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    How Successful People Train Their Brain For Optimal Performance

    enDecember 04, 2020
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    Podcast Summary

    • Personalized travel and natural health solutionsBooking.com offers diverse accommodations for any traveler, while natural herbs like slippery elm bark and ginger root support digestive health. CVS Health provides comprehensive health services, and doctors Amen and Tana stress the importance of addressing internal and external factors for mental health.

      Planning a successful and personalized travel experience is made easy with booking.com, which offers a wide range of accommodations to suit any preference and budget. Additionally, taking care of one's health is essential for overall well-being, and natural herbs, such as slippery elm bark and ginger root, can support digestive health. Furthermore, CVS Health is leading the way in providing comprehensive health services, including virtual and in-person care, mental health support, and in-home evaluations. Lastly, during their conversation on On Purpose, doctors Daniel Amen and Tana emphasized the importance of addressing both internal and external factors for optimal mental health, redefining challenges as issues related to brain health rather than just mental health.

    • Addressing brain health for mental well-beingExploring brain health through proper nutrition, exercise, and supplements can significantly improve mental well-being. Reevaluating past experiences and taking responsibility for responses leads to healing and growth.

      Mental health issues are often rooted in brain health, and addressing the physical health of the brain through proper nutrition, exercise, and supplements can significantly improve mental well-being. Dr. Eamonn's argument against the stigmatizing term "mental illness" and his focus on brain health is a game-changer in understanding and treating these challenges. Tana's book, "The Relentless Courage of a Scared Child," emphasizes the importance of examining our past experiences through different lenses and taking responsibility for our responses, ultimately leading to healing and growth. Both authors' works underscore the interconnectedness of our physical, mental, and emotional health, and the power of taking care of ourselves in holistic ways.

    • Unexpected healing through helping othersHelping someone else can lead to personal healing and benefit both parties. Engage in self-care and simple strategies to protect and enhance brain function for better mental health.

      Helping someone else can lead to personal healing, even in unexpected situations. This was exemplified in a story shared about a woman who initially hesitated to get involved with a man diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease, only to discover he didn't have the condition but severe depression instead. Over the next six months, she witnessed his transformation from a recluse to an active member of the community. Although he passed away five years later, it was not due to his mental condition. This experience taught her that sometimes, we're called to help others, and the benefits can extend beyond the person we're assisting. Regarding mental health, the situation has worsened since the pandemic, with suicide and drug overdoses occurring every 8 and 14 minutes, respectively, in the US. Before the pandemic, 51% of the population dealt with mental health issues at some point in their lives. To address this issue, a revolution in brain health is necessary, focusing on self-care and simple strategies to protect and enhance brain function. This includes being mindful of things that harm the brain, such as substance abuse, and engaging in activities that promote brain health. By considering the impact of our daily decisions on our brain, we can make choices that contribute to better mental health for ourselves and those around us.

    • Small changes for physical and mental health during summersAffordable outdoor furniture, supplements, and seeking mental health support are simple ways to prioritize physical and mental well-being during summers.

      Taking care of both our physical and mental health is crucial for overall well-being. Summers can be expensive and stressful, but small changes, like affordable outdoor furniture from IKEA or taking a supplement like Ritual's Synbiotic Plus, can make a big difference. Mental health struggles are common, and it's essential to seek support when needed. CVS Health offers various services to help individuals prioritize their health, including virtual care and mental health support. Past statistics indicated that over 25% of adults in the US experienced mental illness, but this number has since increased to approximately 27% due to the pandemic. It's essential to remember that seeking help is not a sign of weakness but an essential step towards improving one's quality of life.

    • Caring for our biology, psychology, social circle, and spiritualityNeglecting any area of our well-being can lead to struggles, seeking help is important, mental discipline is crucial, question negative thoughts, focus on helpful things, and limit exposure to negative news.

      Understanding and addressing the needs of our biology, psychology, social circle, and spirituality is crucial for our overall well-being. Neglecting any one area can lead to significant struggles, much like a car with flat tires. The speaker shares her personal experience of hitting rock bottom and the importance of seeking help and transforming pain into purpose. Additionally, she emphasizes the importance of mental discipline, questioning the validity of negative thoughts, and focusing on what's helpful rather than hurtful. Lastly, she encourages limiting exposure to negative news and information, as it can contribute to mental illness. In essence, taking care of our mental, emotional, and spiritual health is essential for leading a fulfilling and balanced life.

    • Recognizing judgments and embracing authenticityRealizing judgments hinder connection and healing, embrace authenticity to help others and heal yourself.

      Confronting past traumas and healing requires self-awareness and overcoming judgment. The speaker, who had built a facade of perfection while feeling broken inside, was asked to work with people at an addiction treatment center and was initially resistant due to her judgments. However, she had a moment of realization that she was projecting her perfect facade onto others and not truly connecting. By recognizing her judgment and embracing authenticity, she was able to help others and experience transformative moments. Additionally, sharing pain can lessen its burden, making it an especially powerful tool during times of isolation.

    • Addressing issues before they escalate is key to healingSharing pain and finding support can help prevent problems from getting worse. IKEA offers affordable solutions for summer enjoyment, and resilience is crucial for coping with uncertainty and stress.

      Both the nurse and the speaker emphasize the importance of sharing pain and addressing issues before they escalate. The nurse uses the analogy of a boil to illustrate this concept, explaining that once the pressure is released, healing can begin. The speaker then applies this idea to everyday life, encouraging people to share their struggles and find support. Meanwhile, in the commercial part of the discussion, the emphasis is on making summer more affordable and enjoyable through IKEA's offerings of affordable outdoor furniture and accessories. The idea is that everyone deserves to have a summer escape, no matter their budget. Lastly, both the nurse and the speaker encourage resilience and adaptability in the face of uncertainty and stress. The nurse emphasizes that humans have the ability to pivot and thrive, while the speaker encourages people to find ways to cope with the challenges of 2020. In summary, the key takeaway is the importance of addressing issues before they escalate, finding ways to make life's pleasures more accessible, and staying resilient in the face of adversity.

    • Take care of your brain during challenging timesEngage in brain-healthy activities, avoid harmful behaviors, and focus on thoughts and emotions for personal growth

      Taking care of your brain is crucial during challenging times to not only survive but thrive. Engaging in activities that benefit your brain, such as exercise, learning, proper nutrition, and stress management, can help you maintain a positive perspective and focus on what you can control. Conversely, harmful behaviors like substance abuse, sedentary lifestyle, and excessive news consumption can negatively impact your brain and overall well-being. By asking yourself whether your actions are good or bad for your brain, you can make informed decisions that will help you navigate through stressful times and emerge stronger. Additionally, focusing on your thoughts and emotions, practicing mindfulness, and seeking support from resources like books and events can provide valuable insights and tools for personal growth. Remember, relentlesscourage.com is a great place to start your journey towards changing your brain and improving your life.

    • Viewing mental health from a physiological perspectiveTreat brains as friends, heal past traumas, prioritize mental health with resources like booking.com, CVS Health, and BetterHelp.

      Mental health is an essential aspect of our overall well-being, and it's crucial to view it from a physiological perspective. During the discussion with doctors Daniel and Tana Amen, they emphasized the importance of treating our brains as our best friends or worst enemies, depending on how we care for them. They also highlighted the significance of healing from past traumas and offered strategies to do so. To further engage with the topic, be sure to check out the free event at relentlesscourage.com dedicated to the book. Additionally, follow the Amen's on Instagram and grab a copy of their book. Remember, mental health can significantly impact our lives, and taking care of it is essential. During our travels, I've come to rely on booking.com for planning unforgettable getaways. Their wide range of options caters to various preferences, and the ease of booking through their app makes the process seamless. CVS Health is also making strides in prioritizing overall health, offering quality care and support virtually and in-person, in-home evaluations, and mental health services. Lastly, BetterHelp provides online therapy on your schedule, ensuring mental health support is accessible to everyone. By taking care of our mental health, we can make a difference in our lives.

    • Online therapy with BetterHelp: Flexible and affordableBetterHelp connects you with a licensed therapist online, offering flexibility, affordability, and the convenience of accessing sessions from home.

      BetterHelp is a flexible and affordable alternative to in-person therapy. This online platform connects you with a licensed therapist who is personally selected for you. BetterHelp offers the convenience of accessing therapy sessions from the comfort of your own home, making it simpler to fit therapy into your busy schedule. Additionally, the cost is often more affordable than traditional in-person therapy. If you're looking for mental health support and prefer the flexibility and affordability of online therapy, BetterHelp could be a great option for you. For more information, visit betterhelp.com.

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    How to manage stress effectively

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    Jay Shetty

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    • 15:02 Filling Up the Emptiness
    • 17:23 Surprising Characteristics in Humans
    • 19:10 Our Capacity for Empathy
    • 21:31 What’s Your Most Repeated Thought?
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    • 24:54 Becoming More Aware
    • 30:20 How We Process What We’re Experiencing
    • 33:42 Who Really Are You?
    • 37:44 How People Think About You
    • 41:00 People’s Perception of You
    • 43:46 The Before and After
    • 46:57 Timeless Knowledge in Books
    • 49:58 What Makes You Excited?
    • 53:16 The Second Self
    • 55:57 The Core of Your Reality
    • 59:21 Limited Language
    • 01:01:41 The Limited Circle of Harmony
    • 01:04:49 Different Thoughts About the World
    • 01:11:04 Slowing Down
    • 01:13:21 Robert on Final Five  

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    4 Ways We Self-Sabotage & 3 Ways to Improve the Relationship We Have With Ourselves

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    What’s holding you back?

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    How to Stop Putting Yourself Down

    How to Change Negative Self-Talk

    How to Understand Your Triggers

    How to Set Boundaries

    By understanding and working through these patterns, you can unlock your full potential and achieve the success and happiness you desire.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

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    03:08 What is Self-Sabotage?

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    08:22 Behavior that Counters What We Tell Ourselves

    11:08 What Leads to Self-Sabotage?

    14:26 #1: Chronic Lateness

    16:22 #2: Procrastination

    19:53 #3: Putting Yourself Down

    23:15 #4: Perfectionism

    27:01 Three Ways to Deal with Your Self-Sabotaging Behavior

    28:53 weird noise in the background

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