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    2 Levels Of Loneliness & 3 Ways To Create Deeper Connections

    enAugust 07, 2020
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    • Planning unforgettable getaways with booking.comInvest in memorable adventures, foster connections, and prioritize personal wellness, including using herbs like slippery elm bark and ginger root from Nature's Way.

      Planning unforgettable getaways is made easy with booking.com, offering a wide range of accommodation options to suit any preference and location in the US, all easily bookable through their app. Another important takeaway is the significance of connection and love during lockdown, with loneliness being a major reason people seek therapy today. According to researchers, finding ways to experience more love and connection, whether through face-to-face conversations or community building, is crucial for mental health. Lastly, investing in one's wellness journey is essential, and herbs like slippery elm bark and ginger root, sourced by Nature's Way for over 50 years, can promote digestive health. Overall, it's important to prioritize planning memorable adventures, fostering connections, and investing in personal wellness.

    • Lockdown leading to social isolation and loneliness61.5% of respondents reported social disconnection, relationships strained, but those living alone reported better experiences. Important to consider decisions carefully, as lockdowns lifted, divorce filings surged in China and Hong Kong.

      The coronavirus lockdown has led to increased feelings of social isolation and loneliness for many people, with 61.5% of respondents reporting significant levels of social disconnection. This is particularly true for those in relationships or living with family, as the stress and confinement of lockdowns have put a strain on some partnerships. On the other hand, those living alone have reported better experiences during this time. It's important to recognize that decisions made during stressful times may not be the best for the long term, and taking the time to consider what truly feels right for you is crucial. In China and Hong Kong, the lifting of lockdown restrictions led to a surge in divorce filings, highlighting the importance of patience and careful consideration when making major decisions. Overall, the pandemic has underscored the importance of finding ways to feel connected and fulfilled, whether that's through setting new boundaries in relationships or seeking out new opportunities for personal growth.

    • Loneliness Amplified During Lockdown: Physical and Emotional DistanceLoneliness, caused by both physical and emotional distance, can negatively impact health. Strong connections increase chances of living longer.

      The lockdown has amplified existing issues in people's lives, whether they are single or surrounded by people. Loneliness, caused by both physical and mental/emotional distance, is a common experience and can have significant negative effects on health. The former surgeon general of the US, Vivek Murthy, even compared the impact of loneliness to smoking 15 cigarettes a day. However, having strong connections in your life can increase your chances of living longer, as stated by Emma Seppala from Stanford University. It's not about the number of people in your life, but how you feel about them and the connections you have with them. The narrative that coupled people have it easier during lockdown might be wrong, as many singles have fared well socially despite physical isolation. It's essential to recognize and address both types of loneliness to feel more connected in your life.

    • Affordable summer experiences and gut health supportCreate meaningful relationships and prioritize mental and physical health with affordable outdoor furniture, gut health supplements, and genuine friendships.

      Creating a comfortable and affordable summer experience is possible with IKEA's affordable outdoor furniture and accessories. Additionally, taking care of your gut health can support your overall well-being with Ritual's Synbiotic Plus supplement. Feeling socially connected is essential for happiness and fulfillment, but it takes time to build meaningful relationships. Don't be discouraged by statistics showing high levels of loneliness among millennials. Instead, focus on building genuine friendships and prioritize your mental and physical health through affordable summer escapes and gut health supplements.

    • Connecting through creativity and innovation during lockdownDespite physical distance, use technology and creativity to connect, combat loneliness, and find unexpected deep connections.

      Despite physical distance and lockdown restrictions, it's possible to connect with others and alleviate feelings of loneliness through creativity and innovation. The story of Jeremy and Toree, who met and went on dates using a drone and a giant inflatable bubble during lockdown, serves as an inspiring example. For those experiencing loneliness due to physical separation from loved ones, utilizing technology such as Zoom for virtual gatherings and activities can help bridge the gap. And for those who haven't met their deep connections yet, the current situation may seem daunting, but creative approaches like Jeremy's can lead to unexpected and meaningful connections. So, keep an open mind and don't be afraid to think outside the box to find ways to connect and combat feelings of isolation.

    • Creative ways to connect amidst physical distancingDespite physical distancing, people are using apps for video dates, unexpected in-person connections, and phone chats to combat feelings of loneliness. Prioritize meaningful connections to avoid deeper feelings of emotional and mental disconnection.

      Despite physical distancing measures, people are finding creative ways to connect and combat feelings of loneliness. During the pandemic, the use of online dating apps, such as Tinder and Bumble, has surged, with many users opting for video dates before meeting in person. A new app called Filter Off also saw a significant increase in sign-ups for video speed dating. In Australia, people have even found romance in unexpected places like supermarkets. For those seeking friendship, an app called Quarantine Chat connects strangers for phone chats. However, it's important to note that loneliness isn't just about being physically alone, but also about feeling emotionally and mentally disconnected. A study found that over half of adults surveyed didn't know one person who truly knew them. Robin Williams once said, "The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone." So, while physical distancing measures may continue, it's essential to prioritize meaningful connections and communication with others to avoid deeper feelings of loneliness.

    • Explore self-connection through passions and interestsFocus on understanding personal likes and dislikes, engage in activities that align with passions, and embrace self-discovery to reduce feelings of loneliness

      To overcome feelings of loneliness caused by mental and emotional distance, it's essential to focus on building a deeper connection with oneself. This can be achieved through simple yet effective strategies like making a list of your likes and dislikes to better understand what truly fulfills you. By engaging in activities that align with your passions and desires, you'll find that even if you're doing it alone, you'll feel less lonely and more connected to yourself. Remember, this process is about self-discovery and uncovering what brings joy and meaning to your life. So take the time to explore your interests and embrace the opportunity to connect with something truly meaningful.

    • Building deeper connections through authenticity and vulnerabilityAuthenticity and vulnerability are crucial for building deep relationships, whether personal or professional. Embrace emotional openness to foster stronger bonds and improve overall wellness.

      Prioritizing deep connections with others and being vulnerable are key to building meaningful relationships. This can be applied to both personal and professional relationships. The discussion highlighted the importance of being authentic and going beyond superficial conversations. Additionally, the use of natural remedies like herbs for overall wellness was emphasized. Companies like CVS Health and Nature's Way offer various services and products to support physical and mental health. Remember, the real challenge isn't physical distance, but emotional disconnection. By being open and vulnerable, we can foster deeper connections and build stronger relationships.

    • Bonding over shared negative experiences can create challenging relationshipsBe thoughtful about relationships, show desired relationship type, and take things slow to build strong connections

      We often form connections based on shared negative experiences or wounds. This can create challenging relationships that are hard to transition to a healthier, more positive space. To avoid this, it's important to be thoughtful about the relationships we want to build and to show people the type of relationship we're looking for, rather than just bonding over negative experiences. Additionally, taking things slow and getting to know someone before bringing physicality into the relationship can help build a stronger, more successful connection in the long term.

    • Building deeper relationships goes beyond physical proximityFocus on self-improvement, authenticity, and quality relationships for joy and fulfillment, not just the number or physical aspects.

      Building meaningful connections goes beyond physical proximity. While it may be tempting to focus on the physical aspects of relationships, especially during times of social distancing, it's important to remember that intimacy and connection come in many forms. Getting to know oneself better, being authentic with others, and taking the time to develop deeper relationships are all effective strategies for overcoming mental and emotional distance. Furthermore, the number of connections we have is subjective, and even a single meaningful relationship can bring significant joy and fulfillment. So, instead of focusing on the number of friends or the external environment, focus on your internal state and the quality of your relationships. Take the time to invest in them, and watch as they grow and deepen over time.

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    What’s holding you back?

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    How to Change Negative Self-Talk

    How to Understand Your Triggers

    How to Set Boundaries

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    Jay Shetty

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    00:00 Intro

    03:08 What is Self-Sabotage?

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    11:08 What Leads to Self-Sabotage?

    14:26 #1: Chronic Lateness

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    19:53 #3: Putting Yourself Down

    23:15 #4: Perfectionism

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    28:53 weird noise in the background

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