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Connecting Across Languages and Borders - A Friendship Between Mel Robbins and Jay Shetty: Through friendship, we can build connections across languages, cultures and borders and support each other's work.
Mel Robbins is a successful, inspiring woman who has achieved success in various fields, from writing books to producing content to giving speeches.She has made a significant impact on the lives of many people worldwide with her work being translated into 41 languages.Jay Shetty and Mel Robbins are dear friends who bumped into each other last week in Montreal and shared a few hours together.Mel has had a long-time admiration for Jay and views him as her own personal monk.Jay feels the same way about Mel and appreciates the fact that they met four years ago at an event in Utah.Both of them have a strong connection and support each other's work.
Overcoming Challenges to Achieve Happiness: Appreciating the positive moments in life can help us to be happier.
We all experience challenges in life and it can be hard to learn from them.Happiness is an important goal to strive for and it can take a lot of work to achieve.It can be difficult when we have to encourage our loved ones to move on and grow.Often, we can focus on the negative instead of the positive in our lives.Keeping busy can be a way to avoid facing our unhappiness.Taking the time to appreciate the good moments can help us to be happier.
Embracing Contentment and Positivity in Difficult Times: Practising positivity and understanding emotions can help us to be content and happy even in difficult times.
Times have changed and the pandemic has been an emotional challenge for many.Learning to be content and happy even in difficult times is a goal to strive for.Allowing oneself to feel emotions, understanding them and not trying to 'fix' them, can help.Anchoring into the body and slowing down the mind can aid in this.Practising positivity and optimism is helpful.Learning can take place through trial and error or by observing tutorials.
Unlocking Happiness Through Reflection and Goal-Setting: Taking time to reflect on our thoughts and feelings, and setting goals to strive for, can help us unlock our path to happiness.
Learning from our mistakes can be important and effective.Our family can have an impact on our beliefs and behaviours.We deserve to be happy and it is possible to achieve.We should take the chance to make the most of our time with our loved ones.Setting goals and striving for them can help to bring us closer to happiness.Taking time to reflect on our thoughts and feelings can help us to make positive changes.
Unveiling the Complexity of Happiness: Happiness is more than just parties and laughter; it is a spiritual experience that requires time and effort to understand and appreciate.
It is important to strive for mediocrity as that is where most people end up.Happiness is a complex emotion and it can take a long time to understand what it means.We may think of happiness as parties and laughter but it is much more than that.Negativity can be a constant drumbeat if we don't take the time to address our issues.Fixing problems outside of us won't necessarily solve our inner struggles.Taking time to appreciate the beauty around us can be a spiritual experience that helps us to understand true happiness.
Finding Happiness and Peace through Masterclass: Taking the time to be in the moment and creating a balance between spiritual activities and pushing ourselves can lead to greater happiness and peace.
Feeling stressed and anxious can be our default, but it doesn't have to be.If we take the time to be in the moment, we can find happiness and peace.We need to create a balance between quiet, spiritual activities and pushing ourselves.With Masterclass, we can learn from the world's best minds and apply what we learn right away.We can learn how to do whatever we're interested in and the lessons are broken into short videos.Take advantage of the 15% off annual membership for On Purpose with Jay Chevy listeners!
Can We Find Both Peace and Success?: Remember that it is possible to find both peace and success by taking risks and pursuing our dreams.
Many of us feel stuck and think we have to make a choice between taking risks and settling in our current situation.It takes a lot of self-acceptance to realize it is possible to embrace both peace and success.We can look at people in the same situation as us in 10 or 20 years and ask ourselves if that is the kind of life we would be happy with.If the answer is no, it is time to take a risk and pursue our dreams.It is a long journey to get to a point of self-confidence and courage to take that risk.The key is to remember that it is possible to find both peace and success.
Igniting Your Inner Flame to Overcome a "Campaign of Misery: Take action and trust yourself to break free from the cycle of negative thoughts and reach your goals.
We all have an internal flame that is always burning and pushing us to succeed, but it is easy to get caught up in a cycle of negative thoughts.People often convince themselves that they are not capable of achieving their goals and this creates a ‘campaign of misery’ which is like cancer - it eats away at us and causes us pain.To break out of this cycle, we just need to take small steps every day towards our goals, no matter how insignificant they may seem.Everyone successful has once been the president of their own ‘campaign of misery’ and we can all overcome it if we try.Instead of listening to the negative voices in our heads, we should focus on the talents we have and the potential to achieve our dreams.Taking action and trusting ourselves is the only way to break free from the cycle of negative thoughts and reach our goals.
Seize Your Potential and Stop Negative Thoughts From Stifling Your Dreams: Rather than criticizing ourselves and our dreams, focus on our own potential and take action to make our dreams a reality.
1) We all have dreams and potential, but sometimes we let our negative thoughts stop us from achieving them.2) We can either be on the field playing or in the stands watching and criticizing.3) When we are watching others, we tend to compare ourselves to them and think that we can do it better.4) Instead of spending time criticizing, we should use that time to learn and grow.5) Criticizing ourselves and our dreams is not only a passive activity, but it actively destroys our confidence.6) We should focus on our own potential and not let negative thoughts stop us from achieving our dreams.
Can You Dare to Face the Pain of Not Trying?: Taking action is the only way to make progress and achieve success. Don't let fear stop you from trying something new - the pain of not trying is greater than the pain of failing.
People often feel doubt in their ability to do something new and try to laugh it off or avoid it.This only causes more pain and doesn't make the dream go away.Instead of "faking it till you make it", try to get on the court and try until you make it.Realize that the pain of not trying is much greater than the pain of failing.Taking action is the only way to make progress and achieve success.Don't be afraid to try something new, even if you have done it before.
Overcoming Fear and Embracing Opportunity To Rekindle Passion: Taking the opportunity to challenge ourselves, even if it makes us uncomfortable, can be a great way to rekindle old passions and surprise ourselves with our capabilities.
We all can find ourselves feeling lonely and disconnected from our social networks, but it doesn't have to be that way.It's easy to start making friends, even if it's by sending texts to people or making plans with them.Jay Shetty grew up loving public speaking and drama, but hadn't done it for a long time.When he was given the opportunity to be in a movie trailer with Will Smith and Martin Lawrence, he was uncomfortable but he got an acting coach and practiced for five days.It's important to take the opportunity to challenge ourselves, even if it makes us feel uncomfortable.It can be frightening to pursue something we used to love, but with practice and perseverance, we can surprise ourselves with our capabilities.
Harnessing the Power of Learning and Risk-Taking for Success: Taking risks and trying new things, alongside staying humble and open to feedback, are essential for growth and success.
It is important to be open to learning new things, even if they are not in your comfort zone.Achieving success takes effort and hard work.It is important to be aware of your own strengths and weaknesses.Having the courage to take risks and try new things is essential for growth and success.It is important to stay humble and remain open to feedback.It is essential to have an understanding of the difference between dreams and delusions, so you can focus on the right things and make progress.
Unlock Your Dreams Through Confidence & Experimentation: Learning and experimentation are essential components of achieving your dreams; arrogance and insecurity can hinder success.
Dreams are our own personal ambitions and goals; they are unique to us and set us apart.Dreams are directional signals that point us towards certain paths in life.Dreams are deep-rooted, coming from our innate curiosity and intelligence.We need to be confident and willing to take risks when pursuing our dreams.Arrogance and conceit can prevent us from achieving our dreams, as they often come from a place of insecurity.It is okay to have big dreams and lofty aspirations, but we must also focus on learning and experimenting to reach them.
Embracing the Journey of Pursuing Your Dreams: Focus on the journey and let the result be a bonus as it can be more satisfying.
Having dreams is important as they give you a direction in life.You should strive to do something that makes you come alive inside.Even when you don't know what the outcome will be, you should pursue what you love.This can help you connect with people and learn more.Don't focus too much on the result, as it can be unsatisfying.Enjoy the journey and let the result be a bonus.
Reaching the Top of the Trail: Finding Meaning on the Journey: Meaning in life comes from working on something we care about with intention, no matter where we are on the journey.
If we focus on the impact we want to make and the stories we want to tell, that is the real dream.It's important to remember that we are on the bridge, and the journey is just as important as the destination.Meaning in life comes from working on something we care about with intention.Planting a garden or going for a hike can create meaning if it's important to us.The purpose of the journey is not necessarily to reach the top, it's to be on the trail.Meaning comes from reminding ourselves that each step will lead us somewhere.
Crossing the Bridge to Find True Happiness: Dare to follow your own path and bridge each moment to the next with those you love.
Happiness is not about finding a silver bullet and achieving our dreams, but instead it is about identifying where we are fighting against our potential and allowing ourselves to start walking across that bridge.The world is like a bridge, we should not build our house on it but instead cross it.As parents, the most important thing is to encourage our children to fly into this world and become who they are meant to be.We should bridge the moment to the next moment with the ones we love, even when saying goodbye.Goodbyes are difficult but also beautiful, as they are a new beginning of some sort.We should strive not to live up to our parents' expectations but to follow our own paths.
Acknowledging Our Parental Experiences and Reaching Goals Despite Low Expectations: Recognizing the impact of parental experiences on our lives and setting appropriate goals despite any existing low expectations is key to our emotional wellbeing.
Parents can either have high expectations for their children or low expectations.Even when parents have low expectations, children can still have a goal they want to reach.All adults have gone through experiences in their childhood that left them with negative or toxic thinking patterns.It is important to acknowledge that our parents may have messed us up in some way.Dr. Russell Kennedy believes all anxiety is a result of feeling separated from parents when you are young.Our bodies remember negative experiences from childhood and may repeat the same behavior when we are adults.
Becoming an Adult and Breaking Free from Parental Pressure: Taking responsibility for our own decisions and embracing our own independence is the best way to honour our parents and make them proud.
1) Being an adult gives us the freedom to decide how we want to think and talk, rather than copying our parents.2) It is normal to feel guilty and pressurised when trying to please our parents, as they were the ones who took care of us when we were children.3) If our parents are not paying our bills, then their opinion should not matter.4) Paying our own way gives us a sense of empowerment and helps us to become independent.5) Parents should listen to their children, validate their feelings and help them make decisions that are right for them.6) The best thing parents can do for their children is to help them find out what makes them happy and support them in it.
Taking Control Over Puberty: A Milestone for Every Girl's Journey: Girls aged 13 and above need to be empowered to take control over the conversation about their bodies during puberty.
Life is a journey and every year of your life is a milestone.When you're a child, you have to rely on adults to guide you.But when you're an adult, you get to make your own decisions.Boys and girls have the same confidence at the age of 12.But from the age of 13, girls start to lose confidence because of puberty.Puberty can be uncomfortable as it makes girls feel like they lose control over the conversation about their bodies.
Breaking the Confidence Loop: Overcoming Uncertainty Through Taking Risks: Gain confidence by pushing boundaries and trying new things, even if we fail.
Everyone starts off feeling uncertain about themselves as they grow up.Boys in particular tend to benefit from puberty, since their physical changes often result in them being more successful in high school sports.Girls on the other hand are often coddled and are taught to be 'nice'.This can lead to a lack of confidence in women, which is why it is important to do things outside of our comfort zone.Confidence comes from trying new things and pushing our boundaries, even if we fail.With each new thing we try and fail, we gain a little more competence - and that is the confidence loop.
Step Out of Your Comfort Zone and Gain Confidence: Action is the Key to Gaining Confidence and Letting Go of Things that Don't Serve You Will Help You Move Forward.
Action is the key to gaining confidence. You can try something even if you don't feel 100% qualified.Don't talk yourself out of things you want to do – it will waste precious years of your life.The 60% rule – if you feel 60% qualified, go for it.Step out of your comfort zone and take a risk.Don't be afraid to try – you won't die, you'll only learn something.Let go of things that don't serve you – relationships, excuses, complaints – to conserve energy and move forward.
Conquer Your Fears and Take Action with the '60% Rule': Use your energy in a positive way to look for new opportunities and take action without hesitation.
We often find ourselves complaining, gossiping and making excuses when things don't go our way.Instead of using this energy in a negative way, we should use it to look for new opportunities.The same amount of energy can be used for a more positive cause.Mel Robbins introduced the '60% Rule' which encourages us to take action and not hesitate.This can be done through the 'Five Second Rule' and counting down from 5 to 1 to focus on the action and not on the doubts.Even in relationships, we may find ourselves ahead or behind our partners in terms of growth and evolution. It is important to be understanding and supportive of each other.
Recognizing Our Insecurities and Embracing Change: Change can help us realize our own insecurities and be an opportunity to start walking towards our goals, so it is important to recognize our insecurities and be supportive of ourselves and others.
It is normal to feel envious or even be a bit of a jerk when someone close to us changes.Change can make us question our own habits and patterns and make us realize that some of the things we do don't work.It can be easier to question and even sabotage someone else's change because it can make us wake up to our own insecurities.It is important to recognize when our insecurities are blocking us and use it as an opportunity to start walking towards our goals.We need to be supportive of ourselves and others as we all go through different changes in life.When faced with difficult changes, it is important to remember that it is only us that care about what is in our glass.
Be the Light on the Path Ahead: Focus on your own progress and be an example to those you are trying to encourage and support. Ask leading questions and provide a listening ear, instead of telling others what to do.
It is normal to try and encourage someone to join you in your journey.The best way to support someone is to focus on your own progress and be an example.Ask leading questions rather than telling someone what to do.Let the person know that you are there to listen and they don’t need to worry about what you think.Be the light on the path ahead and don’t be discouraged if someone takes a different route.You can do simple exercises to help someone who is struggling with happiness, confidence or resisting changes.
Taking the Small Steps to Find Lasting Happiness: Making small changes in life can lead to big improvements in overall happiness.
A young woman was at a crossroads in her life. She had planned a big trip but it wasn't going to happen.A wise person suggested that she take a piece of paper and draw a line down the center. On the left side, she was to write "happy me".She was asked to think of a time when she was happy and detail what she was doing that week.It was suggested that she compare her current life to her happy life and see what she could do to make changes.She was reminded that life is made up of small details and to focus on adding just one of those details each day to her life.She was surprised to find that making small changes in her life could make a huge difference in her life.
Appreciating the Little Steps and Supporting Effort: Respect the opinions and decisions of those you care about and celebrate the effort made and successes achieved instead of pointing out what hasn't been done.
It is important to appreciate and encourage the small steps taken in any journey.Acknowledging the little successes can be powerfully motivating.Respect the opinions and decisions of those you care about.Don’t put too much pressure on yourself or others for what hasn’t happened.Celebrate the effort made and successes achieved.Offer support and encouragement instead of pointing out what hasn’t been done.
Celebrating Little Wins and Encouraging Others: Acknowledge the small steps of progress and celebrate the little wins to be kind to yourself.
Being kind to ourselves is important, no matter how small the accomplishments.We tend to be harsher on ourselves than others, and this can lead to us taking out our frustrations on those around us.Acknowledging the small steps of progress can be beneficial, and it's important to celebrate the little wins.It's okay to take a long time to achieve something, as long as you learn something in the process.When we see someone else making progress, we should be encouraging, as it usually comes from a place of love.Taking time to reflect on our learnings and sharing them with others can be beneficial.
