#selfabandonment

The essence of who we are radiates when we live in our purpose. When we can connect with our true self and share it with others. There are many blockers stopping us from being able to express our feelings, or even know what we’re experiencing, and one of them is self abandonment.

 

Don’t let the “self” fool you — sometimes, we unintentionally abandon ourselves because of the survival responses born as a result of trauma. Until healing begins, we can get stuck living through learned patterns of ignoring our own needs in favor of others around us, suppressing feelings to protect ourselves from the neglect of others, and rejecting our intuition.

 

Trauma Rewired host, Jennifer, and Elisabeth Kristof of Brain-Based Wellness are finishing the CPTSD series by discussing this final component of CPTSD: self abandonment. They talk about the ways we abandon ourselves through the lens of their own experiences, and how it manifests in a cycle of self-abuse and shame.

 

If you find yourself disregarding your own health and happiness, tune in to understand this component of CPTSD and how healing is possible!

 

Topics discussed in this episode:

 

• Jennifer shares a recent story of self abandonment

• Elisabeth defints self abandonment

• Dissociation as a survival response

• The effects of parentification

• Healing self abandonment

• How all the components of CPTSD work together

• Becoming an expert of your nervous system

• Toxic stress and disease

• Learning to say “no” and self-regulate

• The power of self-expression

• Join the live-recording Q&A episode AND the new Facebook group!

 

 

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Trauma Rewired podcast  is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. 

We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. 

If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.  If someone’s life is in danger, immediately call 911. 

We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available.  We don’t warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It’s very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren’t responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast.

We  invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don’t verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization.

We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs. 

We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional.

The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis. 

Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved. 

We’ve done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at traumarewired@gmail.com 

All rights in our content are reserved

 

As a human, you have most likely felt shame to some degree. Although it is a normal human protective emotion to keep us safe on a societal level, shame can become toxic when it persists and when we internalize the critical narrative from that shame.

Toxic shame shows up in many ways, however, the way it shows up physiologically is understood the least, but the most telling. From posture, dilated pupils, tense muscles, to inflammation in the body, headaches, and diseases, it is possible to visibly see shame on a person’s body. This is a result of the body protecting itself, and there is no shame in that. However once it becomes maladaptive, and absolute “I am” statements start becoming permanent fixtures in rumination, one’s perception of self shifts, which can eventually cause serious mental and physical health issues.

On today’s episode, Elisabeth and Jennifer discuss how toxic shame differs from regular shame, how toxic shame shows up, what happens in the body when it does, where toxic shame originates from, how shame and pleasure shows up in those with a history of childhood sexual abuse, and what you can do to recognize and repattern toxic shame with Neuro-Somatic Coaching.

Just as toxic shame is developed, it can be undeveloped, by learning how to recognize when and how it shows up in the body, then repatterning the neural pathways in real time using NSI tools, and allowing repressed emotions to mobilize.

This episode is filled with knowledge and insight you don’t want to miss. Tune in for this and more!


Topics discussed in this episode:

 

• The difference between guilt and shame
• Difference between regular shame and toxic shame
• How toxic shame affects posture
• How shame is a protective response
• What is shame inflammation and its correlation to disease states?
• Why mobilizing the body is crucial to process emotions
• What is emotional attunement?
• Overcoupling of shame and pleasure in the case of childhood sexual abuse
• The types of body boundary violations
• What to do if you are having a toxic shame response?
• Why it’s important for practitioners to understand when a client is in a shame response
• Repattering shame in real time

 

 

Contact us about private Rewire Neuro-Somatic Coaching: https://brainbased-wellness.com/rewire-private-neuro-somatic-coaching/

Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program and sign up for the spring cohort now! https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com

 

Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer on the Brain Based Membership site: https://www.rewiretrial.com

 

Connect with us on social media: @trauma.rewired

 

Join the Trauma Rewired Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/761101225132846

 

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This episode was produced by Podcast Boutique https://www.podcastboutique.com

 

Trauma Rewired podcast  is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. 

We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. 

If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.  If someone’s life is in danger, immediately call 911. 

We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available.  We don’t warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It’s very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren’t responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast.

We  invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don’t verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization.

We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs. 

We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional.

The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis. 

Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved. 

We’ve done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us jennifer@traumarewired.com  All rights in our content are reserved

 

We first explored this question in Season 2 and felt it was necessary to revisit; with more altitude, updated research and further along in our healing journeys. 

In this episode, hosts Elisabeth Kristof and Jennifer Wallace dive deep into the realm of Complex Post Traumatic Stress, or CPTS, exploring the complexities of trauma and the impact on our nervous systems. We offer a comprehensive understanding of its five key components. The hosts share practical tools and emphasize the importance of healing and understanding our own nervous systems. 

Join us as we re-examine the language surrounding complex trauma and discuss the potential for real change and healing. We unpack its somatic and neurological effects, share practical tools for healing, challenge traditional perspectives on trauma, and empower you to cultivate a resilient nervous system. This conversation sheds light on how trauma affects not only emotions, but also posture, movement abilities, and overall brain function. Together, let's embark on a journey of self-understanding, compassion, and intentional neurosomatic rehabilitation

 

Topics discussed in this episode

• Redefining Complex Trauma and the importance of language 

• The 5 distinguishing components of Complex Trauma 

• Somatic and neurological components of CPTS

• The importance of Self Compassion 

• Tools for repatterning 

• Intentional Rehabilitation and learning your nervous system 

• Impact of shronic stress on brain development 

• Integration, dissociation, and creating safety in the nervous system

 

Hit subscribe and follow us as we unpack each of the characteristics individually and 

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If you would like to WATCH the episode and/or have closed captions, check out our Trauma Rewired YOUTUBE channel! 

 

Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program here: https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com

 

Connect with us on social media:

@trauma.rewired

 

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If you need access to transcripts of this episode, you can find that HERE on Apple Podcasts. 

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Full Disclaimer 

 

Trauma Rewired podcast  is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. 

We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. 

If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.  If someone’s life is in danger, immediately call 911. 

We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available.  We don’t warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It’s very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren’t responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast.

We  invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don’t verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization.

We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs. 

We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional.

The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis. 

Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved. 

We’ve done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us traumarewired@gmail.com

All rights in our content are reserved.

Our bodies are always speaking to us, but often we’re not able to understand or listen to what they’re trying to communicate.

In this episode, hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth unpack the complexities of our relationship to the body, including how our perceptions, emotions and beliefs about our bodies significantly impact our overall well-being. They dive deep into the impact the interoceptive system has on the nervous system, emotions and behaviors, especially in relation to disordered eating and body dysmorphia.

Jennifer and Elisabeth explore how past traumas shape our body image and inhibit our ability to express emotions safely through the body, sharing their own journeys from the cycle of maladaptive behaviors to loving acceptance.

Tune in to hear their insights into having a healthier, more compassionate relationship with your body!

Topics discussed in this episode:

 

• Exploring the relationship to the body

• How we develop our body image

• Interoceptive awareness and our ability to connect to the body

• The connection between trauma and the relationship to the body

• Understanding body dysmorphia and dissociation

• Sensory mismatch in relation to body dysmorphia

• The emotional aspect of the relationship to the body

• Building a healthier relationship to the body

 

Contact us about private Rewire Neuro-Somatic Coaching:

https://brainbased-wellness.com/rewire-private-neuro-somatic-coaching/

 

Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program and sign up for the spring cohort now! https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source

 

Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer on the Brain Based Membership site:

https://www.rewiretrial.com

 

Connect with us on social media:

@trauma.rewired

 

Join the Trauma Rewired Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/761101225132846

FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired

This episode was produced by Podcast Boutique https://www.podcastboutique.com

 

How do you show up in the world, in relationships, at work? Even just sitting in a sauna. Can you safely say you are fully present in these situations? If you feel you aren’t present most of the time, you’re not alone. Most people aren’t, especially if you’ve experienced complex trauma. On the bright side, presence can be learned by using the right tools to get you there.

Presence is a topic that is near and dear to our hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth’s hearts, precisely because of how they both struggled to be present after experiencing trauma, but also the gift presence provided them in all aspects of life once re-learned.

In today’s episode, Jennifer and Elisabeth discuss how not being present, repressing emotions and dissociation can lead to health issues and deteriorate relationships. While offering the tools required to become present to live a fulfilling and healthy life with secure attachment styles in relationships.

This episode dives deep into the science behind presence as well as what happens when you are in your body for the first time in a long time and how using the tools provided in the NSI training can help. Understanding how your brain operates when it is fully present and how it affects your body, while having tools to help you get there, can literally put years back on to your life.

Tune in for this and more!

Topics discussed in this episode:

 

• How Jennifer and Elisabeth define presence

• Why presence is important for healing complex traumas

• Empowerment that comes from presence

• How presence is a time expander

• What is a trigger?

• How intentional training can lead to presence

• The time it takes to cultivate full presence in the body

• The struggle behind showing up in the world differently

• Health implications behind repressed emotion and not being present

• One big reason to start being present: a study on telomeres

• Why it is important to work with your interoceptive system

• Re-patterning of relationship attachment style

Contact us about private Rewire Neuro-Somatic Coaching:

https://brainbased-wellness.com/rewire-private-neuro-somatic-coaching/

 

Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program and sign up for the spring cohort now! https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com

 

Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer on the Brain Based Membership site:

https://www.rewiretrial.com

 

Connect with us on social media:

@trauma.rewired

 

Join the Trauma Rewired Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/761101225132846

FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired

This episode was produced by Podcast Boutique https://www.podcastboutique.com

 

Embodiment has many different meanings, but to be embodied from a neurosomatic intelligence perspective relates to the integration of the body, mind and spirit. It means you are aware of the connection between your body and its internal sensations, your emotions, and your behaviors.

 

Sharing her journey to embodiment and how she uses it in her work as a mindset coach is Tracy Litt, speaker and founder of The Litt Factor. Tracy is also a bestselling author and her new book, “Expander: For Trailblazing Women Building a New World,” outlines the damaging paradigms that hold us back and what we can do to replace them.

 

In this episode, Tracy helps us look at embodiment through the lens of neurosomatic intelligence, including how it impacts our relationships, career, and health. You’ll learn more about dissociation, what keeps us from feeling and being in our bodies, and how emotional expression will transform your life.

 

There is a natural fear to change and embodiment, but you have to remember that YOU are the creator of your own life. Tune in to find out how to start healing through nervous system work!

 

Topics discussed in this episode:

 

• What embodiment truly means

• Embodiment as necessary for change

• Our personal paths to embodiment

• The importance of slowing down

• What disconnects women to their bodies

• The freedom of emotional expression

• Training your nervous system to safely process emotions

• How Tracy uses NSI tools to help clients

• Tracy’s new book, Expander

• What Tracy took away from the NSI Certification course

 

Learn more about Tracy Litt and her company, The Litt Factor!
www.thelittfactor.com

 

Read Tracy’s FREE eBook, Expander: For Trailblazing Women Building a New World!

https://www.theexpanderbook.com/

Want to learn more about neurosomatic intelligence, and how it can help you and your clients? 

https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source

 

Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer:

https://www.rewiretrial.com

 Connect with us on social media:

@trauma.rewired

Join the Trauma Rewired Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/761101225132846

 

FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired

 

 

This episode was produced by Podcast Boutique https://www.podcastboutique.com