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Are you a "Yes" Person? 

So many of us were raised to be good people that should never ruffle anyone's feathers and accept things the way they are. The idea is to always say "Yes" to avoid any issue or confrontations.

That's just not healthy! 

Humans are not robots. We have feelings and when we have them, it's appropriate to honor them and speak our truth.

Join Robert Landau as he shows you that saying "No" is healthy and goes a long, long way.

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This might come as a surprise, but telling people “no” isn’t actually one of the seven deadly sins. Here’s what actually happens when you say “no” to things you don’t align with that consistently drain you: You open up all of the doors for the “HELL YES” opportunities to come flooding in!

But if you’re anything like us and tend towards people pleasing, creating boundaries can feel foreign. And that inherent desire to avoid conflict and keep the peace can often do more harm than good. That’s why we’ve committed to learning how, and when, to prioritize our own needs, so we can show up as our best selves for all the wonderful things we say yes to. Because we can’t do it all, and our time and energy are finite resources. 

There's a lot of talk, and a lot to be said, for the power of Yes, but No hasn’t gotten the same star treatment and we think it’s time to change that. From increasing productivity and preventing burnout to building healthy relationships, this week we’re giving “No” the rebrand it deserves!

Join us as we chat about:

• Overcoming the need to people-please
• How to rewire your brain to make different decisions
• Our one exception for avoiding “no” 
• The ways no has changed our lives and opened new doors
• How to set healthy boundaries and communicate effectively
• Tips for getting better at saying no
• The importance of honesty and vulnerability 
• The 3 questions to help you make any decision

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In today's episode we are sharing the power of the Sacred No. 

It is a tool that is essential to have in your life and ready to go. The Sacred No is a key to personal empowerment, clear direction and anything you want to manifest in your life. 

We share practices to help you learn to embody the Sacred No, which is also a path to embodying yourself as Sacred. You are the guardian of your body and your Hearts desires and honoring these Divine gifts will alchemize your life into gold. 

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CEO of The Intimacy Experts Marla Mattenson, is sharing her Ethical Sales Process and how it doesn't just apply to business, but can also show up in our relationships with family, friends, and loved ones. This is a powerful conversation especially if you could use some training on how to not only say "no", but how to receive a "no" in all kinds of human transactions. Whether it's love, finances, or sharing ideas, get ready to boost your awareness on ethical sales practices across the board.

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Saying no can be very difficult for any human, but I believe it's especially hard for adults with ADHD. In this episode you'll learn:

• Why saying no is hard for us
• What executive functions are involved in saying no
• Practical tips on exactly HOW to say no

ADHDer, the more you say no when you want to, the more you are in the driver's seat of your own life. Enjoy!

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Believe it or not, “No” is a complete sentence. But it’s one that takes courage, clarity, strength, & tact to use effectively on a daily basis. But once you understand the power of a “no,” it creates space for the best opportunities that deserve your “yes.”

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When to say No at work is a critical as how you say no at work. 

 You don’t want to offend others, or appear to be unreasonable or difficult. Even more important, you don’t want to let others down, be a walk over or overload yourself.

 Getting good at how to say no is a key skill to develop as early as possible. If you go into the management ranks without being good at saying no, your problems will only multiply. 

 So when should we say no in the workplace?

 We go through 5 reasons you should say no at work. Then we go through how to say no professionally at work.

 Firstly, learn to say no at work when you are maxed out. If you have little or no spare capacity, then you must say no. Letting people down is much worse than saying no up front.

 Secondly, say no at work when you are not the right person. Explain you don’t have the right skills, the right experience or enough time or the key reason why you are not the right person. This is key in how to say no without feeling guilty. 

 Thirdly, Say no at work when doing the work will prevent you from delivering your own goals or objectives. Your formal objectives should be the most important goals to achieve. Say no when additional work conflicts with these or prevents you achieving them. 

 Fourth, say no at work when you can deliver what is required. This might be due to workload, capability, or any number of reasons. If you are not sure you can deliver, say no and suggest someone who can. 

 The fifth reason for when to say no at work is when the task or project creates a big conflict with your values. These situations do occur, and you have to balance your personal comfort and happiness with potential negative impacts to your reputation.

 How to say no at work is super important. Always provide a reason why you are saying no. Ideally this reason should be one of the five reasons we have covered. 

 How to say no to boss at work is exactly the same. Explain why you are saying no and say no. If you can explain that doing this extra task/project with endanger the completion of another task/project your boss has asked you to do – even better.

 When planning how to say no, be considerate of the other persons situation and feelings. Be diplomatic and be firm. 

In this episode we’re exploring a much requested topic in regards to Burnout Prevention and Recovery: how to say NO.

People who struggle with Burnout often identify as people pleasers and overachievers who can’t say no - hence why they end up overloaded, overwhelmed and overcooked.

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Saying yes too many times to things I don’t really want to do builds up a lot of resentment. When someone taps into my desire to belong, take care of people and be of benefit to those around me, it’s easy for me to say yes before I’ve even processed their request.

I like my brain space to be mellow these days, and I like simple matter-of-fact decision-making. One of my clues that I haven’t maintained a boundary is that I think about it all the time, and it clogs up my mind and creates tumultuous emotions.

I have to own my own emotions and my involvement in becoming the person who is solving someone else’s problems.

To stop overcommitting, I have to first be honest about what I want to accomplish and do for myself. What do those goals require of me mentally, timewise, financially, socially, and physically? I can only stop overcommitting if I assign value to my own goals and KNOW what they take so that I know how much a new project might overwhelm or derail my plans and desires. And that makes it a lot easier to stand by and let others resolve their goals without me taking it over or managing it for them – because I am managing myself really well instead.

When you want to please everyone, you don’t even realize you have a limit of your own until you’ve gone so far past it that you are overwhelmed, tired, and resentful. We have to stop that! Being yourself and doing your stuff is enough. We don’t need to get love by solving other people’s problems. We are worthy of love simply when existing, as we are, with no strings or favors attached.

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A worry we have when transitioning environments is that the same problems we had in our last experience might follow us to our new one. We often externalize these fears and blame our troubles on the outside circumstances rather than on ourselves. But we also have a deep worry that the situation will repeat, because we know on some level that it’s us who have the problem, and running from our problems can’t actually solve anything.

To solve the problem, we need to get honest with ourselves about the part we play in our current woes and commit to changing how we behave, feel, and think about it. And that is SO scary for us that most of the time we keep ourselves too busy to have enough time to realistically do that.

Here are some strategies for coming to terms with conflict and setting boundaries that allow us to set the security and peace that we are hoping for, even when it feels really hard.

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As a CEO, are you continuously pulled in a lot of different directions in the day-to-day operations of your company? Are you feeling like there’s no end to the demands on your time?

This is often caused by your greatest strength: being able to bite off more than you can chew, chewing like crazy, and saying yes to every opportunity to help grow your business.

However, as you grow, your greatest strength can become your greatest weakness, and cost you time, money, and create a lot of frustration.

In this week’s video, I’ll help clarify what your role as the CEO is, and where your focus should be in your company. I'll show you how to transition from day-to-day busyness to a more strategic leadership role, so your business can continue to grow.

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Today on Christa's Corner we talk all about the power of saying no. Christa gives you tangible tips to apply to your life today!  

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According to Warren Buffett, really successful people say no to almost everything. That’s great for Warren, but when you’re just starting out, ‘no’ is a lot harder to say, especially for new side business entrepreneurs. So, Lori Vajda and Nola Boea sat down with Rapid Rewire expert Michele Molitor. Michele is the co-author of the best-selling book “Breakthrough Healing” and author of the eBooks + audiobooks, “Tapping into Your Power & Presence” and “Saying No With Grace & Grit,”  In this episode Michele shares her experience, insights and tips so listeners can learn the why, how, and what to say ‘no’ to, so you can say ‘yes’ to the right things.

In This Episode You’ll Learn

• The power of ‘no’ and how saying it to the right things ensures you won’t do too much needless work.
• How entrepreneurs are wired to say ‘yes’ due to FOMO (Fear of Missing Out).
• The simple, yet powerful reason saying no doesn’t equate to missing out on potential business. 
• The 3 tips for effective prioritization.

(6:22.36) How your brain self-sabotages you and keeps you stuck. These steps help plant make new and different choices based on where you are today. 

(9:15.31) The three primary reasons entrepreneurs have such a hard time saying no, and the steps to quickly turn that around for the better.

(12:04.41) How to decide when it's time to fire clients? The first clue may be that the work feels eerily similar to pushing rocks uphill. These other clues can help you find the words to let go gracefully? 

(13:52:42) When it comes to business, men and women have uniquely different approaches to saying no. Is one better than the other?

(15:35:33) Getting business may be the name of the game, but serving the wrong type of client can exhaust your energy. When you know how to do this one thing, attracting your ideal clients becomes so much easier.

(17:23:14) Positive emotions vibrate at a higher frequency and negative emotions vibrate at a lower frequency. The simple tip for using the law of attraction to attract your ideal client.

(19:27:60) Saying no is like exercising a muscle. You have to work at it. To help separate saying yes too often and not enough nos, follow these tips, suggestions and tools so you can reclaim your power in situations where they feel compelled to say yes.

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