Podcast Summary
Stand out on dating apps with commonality, challenge, or humor: Comment on relatable pics for commonality, send engaging messages for challenge, and use light-hearted humor to make a great first impression on dating apps, all while maintaining confidence.
When trying to make a first impression on a dating app, it's important to stand out by showing commonality, creating a sense of challenge, or using humor. Matthew Hussey, from the 'Love Life' podcast, shares three specific messages for each approach. For commonality, comment on a non-serious picture they've posted, showing that you've noticed something relatable about them. For creating a sense of challenge, send a message that requires a response, engaging them in a playful back-and-forth. Lastly, for using humor, craft a light-hearted and funny message to make them smile. But remember, confidence is key. Stay tuned until the end of the episode to learn the mindset for confidence that will give you the courage to send these messages and make a move. It's not just about knowing what to do, but also having the right mindset to do it.
Using humor and playfulness in initial messages on dating apps: Customized, light-hearted messages that show genuine interest and a sense of humor can increase chances of making a connection on dating apps
Using humor and showing a sense of playfulness in your initial messages on dating apps can increase your chances of making a connection. The first message, "no idea if we'd get along, but your Jurassic Park t-shirt is a step in the right direction," is a challenge message that shows you've noticed something you like about the person but are unsure if there's mutual interest. The second message, "just looking at your profile makes me want pasta," is a light-hearted message that shows you have a sense of humor and can be playful. These messages can be customized based on specific details in the person's profile, making it clear that you've taken the time to show genuine interest. By using humor and playfulness, you can create a positive and engaging first impression, potentially leading to a successful match.
Lead with your intentions, not your ego: Focusing on intentions over ego allows for overcoming fear of rejection and taking risks for meaningful connections
When trying to make a move in social situations, whether it's on a dating app or in real life, it's important to be guided by your intentions rather than your ego. Our ego can hold us back from taking risks due to the fear of rejection, which can threaten the identity we've built up for ourselves. However, focusing too much on our ego can also prevent us from taking risks that could lead to new experiences and potential growth. By leading with our intentions, we can overcome our fear of rejection and take bold steps towards building meaningful connections with others. Remember, the key is to focus on what you genuinely want and desire, rather than worrying about how others perceive you.
The importance of true love over ego: Focus on genuine connections and prioritize true love over ego to overcome fear of rejection and find meaningful relationships.
The pursuit of true love is more important than protecting one's ego. The speaker shares their deep desire for a meaningful connection with someone who truly sees and accepts them for who they are. They emphasize that the person who doesn't accept or want them is not important to their pure intention of finding genuine love. The speaker encourages others to focus on moving early dating situations forward and finding the person who genuinely wants them, rather than getting caught up in rejections or unfulfilling situationships. By prioritizing the intention of finding true love, one can overcome the fear of rejection and focus on what truly matters. The Momentum Texts program offers practical tools to help individuals navigate early dating and move towards meaningful connections.
