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Ian Tompkins is a life and business coach who lives in Ithaca NY. He is an amazing Dad to his three year old son, Soren. In this lively conversation, Ian shares why being "present" is so important to him when he spends time with Soren. We talk about unconditional love and watching Soren's life unfold. It's a very moving and meaningful conversation. Enjoy!

Elisabeth Harrod, B. A. Elementary Education (K-6)
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"One generation full of unconditionally loving parents would change the
brain of the next generation, and with that, the world." – Dr. Charles
Raison/EH V2

In this episode, we will be discussing the difficult topic of when one of our children strays off the path. As a parent, it can be heartbreaking to see your child making "wrong" choices. Marci will offer you a different perspective that will create peace and empower you to show up in faith, trust and confidence. 

Many mothers are operating from fear, sadness, and guilt. You will learn you have a choice to choose faith, trust, and confidence. 

While the focus of this episode is on mothers, the lessons shared can be applied to other relationships as well. We will explore the unnecessary guilt and suffering that often accompanies the feeling that our child has strayed from the path. We will discuss how to acknowledge what's happening for you while keeping yourself in clean pain instead of dirty pain. We will also address the idea of not knowing what's best for our child and how to love and accept them while still staying true to your beliefs. 

Ultimately, we will explore the idea of viewing our child's journey like a documentary and how we can support them through their experiences. If you are struggling with a child who has strayed from the path, this episode is for you.

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This week has left us feeling like we were on autopilot!  There's always something crazy going on in our home.  Right now, April is scared for her life because Loren is trying to quit a bad habit.  
Are you superstitious?  Find out if the ladies are and which superstitions they believe in most.  April and Loren have a strong discussion on whether or not they believe a place of employment should be able to dictate what you do on your personal time.
The big topic - do you have a hard time relating to your kids?  Is it important to find a commonality between you are your children?  Find out what the ladies have to say about this and so much more in this week's episode.

Don't forget, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me, & My Ex" on Discovery+.

After a two week break, the women are back!  April and Loren admit that even though they see each other every day, their lives are still so hectic that they sometimes only have time for a quick hi and bye.
Why has April been feeling 'mom failure' lately?  What do the ladies have planned for Halloween?  In this episode, April and Loren discuss being in relationships and still making time for friendships.  Should you just dive head first into romance and forget about your friends?  Hear what the women have to say about this topic and so much more.  Be sure to listen til the end to find out the Shit Show Mom of the week story.

Don't forget, you can now stream Season 1 of "You, Me, & My Ex" on Discovery+.

What's been keeping me up? Participation awards, putting in the effort, resumes, job interviews and blackmail....

I loved having this conversation with Alex, my nephew, on how to improve schools. Alex has a unique way of seeing things and wants to improve his school for the better. There are so many outstanding teachers out there. This conversation is not meant to discredit teachers. This is a different way to look at reframing things from the eyes of the student. 

What we go over on how to make school better:  

• Dirty water fountains, the school should have safer water for kids.
• Reframing how teachers ask if there are any questions
• Positive ways to encourage kids to ask questions
• Alex disagrees that recess should go away as a punishment. Kids need movement to get their energy out so they can focus in class
• Fun fact from Alex - the kids riding their bikes to school are more focused than those who don’t
• Teachers should be teaching about financial literacy
• Kindergarten was fun because the learned kids learned through doing and participating in activities
• Alex’s favorite subject is reading. We discuss ways to make reading fun and still educational
• Standardized testing is outrageous, in Alex’s words. Too much pressure on kids and not a great measure of what children actually know
• Ways to spend more time on socialization to help kids make new friends and learn how to be social

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Punk wants to know, Are girls taught how to treat men? Why aren’t men considered the prize?? Do you give your partner a pass for their upbringing? The crew discuss the conflict between Da Baby and DaniLeigh. Was she a side chick?  Big Homie wants to know can you love your main chick and side chick?  Your kids hate your new boyfriend/ girlfriend!  How would you handle it?  Things get deep when SIFTB discuss parenting.  Does the first child have it the hardest?  This and More!!!!

In this episode, April and Loren discuss mom burnout.  After two weeks of quarantine, this conversation is so relevant.  How have the women handled coparenting with two family members testing positive for Covid?  
Listen to Loren's experience of being exhausted in motherhood, especially after a bitter custody battle.
Hear April's take on being a young mother and now stepping into a big role as bonus mom to very young children.

Remember, you can now stream the full season of "You, Me & My Ex" on Discovery+.

We are excited to have Dr. Jacye Jamar joining us this week!  Jacye is a principal, who shares her knowledge & passion for education, the importance of building the partnership between educators & parents, as well as what to expect when attending your first parent teacher conference.   Join us as we learn the positives to student led teacher parent conferences and how this approach is preparing our kids for the corporate world.

Dr. Tammy gets real with sex therapist Dr. Stephanie Buehler about how the joys of having a baby and parenthood often take a serious toll on a couple’s sex life. Find out what to expect, why you should prepare in advance, and how to stay intimately connected and fulfilled as you expand your family.

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Dr. Stephanie Buehler is a licensed psychologist and AASECT- certified sex therapist.  Dr. Buehler is affiliated with Hoag Hospital in Newport Beach, CA where she works with breast cancer survivors and BRCA “pre-vivors.” She speaks all over the world about cancer and sexuality, and trains sex therapists through her AASECT- certification program. Dr. Buehler is the author of a bestselling textbook, What Every Mental Health Professional Needs to Know about Sex, and Counseling Couples Before, During, and After Pregnancy: Intimacy and Sexuality Issues.  

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Nyssa's Mia Clarke speaks to the London-based nutritional therapist, mother, author and wellness blogger, Madeleine Shaw. We chat about the best snacks to have on hand during your postpartum recovery, the importance of giving space for partners to parent alongside you, and general tips for feeling healthy, strong, and calm during the Fourth Trimester.

You can read more about Madeleine's work here and follow her on Instagram here.

Do you have questions you'd like Nyssa to explore with our network of experts? Fourth Trimester stories that you'd like to share? Leave us a message at (336) HI-NYSSA or on www.nyssacare.com or email us at hello@nyssacare.com. And please consider leaving us a review, it really does help!

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Nyssa's Mia Clarke speaks to professors and researchers Bethany Johnson and Margaret Quinlan, authors of the You’re Doing It Wrong: Mothering, Media and Medical Expertise. Their book offers a deep-dive into the storied history of mothering advice in media— from the newspapers, magazines, doctors’ records and personal papers of the 19th century to today’s websites, Facebook groups and Instagram feeds.

We talk about gatekeepers of information in the age of social media, the dynamics between lay and technical expertise in the digital space, and how to handle those ubiquitous 3am Facebook group posts about random rashes :)

Bethany and Margaret are Kindly offering listeners of The Unmentionables a discount off their book using the code 02AAAA17, which works out to be $10 less than the Amazon price. The check-out site is here.

You can read more about Bethany and Maggie's work here and follow them on Instagram here.

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Nyssa's Mia Clarke speaks to pelvic floor expert Sara Reardon about why physical therapy should be part of every birthing parent's recovery plan: what we don't know, what we should educate ourselves about, and why paying attention to our pelvic floor after birth matters so much. Sara's well known for sharing her work on Instagram as The Vagina Whisperer and happily digs right in to everything from postpartum peeing, pooping, sex and more.

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Nyssa's Mia Clarke speaks to Integrative Pediatrician Dr. Rupa Mahadevan about the higher standard of care she wants to see regarding postpartum depression screenings, how parents' mental health can affect their infant, and what parents can do to take care of themselves alongside baby.

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You can read more about Rupa's family-friendly Kidchen Doc recipes on her Instagram and her website.

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Nyssa's Mia Clarke speaks to author and founder of the Fifth Trimester movement, Lauren Smith Brody, about preparing to return to work after giving birth, the 'Motherhood Penalty' (the measurable impact of motherhood on earnings and professional status), how to advocate for yourself in the workplace and much more.

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Brown economist Emily Oster's new book, Cribsheet, is a thinking parent's guide to the chaos and frequent misinformation of the early years. A trained expert—and mom of two—Emily uses the science of decision-making to empower parents to make better, less fraught decisions—and stay sane in the years before preschool. She talks to Nyssa about debunking myths and unpacking research around breastfeeding, postpartum depression, vaginal tearing...and the real reason new mothers are advised to have a six-week postpartum check-up.

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You can read more about Emily Oster's work here and follow her on Twitter here.

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