Just under half a million teenagers will start university this autumn in the UK alone. Whilst it might be an exciting time for the teenager, the family left behind can be left reeling with a sense of grief and loss.  We talk about what you might be feeling and how best to deal with it.  

Also, Alex has asked us to take a look at what we should be saying to our teens about manners. We talk about what they are and what they say about you as a person. 

 
 RESEARCH SOURCES:
 
 EMPTY NEST: https://www.netdoctor.co.uk/parenting/a11692/empty-nest-syndrome/#:~:text=Don't%20make%20them%20feel,OK%20and%20coping%20without%20them.
 https://www.theguardian.com/education/2013/sep/18/parents-coping-when-children-leave-home
 https://psychcentral.com/health/empty-nest-syndrome
 https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2020/09/04/a-majority-of-young-adults-in-the-u-s-live-with-their-parents-for-the-first-time-since-the-great-depression/
 
 MANNERS:
 https://gt20.org/life-resources/etiquette-manners/rules-of-etiquette/
 https://www.wisebread.com/12-lessons-in-manners-from-around-the-world
 https://mannersadvisor.com/whats-the-difference-between-etiquette-and-manners/
 https://www.verywellfamily.com/manners-your-teen-should-use-and-how-to-teach-them-2608864
 https://harappa.education/harappa-diaries/etiquette-and-manners/
 https://www.familyeducation.com/life/manners/how-rude-age-age-guide-teaching-kids-manners

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When we covered the issues of friendship groups, with girls in mind, we had a massive reaction from parents who have been struggling to understand what's going on. Now it's the turn of boys. When friendships work, they are extremely beneficial, but what causes boys to struggle with their mates, and how can we help them?

Also, how do you deal with swearing in your family? Is it absolutely forbidden, does it matter who's doing it and when, or are you all a bit potty-mouthed? We look at the science and the social side of swearing.

References: Teenage Boys

https://www.healthyplace.com/parenting/the-parent-coach/how-to-help-your-son-deal-with-mean-boys
https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2018/11/08/mean-behavior-isnt-just-girls-heres-how-help-your-son-manage-toxic-relationships/
https://www.parentsleague.org/blog/listening-project-fostering-connection-boys%E2%80%99-schools
https://www.menshealth.com/uk/mental-strength/a32002443/the-importance-of-staying-connected/
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/jora.12047
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Deep-Secrets-Friendships-Crisis-Connection/dp/0674072421

Watch/listen with your teen:
https://therepproject.org/films/the-mask-you-live-in/
https://www.ted.com/talks/chimamanda_ngozi_adichie_the_danger_of_a_single_story?language=en
The Diary of a CEO with Steven Bartlett Podcast
The 2022 film Close: https://www.festival-cannes.com/en/festival/films/close


References: Swearing
https://www.verywellfamily.com/managing-disrespectful-teens-3974887
https://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-39082467.amp
https://www.discovermagazine.com/health/worried-about-your-foul-mouth-swearing-could-actually-be-good-for-you
https://www.degruyter.com/document/doi/10.1515/text-2020-0051/html
Text & Talk: An Interdisciplinary Journal of Language, Discourse & Communication Studies.

Thanks for listening. Please hit the follow button if you like our podcast, and share it with anyone who might benefit. You can review us on Apple podcasts by going to the show page, scrolling down to the bottom where you can click on a star then you can leave your message.

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Susie is available for a free 15 minute consultation, and has a great blog:
www.amindful-life.co.uk

Happy Holidays everyone! We celebrate Christmas in our house and Dillon sings some of the tunes from his upcoming non-denominational concert. Only after, mimicking a fitness instructor. **one correction: we went to see Yayoi Kusama's Infinity Mirrors at the Tate modern, not whatever Jenn says in this one! Enjoy!

This week we have an extra long but super fun episode to make up for not dropping an official episode last week. Check out @underconstructionpodcast on Insta for last week's live episode. 

We throw it back to the OG pilot episode of #UCP. Put it simple ‘Cuckholding is enjoying your partner enjoy pleasure without the evolutionary adaptation of jealousy.’  How far have you evolved? (0:00)

Rocky then tells about how is 'Summer Movie' didn't pan out. (6.42)
What are your barriers and boundaries? ‘I put my phone on DND as soon as a notification comes in’ (12:37) What is rude however? ‘Link’s in the bio sis’ (15:18)

#NotLegaladvice: ‘Hospital Covid ward worker used dead patient’s bank card to buy pop and crisps’  (21:25)
We then discuss men’s ‘fear of emasculation’; Why don’t men like their nipple being sucked? / Why don’t men moan? and some advice #PegaWeek  (29:05) 

Apple sets a clear return to work roadmap (Monday, Tuesday, Thursday), what are your thoughts on how we return? Is uncertainty problematic? (45:47)

Transition: His & Her’s - Internet Money 

We dissect ‘GoFundMe culture’. Is any reason valid to make an account? (54:16)  What are your thoughts on sharing a house with a partner purely for rent purposes? (1:27:04)
Finally, Mask on/Off post pandemic? 

Outro: Air Forces - Mustafa

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