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    Gauranga Das ON: How To Live A Peaceful, Purposeful & Prosperous Life Through Being Of Service

    enSeptember 07, 2020
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    Podcast Summary

    • Discovering the Perfect Travel Accommodations with Booking.comBooking.com offers a wide range of travel options, making it a go-to platform for all types of travelers to turn their travel dreams into reality. Effective planning and partnerships are crucial in achieving personal and professional goals.

      No matter what kind of traveler you are or what type of adventure you're planning, booking.com offers a wide range of options to help turn your travel dreams into reality. The speaker, who is a meticulous planner, has relied on booking.com for years to book accommodations for his and his wife's getaways, both in the US and abroad. With the ease of booking through the app, the process is a breeze. Another important takeaway is the significance of creating a great work environment, especially given that individuals will dedicate approximately 90,000 hours of their lifetime to work. UKG, a company dedicated to HR, pay, time and culture solutions, is a valuable partner in helping businesses deliver the tools and insights their employees need. Lastly, the speaker shared a heartfelt appreciation for a mentor who inspired him on his spiritual journey and changed the trajectory of his life. The mentor, Goran Gaddas, didn't fit into typical stereotypes of monks and instead was extremely educated and inspiring. Overall, these discussions highlight the importance of effective planning and partnerships in achieving personal and professional goals.

    • Finding inner peace through experiences and ancient wisdomChoose different perspectives to view life, stay true to inner beliefs, and draw inspiration from ancient wisdom for inner peace and positivity.

      Life is more than just achievements and external success. The speaker, who went from being an IIT student to becoming a monk, was inspired by various experiences during his college days. He was shaken up by a friend's suicide attempt and realized the importance of inner experiences and perceptions. He also observed students who failed in their studies but remained unaffected, and this further reinforced his belief that there is more to life than just external success. He found answers in ancient texts like the Bhagavad Gita, which taught him that we have control over our consciousness despite having limited control over circumstances. The speaker emphasizes the importance of choosing different lenses to view life and situations, and how this flexibility can help us remain enthusiastic and positive even in the face of challenges. When making tough choices in life, the speaker advises drawing inspiration from ancient wisdom and staying true to one's inner beliefs, even if they may not be popular or understood by others.

    • Embracing Life's UncertaintiesMake the most of every moment, try new experiences, prioritize gut health, and explore the world to discover new sides of yourself. Even small opportunities can lead to significant transformations.

      Life can be unpredictable and fragile, and it's essential to make the most of every moment. The speaker shares his personal experience of surviving a car accident that changed his perspective and motivated him to serve others. He emphasizes that even small opportunities can lead to significant transformations. The speaker also encourages trying new experiences and using resources like Booking.com to explore the world and discover new sides of oneself. Additionally, he highlights the importance of gut health and the supplement Ritual, which can support gut decisions and overall well-being. Lastly, he mentions the various ways CVS Health is committed to providing quality care and support for individuals' health needs. Overall, the discussion encourages embracing life's uncertainties and making the most of every opportunity.

    • Finding deeper meaning and purpose through selfless serviceMonkhood is about selfless service and pleasing others tirelessly, leading to total absorption, compassion, and peace.

      Living with deeper meaning and purpose is a choice we all have, whether through second chances or opportunities. This was exemplified by the speaker's own experiences and the impactful work they have done in their community and beyond. Monkhood, as defined in various traditions, is about selfless service and pleasing others tirelessly. This intention and action combine to create a state of total absorption, which expands into compassion and peace for all. It's inspiring to see how the speaker has used their talents and gifts to serve humanity, rather than letting go of them in the renunciant order. The breakdown of the definitions of monk in different traditions offers a unique perspective on this concept.

    • Principles of a monk's mindset for modern lifeThe Bhagavad Gita's teachings on tolerance, humility, and self-control can help individuals manage internal urges and improve well-being, dealing with life's provocation and dualities, and reducing negative behaviors and mental health issues.

      The mindset of a monk, as described in the Bhagavad Gita, is highly relevant for modern people, regardless of their lifestyle or occupation. The principles of tolerance, humility, and self-control outlined in the text can help individuals manage their internal urges and improve their overall well-being. These principles are essential for dealing with the constant provocation and dualities of life, and for avoiding negative behaviors such as excessive consumption, the need to control, the urge to convince others, and the temptation to compete. By focusing on self-management and elevating our consciousness above these urges, we can contribute positively to society and reduce the prevalence of mental health issues and relationship breakdowns. In essence, the teachings of the Bhagavad Gita offer valuable insights for anyone seeking to live a peaceful and purposeful life in today's complex and challenging world.

    • The key to true freedom is self-controlSelf-control and the ability to resist urges leads to greater freedom and personal growth.

      True freedom comes from self-control and the ability to resist urges, rather than giving in to them. This was a common theme in the discussion, with references to the importance of family values, personal growth through travel, and the benefits of herbal supplements for mental and physical well-being. The text also highlighted how companies like booking.com and CVS Health are prioritizing health and wellness in various ways. However, it's easy to get caught up in the urge to compete, compare, and criticize others, but this actually limits our freedom. Instead, practicing self-control and discipline can lead to greater freedom and personal growth. The Gita, an ancient Hindu text, even suggests that freedom from base desires comes from controlling the mind and following a strict discipline. So, the key to true freedom may be found in self-control and the ability to resist urges.

    • Apparent limitations enable greater freedom and consciousnessSelf-control and mind control practices like meditation enhance consciousness and deepen understanding of love as a source of pain and selfless service.

      Self-discipline or control, which may seem limiting at first, is actually facilitating greater freedom and consciousness. Using the examples of a kite and traffic laws, the speaker explains that these apparent limitations actually enable the kite to fly higher and vehicles to move efficiently. Similarly, self-control and mind control through practices like meditation help us experience enhanced consciousness and a deeper understanding of love, which is defined as the ability to endure pain and serve selflessly. The speaker emphasizes the importance of understanding systems and investing in mental fitness to keep the mind free from negativities. The greatest gift of meditation for the speaker personally has been a deeper understanding of love as a source of pain rather than pleasure.

    • The True Meaning of Love vs. Personal PleasureDiscovering the true meaning of love through meditation, service, and selflessness leads to joy and a life beyond transactions.

      The concept of love, as described in Vedic scriptures, is fundamentally different from the popular notion of love as personal pleasure. The speaker shares his personal experience of discovering the true meaning of love through meditation and service without selfish considerations. He uses the example of pizza to illustrate how the same word can be used to describe vastly different experiences. The speaker also explains that the soul is naturally designed to serve, and that serving and pleasing brings the greatest joy from within. He emphasizes that actions motivated by love lead to a life beyond transactions, and shares the story of a saint who found bliss in his selfless service to his worshipable lord. In response to the question about selfless actions being good for us, the speaker argues that the soul's nature is to serve, and that true joy comes from serving and pleasing others. He also explains that there are four levels of motivation, and that the highest level is motivated by love.

    • The power of hope in relationshipsHope is a crucial asset in life, helping individuals overcome losses and challenges, and can be cultivated through spiritual discussions in relationships.

      The principle of keeping account and focusing on transactions is characteristic of business-like relationships, whereas in relationships inspired by love, selfless service, and hope, one does not keep count of difficulties experienced. The greatest asset in life is hope, which can help individuals overcome losses and challenges. The speaker's relationship with Gordon, which began when he was 18, was a turning point in his spiritual journey. Initially, Gordon did not perceive the speaker as being spiritually inclined, but their friendship eventually led the speaker to embrace spirituality and eventually become a monk. The discussions held in spiritual places aim to provide hope to individuals, making it an essential asset to cultivate.

    • A friend's determination inspires growth and transformationFriendship with a determined individual can lead to personal growth and a desire to make a positive impact on others

      Personal growth and transformation are possible, no matter how fragile or uncertain we may feel in the beginning. The speaker, who once doubted a friend's ability to endure the rigors of monkhood, was surprised by the friend's determination, sincerity, and eagerness to learn. The friend's deep urge to share wisdom and help others was also evident early on. The speaker was impressed by the friend's neat handwriting and systematic note-taking, which showed a clear desire to understand and apply wisdom. The friend's initiative to create a house for youth in London, inspired by a similar experience in India, demonstrated a strong desire to make a positive impact on others. Through this friendship, the speaker learned that growth and change are ongoing processes, and that everyone has the potential to make a difference in the world.

    • Balancing Emotional Sensitivity and DeterminationThe subject's emotional sensitivity and strong will to lead inspired the speaker's personal growth, demonstrating that vulnerability and resilience can coexist.

      The speaker admires the subject's ability to balance emotional sensitivity with determination and resilience. Despite appearing soft-spoken and emotional, the subject demonstrated a strong will to lead and connect with people, even in challenging situations. The speaker also acknowledges the influence the subject had on their own personal growth, as the subject provided space for self-discovery and encouraged the speaker to find their own path. The subject's enthusiasm and dedication to serving others was a significant character element that inspired the speaker throughout their time together.

    • Exploring spiritual growth and travelEmbrace self-discovery through spiritual journeys and travel, plan meticulously using booking.com, and prioritize wellness with initiatives by CVS Health and natural remedies.

      Spiritual growth and travel are interconnected journeys of self-discovery. The speaker emphasizes the importance of finding one's spiritual path and expresses gratitude for being a part of others' journeys. He invites listeners to visit the Eco Village and looks forward to leading retreats in the future. The speaker also shares his personal tradition of planning meticulous travel itineraries using booking.com, which offers a wide range of accommodation options to suit every preference. Lastly, the importance of wellness and self-care is highlighted through various initiatives by CVS Health, including virtual care, in-home evaluations, and mental health services. Herbs, such as slippery elm bark and ginger root, are also mentioned as natural remedies for promoting digestive health.

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    Remember that understanding and empathy can bridge even the widest divides, and it's through collective efforts that we can work toward a more inclusive and compassionate world. 

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    • 59:03 Bridging the Divide Through Thoughtful Conversations

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    Robert Greene: How to Deal with Negative People When They Are in Your Family, Friend Circle or Work

    Robert Greene: How to Deal with Negative People When They Are in Your Family, Friend Circle or Work

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    How to manage stress effectively

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    Jay Shetty

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    • 01:11:04 Slowing Down
    • 01:13:21 Robert on Final Five  

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    What’s holding you back?

    Today, Jay talks about the concept of self-sabotage, examining how it manifests in various aspects of our lives and offering strategies for overcoming it. Self-sabotage is defined as behaviors that undermine our own success, happiness, and stated goals. These actions often occur subconsciously, rooted in deep psychological patterns formed during early childhood.

    Jay outlines four primary ways people self-sabotage: chronic lateness, procrastination, putting oneself down, and perfectionism. He also discusses the habit of putting oneself down, which can manifest through over-apologizing or refusing to take credit for accomplishments. This behavior is often linked to low self-esteem or an internalized critical voice from childhood.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

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    How to Stop Putting Yourself Down

    How to Change Negative Self-Talk

    How to Understand Your Triggers

    How to Set Boundaries

    By understanding and working through these patterns, you can unlock your full potential and achieve the success and happiness you desire.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:08 What is Self-Sabotage?

    05:41 Passive-Aggressive Behavior

    08:22 Behavior that Counters What We Tell Ourselves

    11:08 What Leads to Self-Sabotage?

    14:26 #1: Chronic Lateness

    16:22 #2: Procrastination

    19:53 #3: Putting Yourself Down

    23:15 #4: Perfectionism

    27:01 Three Ways to Deal with Your Self-Sabotaging Behavior

    28:53 weird noise in the background

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