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    3 Ways To Get The Most Out Of Therapy & How Therapy Isn't Only for Big Issues and Problems

    enDecember 30, 2022
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    Podcast Summary

    • Communication and Performance: The Keys to Success in Family, Sports, and LifeDeveloping effective communication skills and pursuing excellence in sports can help individuals to make their mark on the world while maintaining a strong sense of identity and understanding of their wider cultures and societies.

      An individual has many roles in life, such as being a son, a big brother and so on, which come with certain duties.Family is the foundation for identity and understanding of wider cultures and societies.Communication is essential for humanity, and it's even more relevant in the current times.Struggling with internal emotions can lead to engaging in activities like sports, in this case track and field.International performance in sports can be a way to make a mark on the world.It is important to provide athletes with the mental health support required to process their feelings.

    • Exploring the Power of Self-AwarenessTaking the time to be honest with ourselves about our emotions and experiences is an essential step to understanding our feelings and making informed decisions.

      Self-awareness is key to understanding our emotions and responding to our environment.We need to be patient with ourselves in order to process our feelings and make decisions.It is important to take the time to reflect on our experiences and feelings.We need to be aware of the external influences on our thoughts and feelings.It is important to have the space to be honest with ourselves and our emotions.Active listening and attentive questioning can help us to better understand our emotions and experiences.

    • Unlocking Empathy and Support Through TherapyTherapy offers a supportive and judgement-free environment to express thoughts and feelings without distraction.

      Therapy provides a unique experience where someone is listening attentively and skillfully to your thoughts and feelings.Everyone can relate to the pressure of having to excel at something as a young person, whether it's a sport, dance, or other activity.Talking to a therapist is different than talking to friends or family because the focus is solely on the person seeking help.Therapists provide an empathetic relationship and listen to what is being said without imposing their own perspective.Such an environment allows for someone to express what they need without distraction or judgement.This can be a powerful tool for those seeking guidance and support to help them through difficult times.

    • Uncovering the Reality of Racial Inequality & Staying SafeUnderstanding the realities of racial inequality and staying safe requires having conversations with people of different races and being aware of how to present oneself in different situations.

      It is important to have conversations with people of different races to better understand each other.Therapy isn't always accessible for everyone, but it is possible to make it more affordable and easier to access.People of color often have to face situations that remind them that the world isn't always fair.Breonna Taylor's experience of being in her own home, in her own bed and still facing danger, shows this reality.Even when people are doing their best to make sure they are safe, they may not be seen in the right light.It is important to get to know neighbors and be aware of how to present oneself in different situations to stay safe.

    • Can We Find Hope and Empowerment in the Face of Adversity?We can use our experiences, and those of those around us, to become a beacon of hope and empowerment in the face of adversity.

      It can be difficult for people to navigate their surroundings when their skin color can be perceived negatively.Even in our own homes, we can sometimes feel unsafe and on edge.But we can find motivation and hope in the people around us, and the stories we tell.We can look to those who have achieved success, and those who use their art to tell stories which break stereotypes.We can take strength in the knowledge that we are not alone, and that together we can be a light in a dark world.We can use our experiences to become a beacon of hope and empowerment in the face of adversity.

    • Unlocking the Power of Breath and Sound HealingTaking a moment to breathe can help us unlock the power of sound healing and connection to our loved ones.

      1) We can feel immense pressure to be our best selves, and to share our light with the world, but it can be difficult at times.2) We can develop skills to help us through the difficult times, such as taking a deep breath and grounding ourself.3) We can also look to our loves and family for support, as well as understanding that we are all connected.4) We can learn mindfulness and sound healing through spaces such as wellness brands.5) We can also make active decisions to relax our body and take a moment to breath.6) Through understanding different cultures and their connection to the same instrument, we can understand the importance of the breath and how it can benefit us.

    • Embracing Life's Active Learning ExperienceSelf-reflection is an integral part of personal growth and development, and can help us to identify our strengths and make a positive difference in our community.

      Reflecting on yourself, your experiences, and your strengths is important for personal growth.We can learn from the experiences of others and from our own experiences in the world.Life is an active learning experience and we should use the beauty we find to inspire and move others.We should strive to help our community and use our skills to make a difference.Even if we have achieved success, there is still work to be done and we should ask ourselves what more can be done.Healthy reflection is essential and can help us better understand ourselves and our ideas.

    • Recognizing Our Experiences To Create ChangeThrough therapy, we can discover our values, process our experiences, and use them to create positive change in the world.

      1) Therapy can be a safe space to nurture your sense of self, discover your values and explore the topics that matter to you.2) It can also be a place to process and reflect on things that have happened in the past and how they relate to the present.3) We can learn from wise words of our elders, such as ‘Don't wait until you are hungry to eat’4) It is important to recognize that the issues in life are what they are, but it is our relationship to them that can be positive or negative.5) We can use our experiences to be a candle in the dark, to create change and shift the space around us.6) It is possible to leave the world better than we found it.

    • Can Intersectionality Help Us Find Belonging?Intersectionality can help us understand different plights, and give us the confidence to find a sense of belonging.

      I have a very ethnic name and have experienced the feeling of being a foreigner even though I was born and raised in the same country.This has made me search for a sense of belonging and shaped who I am.In my profession of mental health, I am still often in the minority and have to prove myself.When I'm in a one-on-one therapy session, there is less pressure and I feel accepted.Intersectionality can help people understand different plights.Growing up in Jamaica, I saw successful people who looked like me and this gave me confidence.

    • Unlocking Your Potential: A Journey of Growth With Supportive TeachersWith the right resources and support, everyone has the capacity to learn and grow.

      1) Everyone needs a teacher to help them learn and grow.2) I was lucky to have teachers who were supportive and encouraging.3) After I left school, I noticed that I did not have a black teacher in my master's program.4) I learned that even if something seems impossible, it can still be achieved if you are intentional, creative, and mindful.5) Therapy helped me to understand my emotions and mental health, giving me strength to help others.6) Everyone has the capacity to learn and develop a toolkit, but they need access to resources and support to truly thrive.

    • Unlocking Authenticity and Progress in Self and SocietyTaking time to invest in ourselves and our self-care is essential for personal growth and collective progress.

      It is important to be thankful for the blessings you have in life and to strive for integration of all aspects of your self.Being authentic and comfortable in your own skin is key to being a person you want to be around.We all need to make progress both individually and collectively.Personal growth and the growth of society are connected.If we care about ourselves, we will care about our kids and their school, town, and city.Taking time to invest in ourselves and our self-care will lead to a better society for all.

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    Jay Shetty

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    • 05:31 How to Deal with Negative People?
    • 09:04 Look Behind the Mask
    • 13:26 Getting Attracted to the Wrong People
    • 15:02 Filling Up the Emptiness
    • 17:23 Surprising Characteristics in Humans
    • 19:10 Our Capacity for Empathy
    • 21:31 What’s Your Most Repeated Thought?
    • 22:34 How Quiet the Mind
    • 24:54 Becoming More Aware
    • 30:20 How We Process What We’re Experiencing
    • 33:42 Who Really Are You?
    • 37:44 How People Think About You
    • 41:00 People’s Perception of You
    • 43:46 The Before and After
    • 46:57 Timeless Knowledge in Books
    • 49:58 What Makes You Excited?
    • 53:16 The Second Self
    • 55:57 The Core of Your Reality
    • 59:21 Limited Language
    • 01:01:41 The Limited Circle of Harmony
    • 01:04:49 Different Thoughts About the World
    • 01:11:04 Slowing Down
    • 01:13:21 Robert on Final Five  

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    4 Ways We Self-Sabotage & 3 Ways to Improve the Relationship We Have With Ourselves

    4 Ways We Self-Sabotage & 3 Ways to Improve the Relationship We Have With Ourselves

    What’s blocking you?

    What’s holding you back?

    Today, Jay talks about the concept of self-sabotage, examining how it manifests in various aspects of our lives and offering strategies for overcoming it. Self-sabotage is defined as behaviors that undermine our own success, happiness, and stated goals. These actions often occur subconsciously, rooted in deep psychological patterns formed during early childhood.

    Jay outlines four primary ways people self-sabotage: chronic lateness, procrastination, putting oneself down, and perfectionism. He also discusses the habit of putting oneself down, which can manifest through over-apologizing or refusing to take credit for accomplishments. This behavior is often linked to low self-esteem or an internalized critical voice from childhood.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to Recognize Self-Sabotage

    How to Stop Putting Yourself Down

    How to Change Negative Self-Talk

    How to Understand Your Triggers

    How to Set Boundaries

    By understanding and working through these patterns, you can unlock your full potential and achieve the success and happiness you desire.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

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    03:08 What is Self-Sabotage?

    05:41 Passive-Aggressive Behavior

    08:22 Behavior that Counters What We Tell Ourselves

    11:08 What Leads to Self-Sabotage?

    14:26 #1: Chronic Lateness

    16:22 #2: Procrastination

    19:53 #3: Putting Yourself Down

    23:15 #4: Perfectionism

    27:01 Three Ways to Deal with Your Self-Sabotaging Behavior

    28:53 weird noise in the background

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