and challenging experience. Aparna Nancherla, a comedian, shares her own struggles with this phenomenon and offers some insights for those dealing with similar feelings. One effective strategy is to talk about it with others, as it can help break the cycle of self-doubt and provide reassurance. Therapy can also be beneficial. It's important to remember that imposter syndrome might not be solely an individual issue, and systemic changes can also play a role. Aparna shares a personal experience of being on a panel show where a host listed off her accomplishments, leaving her feeling overwhelmed and unable to fully accept the praise. Despite knowing intellectually that others' successes don't diminish her own worth, it can be difficult to internalize this belief for oneself.

    • Embracing Failures as Learning ExperiencesSharing past failures can be therapeutic and beneficial for personal growth and learning from others' mistakes

      Our self-perception can be intuitive and instinctive, leading us to overlook potential distortions or inaccuracies. This discussion touched upon the concept of a "failure resume," where one lists and even brags about their past failures. The speaker shared her experience of creating one and the unexpected impact it had on her. She discovered that sharing failures can be beneficial, as it helps others learn from mistakes and potentially perform better. The speaker also acknowledged the therapeutic effect of acknowledging past rejections and turning them into opportunities for growth. Despite the initial fear of the impossibly long list of failures, she realized their insignificance in the grand scheme of things. Overall, this conversation emphasized the importance of embracing failures and using them as learning experiences rather than letting them define us.

    • Focus on what's in your controlEmbrace rejections and focus on what you can control to make goals feel more attainable and reduce feelings of being a fraud

      Focusing on what's in our control and embracing rejections can help make goals feel more attainable and reduce feelings of being a fraud. The speaker shares how she used to believe that getting desired things or opportunities would solve all her doubts and insecurities, but realized that this wasn't the case. Instead, she suggests focusing on what we can control, such as applying for jobs or submitting articles, rather than the outcome, which is often out of our control. Additionally, she encourages anticipating rejections and even embracing them as a sign of trying and not being chosen based on randomness and chance. By shifting our mindset in this way, we can approach goals with a more realistic and human perspective.

    • Taking Control and Finding SolutionsAparna Nancherla's unconventional comedy career and Claritin D's powerful allergy relief remind us to trust ourselves, take control, and find solutions that work for us, even when faced with self-doubt or external challenges.

      Both Claritin D and Aparna Nancherla's stories highlight the importance of taking control of one's life and finding solutions on one's own terms, despite feeling like an imposter or facing challenges. For Aparna, this meant blazing her own trail in the comedy world through unconventional means, while for allergy sufferers, it means finding quick and effective relief through Claritin D. Aparna's story shows that even with documented success, one can still struggle with feelings of imposter syndrome and self-doubt. However, she refused to wait for validation from others and instead, embraced the Internet and alternative venues to build her career. Similarly, those suffering from allergies don't have to wait for relief or a prescription, they can simply go to the pharmacy and ask for Claritin D. Both stories emphasize the power of taking action and finding solutions that work for you, even when faced with self-doubt or external challenges. Claritin D's powerful and fast-acting formula allows allergy sufferers to breathe easily and live their lives as if they don't have allergies. Similarly, Aparna's determination and innovative approach to comedy allowed her to build a successful career on her own terms. Both stories remind us that it's important to trust ourselves and take control, even when the path may not be clear or when we feel like an imposter.

    • Embrace your individuality and trust your instinctsOvercome imposter syndrome by trusting yourself and embracing your unique qualities, even when societal pressures try to hold you back

      It's essential to trust yourself and your intuition, even when faced with societal pressures or expectations that don't align with your goals or values. Imposter syndrome can make us feel like we don't belong or that we're not good enough, leading us to doubt ourselves and our abilities. However, it's crucial to remember that everyone experiences self-doubt at times, and it's okay to take risks and make mistakes as we navigate our unique paths. The speaker shares her experience of dealing with imposter syndrome through comedy and humor, such as inventing new words at parties to see if others will follow suit. This playful experiment highlights the social pressure to fit in and the fear of appearing ignorant or out of place. Ultimately, the key takeaway is to embrace your individuality and trust your instincts, even when they lead you outside of the "box" society may have placed you in. By doing so, you'll be better equipped to overcome imposter syndrome and live a more authentic and fulfilling life.

    • The Complexity of Language and Imposter SyndromeLanguage can be confusing with words we've read but not heard, 'fake words', and the subjective nature of experiences leading to imposter syndrome, questioning our understanding and belonging.

      Our understanding and use of language is not always as clear-cut as we may think. People often come across words they've read before but have never heard spoken aloud, leading to confusion about their pronunciation. Additionally, there are "fake words" that sound real and can be used in conversation, adding to the complexity of language. Imposter syndrome, a feeling of inadequacy or self-doubt, can manifest in various aspects of life, not just professional success. It can also impact our perception of our body image and even our health, leading us to question whether we truly belong or if we've been "faking it." The fluidity of language and the subjective nature of experiences can leave us uncertain about the validity of our understanding and our place in the world. The book explores these ideas in depth, shedding light on the nuances of language and the impact of imposter syndrome on our lives.

    • Understanding individual mental health experiencesTrust emotions but question thoughts, balance self-doubt and imposter syndrome, and view imposter syndrome as part of self, not all of self.

      Mental health experiences can be highly individual, making it challenging to identify if one's experience aligns with societal expectations. People with anxious or depressive brains may question their own mental health due to self-doubt and the need to trust their emotions while also questioning their thoughts during low mental states. The balance between trust and skepticism is crucial. Mood fluctuations are natural for everyone, even those with good mental health, and can sometimes trigger self-doubt. Imposter syndrome, a common feeling of inadequacy, can be a part of oneself but may have detrimental ideas. Understanding imposter syndrome as a part of oneself rather than all of oneself can help manage it. The title of the book, "The Most Famous Man in America," perfectly encapsulates the idea of an unreliable narrator, which is a relatable and human experience.

    • The Importance of Supportive Teams and ResourcesSurround yourself with a supportive community and reliable resources for personal and professional growth. Imposter syndrome can be overcome with self-acceptance and a strong team. Trustworthy relationships and all-in-one business solutions are essential for success.

      Key takeaway from this episode of "How to be a Better Human" is the importance of surrounding yourself with a supportive team and reliable resources. Aparna Nancherla, the show's guest, emphasized the role of community and self-acceptance in overcoming imposter syndrome, which is a theme in her book "Unreliable Narrator, Me, Myself, and Imposter Syndrome." The podcast team, led by host Chris Duffy, also highlighted the significance of a strong team, from their production team at PRX to their fact-checkers at TED. Additionally, sponsors Odoo and Brooks Running were mentioned for their all-in-one business solutions and high-quality running shoes, respectively. Overall, the episode underscored the value of trustworthy relationships and resources in personal and professional growth.

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