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    7 Questions You Must Ask to Deepen Any Relationship, Friendship or Partnership

    enAugust 12, 2022
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    • Memorable getaways with booking.com and CVS Health's healthcare revolutionBook memorable getaways with booking.com and prioritize self-care with CVS Health's comprehensive services, including virtual care, in-home evaluations, and mental health support. Don't forget the power of self-acknowledgment and herbs like slippery elm bark and ginger root for digestive health.

      Planning a memorable getaway is made effortless with booking.com, offering a wide range of accommodation options to suit every preference and need, both in the US and through their user-friendly app. CVS Health, on the other hand, is revolutionizing healthcare with their comprehensive services, including virtual care, in-home evaluations, and mental health support. The speaker also emphasized the importance of self-acknowledgment and self-care in personal growth. Herbs, like slippery elm bark and ginger root, were highlighted for their role in promoting digestive health. Lastly, the speaker expressed gratitude for listeners' dedication to their personal growth and announced exciting upcoming guests on the On Purpose podcast.

    • Deepen relationships through effective communication and intentional questionsAsking meaningful questions can create vulnerability, intimacy, and connection, boost self-esteem, recognize value, and save time and energy in relationships

      Effective communication and intentional questions can significantly deepen and strengthen relationships, whether personal or professional. The speaker emphasizes the importance of creating vulnerability, intimacy, and connection through meaningful conversations. By asking questions that allow for deeper understanding, such as "What am I doing right that I should do more of?", individuals can boost their self-esteem, recognize the value of their contributions, and build stronger bonds. These conversations, though challenging at first, can ultimately save time and energy by addressing potential issues before they escalate. By actively engaging in these conversations, individuals can create a more fulfilling and satisfying relationship experience.

    • Asking for Appreciation and FeedbackExpressing appreciation and asking for feedback strengthens relationships by promoting deeper connections and understanding. Asking 'what am I doing right?' and 'what should I do less of?' encourages constructive feedback and shows a willingness to improve.

      Expressing appreciation and asking for feedback are powerful ways to build stronger connections with others. By asking "what am I doing right that I should do more of?" you not only receive compliments and gratitude, but also give the other person an opportunity to practice expressing appreciation. Conversely, asking "what should I do less of?" allows for constructive feedback and shows a willingness to improve. These questions can lead to deeper connections, increased understanding, and overall better relationships. However, it's important to remember that the other person's response may not be immediate, and it may take time for them to reflect and provide thoughtful feedback. Additionally, if the person has nothing to say, it may indicate a need for improvement in the relationship, and it's important to approach the situation with openness and understanding.

    • Communication, self-improvement, and creating a nurturing environmentPrioritize effective communication, seek feedback, be present, manage mindset towards time and stress, and create a calming environment for stronger relationships and reduced stress.

      Effective communication and self-improvement are essential for building stronger relationships and reducing stress. In the conversation, Jay emphasized the importance of asking for feedback and being present in the moment, rather than being distracted by technology. He also highlighted the significance of taking control of one's mindset towards time management and stress. By seeking feedback, being present, and practicing mindfulness, individuals can create healthier connections and alleviate feelings of overwhelm. Additionally, Jay suggested partnering with Calm.com for daily guided meditations to help find calm in the chaos and improve overall well-being. Furthermore, the conversation touched on the affordability and accessibility of enhancing one's living space with IKEA during the summer season. Overall, the key takeaway is to prioritize communication, self-improvement, and creating a nurturing environment to foster stronger relationships and reduce stress.

    • Improve overall well-being through self-care and relationshipsSelf-care through supplements and services, trusting relationships, and effective communication can significantly enhance well-being.

      Prioritizing self-care and building trusting relationships can significantly improve overall well-being. The use of supplements like Synbiotic Plus and subscribing to services like Ritual can support gut health, while companies like CVS Health offer comprehensive healthcare solutions that cater to various needs. Confidence and trust are essential in relationships, whether personal or professional, and recognizing the actions that elicit these feelings can deepen bonds. Additionally, being aware of unintended actions that cause anxiety or discomfort in others is crucial for effective communication and stronger relationships.

    • Asking for permission to make someone feel more comfortableBeing aware of our impact on others and asking how to make them feel more at ease can strengthen relationships. Discovering each other's love languages can deepen connections.

      It's important to be aware of how our actions and words impact others, even if we have good intentions. We can still make someone feel anxious or uncomfortable, and it's essential to ask them directly what we can do to make them feel more at ease. This question allows for vulnerability and understanding in relationships. Moreover, the speaker emphasizes the importance of clarifying communication in relationships by asking great questions. One such question is discovering each other's love languages. According to the Love Languages theory, we all have different ways of receiving love, and it's crucial to give love in the way the other person prefers, not just how we prefer to receive it ourselves. The five love languages are words of affirmation, physical touch, receiving gifts, quality time, and acts of service. By understanding and practicing our loved ones' love languages, we can deepen our relationships and create more meaningful connections.

    • Understanding love languages and fight styles for deeper connectionsLearning each other's love languages and fight styles leads to deeper connections, effective communication, and stronger relationships.

      Understanding and respecting each other's love languages and fight styles are crucial elements in building and maintaining strong relationships. Love languages refer to how individuals express and receive love, and they include words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, physical touch, and acts of service. Knowing someone's love language enables us to show love in a way that resonates with them, leading to deeper connections. Fight styles, on the other hand, refer to how individuals respond when faced with conflict. Some people may need to talk it out, while others prefer to reflect on the issue alone. Understanding each other's fight styles can help prevent misunderstandings and promote effective communication. By asking these questions, we gain valuable insights into our partners' needs and preferences, allowing us to love and support them in the most meaningful ways. These insights also provide opportunities for self-reflection and growth, as we learn more about our own love languages and fight styles. Ultimately, investing time and energy into understanding our partners' love languages and fight styles can lead to more fulfilling, harmonious relationships. By fostering a deeper connection based on mutual respect and understanding, we can build stronger bonds that withstand the challenges of everyday life.

    • Assessing direction in business and relationshipsRegularly asking critical questions and reflecting on goals can deepen connections, lead to growth, and enhance personal and professional relationships. Preparation and planning tools can also contribute to a more fulfilling life.

      Regularly assessing the direction of your endeavors and relationships can lead to significant growth and improvement. My business partner and I, who have built successful programs together, recently realized we had been moving forward without a clear sense of direction. By asking critical questions and reflecting on our goals, we were able to identify what we wanted and plan accordingly. This process deepened our connection and led to exciting updates for our community. Similarly, in personal relationships, asking thoughtful questions can enhance vulnerability, intimacy, and growth. Planning and preparation, such as using booking.com for travel or utilizing resources like CVS Health for health and wellness, can also contribute to a more fulfilling life. Remember, taking the time to assess and adjust is essential for continued progress and growth.

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    • 24:54 Becoming More Aware
    • 30:20 How We Process What We’re Experiencing
    • 33:42 Who Really Are You?
    • 37:44 How People Think About You
    • 41:00 People’s Perception of You
    • 43:46 The Before and After
    • 46:57 Timeless Knowledge in Books
    • 49:58 What Makes You Excited?
    • 53:16 The Second Self
    • 55:57 The Core of Your Reality
    • 59:21 Limited Language
    • 01:01:41 The Limited Circle of Harmony
    • 01:04:49 Different Thoughts About the World
    • 01:11:04 Slowing Down
    • 01:13:21 Robert on Final Five  

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    4 Ways We Self-Sabotage & 3 Ways to Improve the Relationship We Have With Ourselves

    4 Ways We Self-Sabotage & 3 Ways to Improve the Relationship We Have With Ourselves

    What’s blocking you?

    What’s holding you back?

    Today, Jay talks about the concept of self-sabotage, examining how it manifests in various aspects of our lives and offering strategies for overcoming it. Self-sabotage is defined as behaviors that undermine our own success, happiness, and stated goals. These actions often occur subconsciously, rooted in deep psychological patterns formed during early childhood.

    Jay outlines four primary ways people self-sabotage: chronic lateness, procrastination, putting oneself down, and perfectionism. He also discusses the habit of putting oneself down, which can manifest through over-apologizing or refusing to take credit for accomplishments. This behavior is often linked to low self-esteem or an internalized critical voice from childhood.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to Recognize Self-Sabotage

    How to Stop Putting Yourself Down

    How to Change Negative Self-Talk

    How to Understand Your Triggers

    How to Set Boundaries

    By understanding and working through these patterns, you can unlock your full potential and achieve the success and happiness you desire.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:08 What is Self-Sabotage?

    05:41 Passive-Aggressive Behavior

    08:22 Behavior that Counters What We Tell Ourselves

    11:08 What Leads to Self-Sabotage?

    14:26 #1: Chronic Lateness

    16:22 #2: Procrastination

    19:53 #3: Putting Yourself Down

    23:15 #4: Perfectionism

    27:01 Three Ways to Deal with Your Self-Sabotaging Behavior

    28:53 weird noise in the background

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