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The essence of who we are radiates when we live in our purpose. When we can connect with our true self and share it with others. There are many blockers stopping us from being able to express our feelings, or even know what we’re experiencing, and one of them is self abandonment.

 

Don’t let the “self” fool you — sometimes, we unintentionally abandon ourselves because of the survival responses born as a result of trauma. Until healing begins, we can get stuck living through learned patterns of ignoring our own needs in favor of others around us, suppressing feelings to protect ourselves from the neglect of others, and rejecting our intuition.

 

Trauma Rewired host, Jennifer, and Elisabeth Kristof of Brain-Based Wellness are finishing the CPTSD series by discussing this final component of CPTSD: self abandonment. They talk about the ways we abandon ourselves through the lens of their own experiences, and how it manifests in a cycle of self-abuse and shame.

 

If you find yourself disregarding your own health and happiness, tune in to understand this component of CPTSD and how healing is possible!

 

Topics discussed in this episode:

 

• Jennifer shares a recent story of self abandonment

• Elisabeth defints self abandonment

• Dissociation as a survival response

• The effects of parentification

• Healing self abandonment

• How all the components of CPTSD work together

• Becoming an expert of your nervous system

• Toxic stress and disease

• Learning to say “no” and self-regulate

• The power of self-expression

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Voice and Visibility

Season 03, Episode 35

Voice is a profound tool for self-expression, embodiment, and navigating the world around us. In this episode with Elise Bessler, NSI-certified practitioner and voice coach, hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth dive into the power of finding our voice and using it safely through the work of nervous system regulation.

Their conversation opens with a discussion of how trauma impacts voice, exploring the connection between trauma responses like freeze and fawn, and the ways NSI can help rewire the patterns that inhibit healthy communication and full expression.

Elise shares insights from her personal journey and work in trauma-informed leadership, illustrating how a deeper connection to her voice has revolutionized her ability to set boundaries and live authentically

Tune in to learn how activating and liberating your voice is a pathway to healing!

Topics discussed in this episode:

 

• Trauma’s impact on voice and its connection with the nervous system

• Freeze response and voice

• The connection between the vocal cords, diaphragm, and pelvic floor

• The healing power of singing

• Fawn response and setting boundaries

• Communication and nervous system regulation in leadership

• How NSI has transformed Elise’s work and personal life

 

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The four trauma responses are the brain’s way of protecting us from threat, real or perceived. They are noncognitive, reflexive outputs that are deeply ingrained in those that have experienced trauma, which makes them incredibly difficult responses to rewire. In this episode, we explore the most dangerous F: fawn and sexual fawn response.

To help us dive deeper into fawn response, we’re joined by Luis Mojica, somatics practitioner and the founder of Holistic Life Navigation. Hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth have personally learned a lot from his teachings, including how the nervous system responds to fawn and the body boundary violations that occur with sexual fawning.

During this episode, Luis goes over the concept of over coupling, specifically how fear merges with intimacy and threat with arousal because of developmental sexual trauma. Luis also touches on the difference between threat and trigger, how the body can be traumatized sexually without the presence of assault, and MORE.

Tune in to learn how you can let go of shame attached to fawn response, recognize your fawn patterns, and start to heal!

Topics discussed in this episode:

 

• The development of over coupling after developmental sexual trauma

• Fawn response from a neurosomatic perspective

• Shame as a protective mechanism and how to reframe it 

• How to become self-aware of your fawning

• Trigger versus threat

• Differentiation between sexual fawning and arousal

• Fawning and freeze as a hybrid response

• Lying as a trauma response

• Finding compassion during healing

• Body boundary violations in sexual fawning

 

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Following our episode on embodiment, we’re diving into the topics of parts of self, sex and pleasure because without presence, we are cheating ourselves out of healthy relationships and empowered sexual experiences.

Hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth have brought back Dr. Joli Hamilton, relationship coach and sex educator, to help them further examine how the relationship with our parts of self impact the way we behave towards ourselves and others.

 

A disconnection between our parts of self causes dysregulation, a lack of safety and intimacy in relationships, and even projection. But in this episode, you’ll learn how to have conversations with your parts of self, how to take ownership of your orgasm, and how NSI practices can help you heal.

 

We also discuss the concept of multiplicity, how trauma affects our ability to connect with our parts, and if dissociation during sex and sexual fawning changes the rules of consent. Plus, can a cervical orgasm stimulate the vagus nerve?

 

Listen in as we share the NSI tools that have helped us regulate our nervous system and connect with our body!

 

Topics discussed in this episode:

 

• Honoring your parts of self by giving them a voice

• Projection of our disintegrated parts onto others

• What we’ve gained from using NSI tools

• Exploring pleasure and improving intimacy

• The connection between nervous system regulation and orgasm

• Dissociation during sex, sexual fawning and consent

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Learn more about Dr. Joli Hamilton and her work at https://www.jolihamilton.com

 

Interested in exploring your sexual self in Dr. Joli’s Sexual Shadow Masterclass? Head to sexualshadowmasterclass.com for more information!

 

 

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In order to talk about boundaries, we must first understand what they are and why they’re important. That’s why we start off this episode with a definition by somatic practitioner, Prentis Hemphill: “Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.”

Joining hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth for a second time is Margy Feldhuhn, CEO of Interview Connections and neurosomatic intelligence coach. They’ll explore the role of boundaries in our lives, including how they open the door for authentic self-expression and deeper relationships. 

 

You’ll also learn more about codependency, fawn response, the neuroscience of emotions, how boundaries cause disease, and the connection between attachment and the ability to set and respect boundaries.

 

Tune in as we dive deeper into boundaries, and find out how you can use NSI tools to feel safe enough to discover and express your boundaries!

 

Topics discussed in this episode:

 

• Why boundaries are so important

• Boundaries and our need for connection versus autonomy

• How the 3 F’s lead to self-abandonment and lack of boundaries

• Self-expression and authenticity

• What leads to codependency

• Margy’s experience with quiet manipulation

• Cultural body boundary violations

• The neuroscience of emotions and emotional processing

• Respecting other people’s boundaries

• The impact of emotional neglect on our ability to set/receive boundaries

• How boundaries affect our emotional and physical healthy

• Using neurosomatic tools to move stress through the body

 

Get more information on Margy Feldhoun’s company, Interview Connections, here: https://interviewconnections.com
 

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Our society rewards those who work hard, appear to never make mistakes, and seem to have everything under control. We’ve collectively decided on what perfect looks like and attributed perfectionism with the ideal person.

What if we told you that perfectionism is actually a protective measure used to prevent oneself from feelings of rejection, abandonment, and worthlessness? These words don’t quite scream “perfect” do they?

 

Trauma Rewired hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth have touched upon this trauma response before, but today’s episode is a deep dive into how it can develop and lead to harmful avoidance behaviors. They deconstruct perfectionism, including defining the three types of perfectionism and how it interplays with CPTSD elements like the inner critic.

 

You’ll learn the many health consequences that the chronic stress of perfectionism can cause, and how to distinguish excellence from perfectionism. Jennifer and Elisabeth also share their experience with perfectionism, and how it can push us into burnout or freeze states.

 

Perfectionism is not an attainable goal, which makes it debilitating and a hindrance to healing trauma. To take the first step towards moving out of perfectionism, tune in!

 

Topics discussed in this episode:

 

• Defining the 3 types of perfectionism

• Perfectionism as a trauma response

• Jennifer’s example of setting yourself up for failure

• The effects of perfectionism on our health

• Maladaptive coping mechanisms for perfectionism

• How to recognize perfectionist behaviors and thinking

• Jennifer on taking action against her perfectionism

• Trauma healing, neurosomatic intelligence, and integration

• Limiting beliefs push the loop of perfectionism

• Elisabeth on the importance on self-regulation tools in her life

• How perfectionism negatively affects organizations and employees

• Steps Elisabeth has taken to heal her perfectionism and workaholism

 

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Our society rewards those who work hard, appear to never make mistakes, and seem to have everything under control. We’ve collectively decided on what perfect looks like and attributed perfectionism with the ideal person.

What if we told you that perfectionism is actually a protective measure used to prevent oneself from feelings of rejection, abandonment, and worthlessness? These words don’t quite scream “perfect” do they?

 

Trauma Rewired hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth have touched upon this trauma response before, but today’s episode is a deep dive into how it can develop and lead to harmful avoidance behaviors. They deconstruct perfectionism, including defining the three types of perfectionism and how it interplays with CPTSD elements like the inner critic.

 

You’ll learn the many health consequences that the chronic stress of perfectionism can cause, and how to distinguish excellence from perfectionism. Jennifer and Elisabeth also share their experience with perfectionism, and how it can push us into burnout or freeze states.

 

Perfectionism is not an attainable goal, which makes it debilitating and a hindrance to healing trauma. To take the first step towards moving out of perfectionism, tune in!

 

Topics discussed in this episode:

 

• Defining the 3 types of perfectionism

• Perfectionism as a trauma response

• Jennifer’s example of setting yourself up for failure

• The effects of perfectionism on our health

• Maladaptive coping mechanisms for perfectionism

• How to recognize perfectionist behaviors and thinking

• Jennifer on taking action against her perfectionism

• Trauma healing, neurosomatic intelligence, and integration

• Limiting beliefs push the loop of perfectionism

• Elisabeth on the importance on self-regulation tools in her life

• How perfectionism negatively affects organizations and employees

• Steps Elisabeth has taken to heal her perfectionism and workaholism

 

Learn more about Elisabeth Kristof and her company, Brain-Based Wellness, here: 

 https://www.rewiretrial.com

 

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In this episode we will be discussing the least understood, and most insidious four F’s in trauma response, fawn. 

 

This survival adaptation is difficult to pinpoint, because fawn can often be confused with empathy or general care, but if not dealt with, can get to a toxic level for the fawner. Neglecting yourself for the sake of others can cause chronic issues, not only in the body, but in creating genuine connections as well.

 

The missing piece to overcoming fawn is to first identify it, then to gain tools to regulate the nervous system to create safety in the body. However, the tools are difficult to implement when you are unaware of the trauma response in the first place. 

 

Neurosomatic Intelligence Coach, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristoff from Brain-Based Wellness, uncover what fawn looks like and how it may show up in your life. Along with practical tools to regulate the nervous system in situations where fawning was the automatic response, and how to override that with an intentional one.

 

Finding safety in your own body IS possible and so is living authentically. Listen in for more info!

 

 

Topics discussed in this episode:

 

• What does fawn mean in terms of a trauma response

• Why fawn develops

• Recognizing fawn in yourself

• How its triggered

• Practical tools to move passed fawn

• What is sexual fawning

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