Podcast Summary
Make dates enjoyable and easy to end: Plan short, fun dates and focus on the experience to increase chances of a genuine connection
To make the most of your dating experiences, avoid long and awkward dates that are hard to escape from. Instead, plan dates that are easy to end if things aren't going well, and that offer opportunities for spontaneous fun. By doing so, you can create a more enjoyable and less stressful dating environment, and increase your chances of making a genuine connection. Additionally, try to shift your mindset and focus on the experience itself, rather than labeling it as a "date." This can help make the process feel more natural and less like an ordeal.
Separate date components using the rule of thirds: Divide a date into three parts and plan each one at a different location to create a more enjoyable and less pressured experience
Planning a date using the rule of thirds can help create a more enjoyable and less pressured experience. Instead of trying to fit all three parts of a date - conversation, activity, and potentially intimacy - into one location, consider separating them into distinct compartments. For example, start with a low-pressure first third, such as having a drink at a bar or in a park. This allows you to get to know each other without the added pressure of a formal dinner or other expectations. After assessing the chemistry and having a good time, you can then move on to a fun activity together, like bowling or another shared experience. This second third of the date can be longer and more engaging, as you've already established a connection. By separating the components of the date, you can create a more spontaneous and enjoyable experience, reducing the pressure that often comes with traditional dinner dates. Remember, the goal is to have a good time and get to know each other, and the rule of thirds can help make that happen.
Structuring a date using the 'rule of thirds': Divide a date into thirds, start with a fun, casual activity, and keep the second two-thirds flexible to build a connection and make the date feel organic
Structuring a date using the "rule of thirds" can create a more enjoyable and spontaneous experience for both parties. By starting with a casual, fun activity, you allow the date to flow naturally and send the message that you're flexible and open to spending more time together if it goes well. This approach also puts the pressure on the second two-thirds of the date, ensuring that you're already having a good time before committing to a longer engagement. You don't always have to switch venues for each third, but make sure the first third is in a place where you can easily continue or escape if needed. Overall, this strategy helps build a connection and make the date feel more organic.
