Podcast Summary
Immersive experiences fuel personal growth: Attending larger events, like The Clutch, can lead to significant self-improvement through personal commitment and community support, with noticeable progress around 4-5 months.
Committing to personal growth through intensive, immersive experiences can lead to significant changes in the way we think and approach life. The Clutch, a live event by the Unfuck Your Brain podcast, provides a platform for this kind of transformation. While smaller, more intimate coaching programs offer hand-holding and guidance, larger events require individuals to commit to themselves and reap the rewards of their own dedication. The Clutch's combination of teaching, coaching, and community support has led to dramatic changes for participants, with many seeing noticeable progress around the 4-5 month mark. This timing seems to be when the brain begins to coach itself, enabling individuals to continue their growth independently.
Turning point in thought work: Success requires persisting through discomfort and failure, normal parts of the learning process
Success in any area of life comes down to the willingness to be uncomfortable and persist through challenges. According to the speaker, around 4 to 5 months into thought work, individuals may experience a turning point where their brains begin to coach themselves. However, not everyone may be willing or able to tolerate the discomfort that comes with the learning process. The speaker shares her own experiences of quitting on herself and giving up on goals due to the fear of failure and discomfort. She emphasizes that failure and discomfort are normal parts of the learning process and that continuing despite these feelings is essential for success. The speaker's personal growth through thought work, business, and running serves as an example of the importance of sticking with something even when it's difficult.
Understanding the role of unconscious commitments: Unconscious commitments shape our actions and experiences, recognizing them can help align with desired outcomes and increase chances of success.
Our lives are shaped by both conscious and unconscious commitments. Conscious commitments are the deliberate promises we make to ourselves and others, while unconscious commitments are the unspoken agreements we've adopted throughout our lives. Both types of commitments influence our actions and shape our experiences. Understanding the role of unconscious commitments can help us make sense of why we struggle to achieve certain goals or change habits, as well as why we feel uncomfortable when faced with new challenges. By recognizing the power of these unconscious commitments, we can work to align them with our desired outcomes and increase our chances of success.
Unconscious commitments sabotage conscious ones: Recognize and challenge unconscious patterns to align unconscious and conscious commitments, instead of blaming ourselves for failing to follow through.
Our unconscious commitments, such as beliefs about ourselves or the desire to avoid discomfort, can hinder our ability to follow through on our conscious commitments. These unconscious patterns often go unnoticed, and we may find ourselves repeatedly failing to act on our intentions. It's essential to recognize and challenge these unconscious commitments to make progress towards our goals. Instead of berating ourselves for not following through on conscious commitments, we should identify the underlying unconscious drivers that may be sabotaging our efforts. By bringing these unconscious patterns to consciousness, we can make more informed choices and take steps towards aligning our unconscious and conscious commitments.
Uncovering unconscious commitments: Understanding unconscious commitments can help us address the root causes of our actions and make lasting changes
Our unconscious commitments often have a stronger hold on our actions than our conscious ones. These unconscious commitments can be deeply ingrained and may not be easily recognized, but they can significantly impact our behavior and hinder us from achieving our goals. For instance, someone may consciously commit to drinking less alcohol, but if they have an unconscious commitment to never feeling lonely at night, they may continue to drink to avoid feeling uncomfortable alone. Similarly, a person might have a conscious commitment to being productive, but an unconscious commitment to constantly checking their phone may prevent them from focusing on their work. Uncovering these unconscious commitments is essential to making lasting changes, as they can provide insight into the root causes of our actions and help us address them. Without awareness of these underlying influences, our conscious commitments may seem futile, and we may feel like we lack the willpower or self-control to follow through.
Uncovering Unconscious Commitments: Recognizing unconscious commitments is the first step, but shifting them requires conscious effort and a willingness to challenge limiting beliefs.
Our unconscious commitments significantly impact our behaviors and limit our potential. These unconscious commitments can stem from evolution or be rooted in our beliefs about ourselves. Recognizing these unconscious commitments is the first step towards change, but it's important to remember that becoming conscious of them doesn't automatically eliminate them. Instead, it's when the real work begins. Shifting unconscious commitments requires conscious effort and a willingness to challenge limiting beliefs. Many people live their lives based on these unconscious commitments, which can hold them back from reaching their full potential. Common unconscious commitments include playing small, neglecting self-care, doubting oneself, and believing the worst about others. To overcome these commitments, it's essential to acknowledge their existence and actively work to shift thought patterns. Remember, it's not a failure of willpower or character to struggle with unconscious commitments; it's simply a part of being human.
Unconscious commitments can hinder conscious ones: Become aware of unconscious patterns, trust self to follow through, and remember change takes time and effort
Our unconscious commitments can hinder our ability to follow through on conscious commitments, and it's essential to become aware of these unconscious patterns rather than judging ourselves for not keeping our promises. The speaker shared an experience where she noticed she was unconsciously committed to being physically comfortable and not expending energy, which was preventing her from making and keeping a commitment to move her body. This realization allowed her to consciously commit to the idea that it's normal for change to take time and effort, and to keep going despite the challenges. It's important to remember that our self-reported experiences matter and that trusting ourselves to follow through on our commitments, even when we don't succeed perfectly, is crucial for achieving our goals.
Exploring Unconscious Commitments: We prioritize short-term comfort over long-term commitments, but exploring unconscious commitments with curiosity can lead to personal growth and transformation. Join 'The Clutch' for support in understanding and overcoming these commitments.
We often prioritize immediate comfort over long-term commitments to our future selves, even if it means enduring short-term discomfort. Speaker encourages listeners to explore their unconscious commitments and be curious instead of judgmental. They also invite listeners to join their program, "The Clutch," for help in understanding and overcoming these unconscious commitments. The program includes a 5-week self-coaching course and access to expert coaches. The speaker is committed to making their upcoming live event a life-changing experience for those who are consciously committed to transformation.
