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This episode discusses the benefit of working hard even when you feel you are not going to be able to do what is required. The Savage Siblings take a dive into the appeal of what is easy in life.  Andre and Anitra connect this concept to the sibling experiences and responsibilities that they didn’t want to do from simple chores to complex decisions.  They discuss the consequences of choosing the easy way rather than the “right” way.  They share examples of the importance of ethical choices in life that have a direct impact on your future.  This episode is for you if you’re struggling with learning to embrace the challenges that life brings and are tempted to find an easy answer rather than building courage, fortitude and patience.  If you find that your ethics were shaped by negative childhood experiences that you find difficult to change, take a listen!  If you reflect on how you enjoy meeting the challenges, don’t go anywhere, this is the episode for you. The Savage Siblings give you hope and incentive to meet the challenges of life in spite of the appeal of easy.

Memorable quotes:

• When life feels at the heaviest, we are close to our breakthrough so God can make room from distraction. ~ Andre
• Destiny comes through the hardship of pressing through. ~ Andre
• Sometimes the hard choice means putting yourself at risk, and still is the “right choice”. ~ Andre
• We seek achievement without great effort. ~ Anitra
• Cognitive dissonance is based on fear to meet the challenge to deal with your weaknesses. ~ Andre
• Ethics is a lifestyle as an adult; because I realize what easy gets me. ~ Andre
• Your beliefs line up with your actions when you value ethics. ~ Andre
• Too many of us are taking the path of least resistance or low hanging fruit. ~ Andre
• Easy may look good, but it’s less valuable. ~ Andre
• Society inundated us with the expectation to do everything quickly and easy. ~ Anitra
• Society will push us to be urgent, but the choice may not be the most important. ~ Anitra
• If you focus on completion, you miss the journey. ~ Anitra
• Thinking about, “I want it off my plate” is problematic. ~ Anitra
• Rewrite your habit to choose easy so you can reach your potential. ~ Andre
• Taking the easy way out, traps all your potential inside. ~ Andre
• Your ethic is who you are, not where you are. ~ Andre
• You can’t reach your potential sitting on the couch. ~ Andre
• Meeting the challenge means you question muscle memory or auto pilot mode for actions that are impactful. ~ Anitra
• Auto pilot mode is a false friend related to laziness. ~ Anitra

Keywords: 

#MentalHealth, #therapy,  #psychotherapy, #relationships, #psychology, #healing, #counseling, #ministry, #transformation, #change, #counselor, #therapist, #wholeness, #healthy, #health, #lifestyle, #mental, #emotions, #emotional, #spiritual, #minister, #christianliving, #christian, #wellness, #lifecoach, #forgiveness, #SavageSibling, #Savage, #Sibling,  #Brother, #Sister, #Family, #Parent, #S2Mediaworks, #SavageSiblingsPodcast, #Cantdothis, #Meetthechallenge, #Ethicsinlife, #Takingtheeasywayout, #Destinythroughhardship, #Sacrificetodoright,  #Accountability, #TheAppealofEasy, #Cognitivedissonance, #NoShortcuts, #Effectiveandefficient, #Valueethics, #Gettoyourvalue, #Getoffthecouch, #Curbappealonly, #Noautopilot, 

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In most episodes Rachel uses her journalistic background to trawl through studies and find out what a range of experts think about a topic. Susie brings her wealth of knowledge and experience of mindfulness and parenting to the microphone. Together, the two of us talk about the reality of parenting.

We're going to continue with that, but thought it might be nice to broaden the format to talk about current affairs topics, and how they affect us and our listeners.

In this episode we chat about the latest in teen slang; which can be hilarious. We also discuss the banning of mobile phones in schools, why it's happening, why it hasn't happened before, and what the benefits and issues are that surround it.

Also, we talk about exams. With the shift towards AI, is our education system really offering our teens what they need to equip themselves for being an adult? Are the subjects we study, and the way in which they are studied, still fit for purpose? Given that we can't get rid of AI, should we be incorporating it into the school curriculum?

We don't promise answers, but we're very keen to think about it, because these issues directly affect our teens.

We really enjoyed making this episode. What do you think? Shall we do it more regularly, or do prefer the research episodes? Would you like to hear more interviews? We're here for you (and to learn for our own sakes.)

CHAPTERS:
2:01 Teen lingo
7:10 Reviews
9:07 The things that trigger us are an opportunity to know ourselves better.
12:32 Getting stuck in an emotional spiral.
15:57 Mobile phone ban in schools

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Welcome to part two of Get in Where You Fit In.   This episode emphasizes the importance of enjoying who you are and what you’re doing to be your authentic self.  Andre and Anitra evaluate examples of unique people who refuse to conform to the norm, but have the confidence to embrace their individuality. This episode analyzes the need to be appreciated in our partnerships and relationships and how that appreciation can lead to positive self-awareness and personal identity. Dre unpacks how the position of the older sibling has inherent expectations that limit choice and can create frustration and Anitra speaks from the perspective of the younger sibling and the difference between “have to” versus “get to.”  

If you wonder why you didn’t feel like you belonged to your family, you will relate to this episode.  If you wondered how your family felt overwhelmed with family expectations, take a listen.  The Savage Siblings reflect on the difference between being needed and belonging to the family. Understanding these dynamics creates safe strategies to meet the needs of your family and partners in a healthy way.  This episode gives the listeners an opportunity to evaluate their relational value, which should create a healthy situation where you belong.

Memorable quotes:
Don’t dilute your relational value by morphing everywhere you go. ~ Andre
Understand who you are, but be flexible to protect your independence and help others when necessary. ~ Anitra
Don’t show vulnerability trying to protect your independence. ~ Anitra
Give the gift of vulnerability, and don’t let pride keep you from achieving your authentic self. ~ Anitra
You can kill a relationship by being extreme on either need or independence. ~ Anitra
Being needy has an expiration date, don’t set yourself up for failure. ~ Anitra
Grow when you are in a situation where you belong. ~ Andre
Belonging is intentional, needing is temporal. ~ Andre
You don’t find success, drive, passion alone. ~ Andre
Belonging means the picture is bigger than me. ~ Andre

Keywords: 

#MentalHealth, #therapy,  #psychotherapy, #relationships, #psychology, #healing, #counseling, #ministry, #theology, #transformation, #change, #counselor, #therapist, #wholeness, #healthy, #health, #lifestyle, #mental, #emotions, #emotional, #spiritual, #minister, #christianliving, #christian, #wellness, #lifecoach, #forgiveness, #SavageSibling, #Savage, #Sibling,  #Brother, #Sister, #Family, #Parent, #S2Mediaworks, #SavageSiblingsPodcast, #Mytribe, #Beingauthentic, #Belongingvsneeding, #GetIn, #FitIn, #SeekingtoBelong, #Transitiontoindependence, #Passingonthemantle, #RelationalValue, #Diversesyndrome, #SelfAwareness, #Beyourself, #IntentionalBelonging,

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Sound Editors: Kyle Davis and Dwayne McClendon
Music: Maxwell Music
Photography: K.Cross Photography

Brutally Honest. Relentlessly Transparent. Unapologetically Authentic.

Get in Where You Fit In is an episode that emphasizes the importance of enjoying who you are and what you’re doing to be your authentic self.  Andre and Anitra evaluate examples of unique people who refuse to conform to the norm, but have the confidence to embrace their individuality. This episode analyzes the need to be appreciated in our partnerships and relationships and how that appreciation can lead to positive self-awareness and personal identity. Dre unpacks how the position of the older sibling has inherent expectations that limit choice and can create frustration and Anitra speaks from the perspective of the younger sibling and the difference between “have to” versus “get to.”  

If you wonder why you didn’t feel like you belonged to your family, you will relate to this episode.  If you wondered how your family felt overwhelmed with family expectations, take a listen.  The Savage Siblings reflect on the difference between being needed and belonging to the family. Understanding these dynamics creates safe strategies to meet the needs of your family and partners in a healthy way.  This episode gives the listeners an opportunity to evaluate their relational value, which should create a healthy situation where you belong. 

Memorable quotes:

• Enjoy being the best of who you are. ~ Andre
• People can undergird you while the second wind is coming. ~ Anitra
• I can never have two bad days, because on the first day my tribe shows up and beats the drum. ~ Daniella
• God puts people in your life that are instrumental to help you get going. ~ Anitra
• We as human beings need to feel needed. ~ Anitra
• Belonging never ends, but being needed ends. ~ Andre
• The older sibling is the walking litmus test. ~ Andre
• The innate desire to be needed puts us in times of transition. ~ Anitra

Keywords:
#MentalHealth, #therapy,  #psychotherapy, #relationships, #psychology, #healing, #counseling, #ministry, #theology, #transformation, #change, #counselor, #therapist, #wholeness, #healthy, #health, #lifestyle, #mental, #emotions, #emotional, #spiritual, #minister, #christianliving, #christian, #wellness, #lifecoach, #forgiveness, #SavageSibling, #Savage, #Sibling,  #Brother, #Sister, #Family, #Parent, #S2Mediaworks, #SavageSiblingsPodcast, #Mytribe, #Beingauthentic, #Belongingvsneeding, #GetIn, #FitIn, #SeekingtoBelong, #Transitiontoindependence, #Passingonthemantle, #RelationalValue, #Diversesyndrome, #SelfAwareness, #Beyourself, #IntentionalBelonging,

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• Share your thoughts on the need to be needed versus the belonging.  What’s it like to be the middle child?
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Music: Maxwell Music
Photography: K.Cross Photography

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Stacy messaged to tell us that her son had come home with a hickey for a second time, and she wasn't sure whether her reaction was the right one. My goodness, parenting can be hard.

Remember when you had your very first date? The butterflies, the nervous laughter, and the constant fear of saying the wrong thing? Now imagine your teen going through the same rollercoaster of emotions.

In our latest podcast, we take a look at the words being used for dating, what teens are getting out of it; which is a lot of personal growth, excitement, and status.

Don't miss the top tips on how to be the best parent possible to a teen who's started dating.
 

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Welcome Back to Part Two of "I Got Five On It!"   This episode discusses the art of fair partnership, reciprocity, and negotiation between siblings and the impact that understanding reciprocity has on future relationships. Reciprocity and fair partnership are valuable and foundational for healthy adult relationships and building a healthy future. Join in on the laughter and inspiration with the Savage Siblings as they discuss the pros and cons of reciprocity and how that is connected to the spirit of negotiation. The episode asks, what do we both bring to the table of our relationships, business partnerships and human interactions? Learn the difference between healthy reciprocity and transactional relationships and get better to reach agreement and harmony through the value of reciprocity.  

Memorable quotes:

• Reciprocity in family isn’t a space to get paid, but a space where you say thank you for what the family provides. ~ Anitra
• Healthy reciprocity is trust to give and receive so you can keep pushing forward. ~ Anitra
• Healthy reciprocity gives you knowledge of how to add value and is rooted in openness and honesty. ~ Anitra
• People don’t have glass foreheads, and can't show scars if reciprocity isn’t healthy. ~ Anitra
• Reciprocity is harmony over balance, knowing what is required for the well being of the relationship. ~ Anitra
• You want the victory, you must make the investment, accept the struggle and reveal your vulnerability. ~ Andre
• Reciprocity is awareness and investment that requires work.  Anitra
• Effective reciprocity may require more for one member during one season, but not enabling.  Anitra
• Transactional relationships are negative or selfish reciprocity. ~ Anitra
• Stop giving when the other person isn’t inclined to contribute to promote growth. ~ Anitra
• Reciprocity is sometimes sacrificial.  Andre
• Forgiveness doesn't require both parties to participate; but anybody involved is given space for reciprocity. ~ Anitra

Keywords: 

#MentalHealth, #therapy,  #psychotherapy, #relationships, #psychology, #healing, #counseling, #ministry, #theology, #transformation, #change, #counselor, #therapist, #wholeness, #healthy, #health, #lifestyle, #mental, #emotions, #emotional, #spiritual, #minister, #christianliving, #christian, #wellness, #lifecoach, #forgiveness, #SavageSibling, #Savage, #Sibling,  #Brother, #Sister, #Family, #Parent, #S2Mediaworks, #SavageSiblingsPodcast, #Negotiation, #Fairpartnership, #Reciprocity, #Comingtothetable, # Knowthetable, #Reliability, #Harmonyoverbalance, #Transactional/antireciprocity, #ParasitenotReciprocity,  #Sacrifice, #Takermentality

Call to Action: 

• Post comments! Leave us a review!
• Share your thoughts on how you define reciprocity.  Have you developed excellent negotiation skills from your siblings?
• Any topics you want us to discuss?

Sound Editors: Kyle Davis and Dwayne McClendon
Music: Maxwell Music
Photography: K.Cross Photography

00:00:00 ~ Introduction
00:02:00 ~ Savage Segment: How I learned reciprocity?
00:20:50 ~ Savage Segment: How do we use reciprocity?
00:24:43 ~ Savage Segment: You Owe Me!
00:31:22 ~ Savage Segment: When to stop giving.
00:48:38 ~ Transformational Perspective: Know who to bring to the table.
00:52:52 ~ The Quick Shot: Encourage People to Reciprocate
00:58:52 ~The Final Blow: Everybody gets more!
01:00:55 ~ Closing: Thanks for joining us!

Brutally Honest. Relentlessly Transparent. Unapologetically Authentic.

This episode discusses the art of fair partnership, reciprocity, and negotiation between siblings and the impact that understanding reciprocity has on future relationships. Reciprocity and fair partnership are valuable and foundational for healthy adult relationships and building a healthy future. Join in on the laughter and inspiration with the Savage Siblings as they discuss the pros and cons of reciprocity and how that is connected to the spirit of negotiation. The episode asks, what do we both bring to the table of our relationships, business partnerships and human interactions? Learn the difference between healthy reciprocity and transactional relationships and get better to reach agreement and harmony through the value of reciprocity.  

Memorable quotes:

• Reciprocity is about siblings feeling appreciated for their role and respected for their skill. ~ Andre
• When you understand what you bring to the table,  you have reciprocity and value each other. ~ Andre
• If we share, we all become better and bless the future generation.  ~ Andre
• Your gift is only a gift when you give it for others to be better. ~ Andre
• Flow of energy or effort and understanding that it has to be in both directions. ~ Anitra
• In reciprocity, the other person should feel the value and/or love, I give, we give, you give. ~ Anitra
• Core of reciprocity you have to learn both sides of the relationship. ~ Anitra
• Reciprocity for givers sometimes is difficult and for receivers, giving may be difficult. ~ Anitra
• In reciprocity, you must learn how to stop giving away free samples, and realize what you have is valuable. ~ Andre
• Trust your judgment on who you bring to the table so you aren’t manipulated. ~ Andre
• Don’t let everybody come to the table! You are about to eat on when it comes to reciprocity. ~ Andre
• Cultivate the table so you don’t depend on impulse, ask critical questions before you invite others to the table. ~ Andre

Keywords: 

#MentalHealth, #therapy,  #psychotherapy, #relationships, #psychology, #healing, #counseling, #ministry, #theology, #transformation, #change, #counselor, #therapist, #wholeness, #healthy, #health, #lifestyle, #mental, #emotions, #emotional, #spiritual, #minister, #christianliving, #christian, #wellness, #lifecoach, #forgiveness, #SavageSibling, #Savage, #Sibling,  #Brother, #Sister, #Family, #Parent, #S2Mediaworks, #SavageSiblingsPodcast, #Negotiation, #Fairpartnership, #Reciprocity, #Comingtothetable, # Knowthetable, #Reliability, #Harmonyoverbalance, #Transactional/antireciprocity, #ParasitenotReciprocity,  #Sacrifice, #Takermentality,

Call to Action: 

• Post comments! Leave us a review!
• Share your thoughts on how you define reciprocity.  Have you developed excellent negotiation skills from your siblings?
• Any topics you want us to discuss?

Sound Editors: Kyle Davis and Dwayne McClendon
Music: Maxwell Music
Photography: K.Cross Photography

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Welcome Back to Part Two of Act Like You Got Some Sense!! How many times have you heard, “Act like you got some sense!” from parents and grandparents that set the social code for your family?  If this is a familiar phrase heard in your family, you will enjoy the shared experience and humor in this episode.  Andre and Anitra examine the “SOP” standard operating procedures that are established in the home and transferred across generations. Come and laugh with us as we reflect on the connection between family social codes integrated with professional and personal lifestyles.  

Memorable Quotes:

• The impact social codes have on family social brands will determine decisions in life. ~ Andre
• You need to know that other people are ok, so you are ok. ~ Malachi
• Not all family codes integrate into personal code. ~ Anitra
• When family coding challenges you to be better, hold on to it.  If it is condemning, fight to let go of it. ~ Anitra
• Always a cheat code in order to get the benefits of the code. ~ Andre
• God created tear ducts and emotions for men and women. ~ Anitra
• When the older sibling broke the family law, the parents developed a code to prevent another infraction. ~ Andre
• Dad, do I have to do this because you screwed up as a child? ~ Khouri
• At the end of every warning label is a grandmother who said, “Act like you have some sense!” ~ Andre
• General code, rule; just be quiet. ~ Andre
• Did you pass down a code of conduct that your children can thrive and survive socially? ~ Andre

Keywords: 

#MentalHealth, #therapy,  #psychotherapy, #relationships, #psychology, #healing, #counseling, #ministry, #theology, #transformation, #change, #counselor, #therapist, #wholeness, #healthy, #health, #lifestyle, #mental, #emotions, #emotional, #spiritual, #minister, #christianliving, #christian, #wellness, #lifecoach, #forgiveness, #SavageSibling, #Savage, #Sibling,  #Brother, #Sister, #Family, #Parent, #S2Mediaworks, #SavageSiblingsPodcast, #Standoperatingprocedure, #socialcode, #professionalcodeofconduct, #Rulesofthegame, #FamilyBrand, #ActLikeYouGotSense, #Wedontdothat, #reflectivespace, #Behaviorpatterns, #Integrateandassimilate, #Selfpreservationandprotection,

Call to Action: 

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• Share your family social codes or social codes that you think should be canceled altogether. 
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Sound Editors: Kyle Davis and Dwayne McClendon
Music: Maxwell Music
Photography: K.Cross Photography

0:00      Introduction
02:00  Savage Segment: How Are You Coded?
20:50  Savage Segment: What Social Codes have we passed on to our children?
37:38  Transformational Perspective: There is always a cheat code to the social code…
48:00  The Quick Shot: Social Codes - Keep ‘em or lose ‘em?
1:02:16  The Final Blow: Find the Wisdom in the codes
1:05:16  Closing: Thanks for joining us!

Brutally Honest. Relentlessly Transparent. Unapologetically Authentic.

How many times have you heard, “Act like you got some sense!” from parents and grandparents that set the social code for your family?  If this is a familiar phrase heard in your family, you will enjoy the shared experience and humor in this episode.  Andre and Anitra examine the “SOP” standard operating procedures that are established in the home and transferred across generations. Come and laugh with us as we reflect on the connection between family social codes integrated with professional and personal lifestyles.  

Memorable Quotes:

• Families establish SOP, standard operating procedures, to guide their children ~ Anitra
• Social codes become confusing when in conflict with family codes. ~ Andre
• Social codes are your family brand or overarching identifiers assigned to your family. ~ Anitra. 
• You always have options. ~ Dangerfield Grandparents
• Family definition of social codes adapt and evolve over time to protect the brand. ~ Andre
• Social coding with siblings is in the language of sharing, assisting, and supporting. ~ Andre
• If I got it, you got it, is coding as a sibling. ~ Andre
• Mirror holding or reflective space is when siblings watch how the other sibling displays the brand of the family. ~ Anitra
• Be careful not to get swallowed in the shadow of the older sibling because of the family brand. ~ Anitra
• Society says, what are you made of? Can I change your coding? ~ Andre

Keywords:
#MentalHealth, #therapy,  #psychotherapy, #relationships, #psychology, #healing, #counseling, #ministry, #theology, #transformation, #change, #counselor, #therapist, #wholeness, #healthy, #health, #lifestyle, #mental, #emotions, #emotional, #spiritual, #minister, #christianliving, #christian, #wellness, #lifecoach, #forgiveness, #SavageSibling, #Savage, #Sibling,  #Brother, #Sister, #Family, #Parent, #S2Mediaworks, #SavageSiblingsPodcast, #Standoperatingprocedure, #socialcode, #professionalcodeofconduct, #Rulesofthegame, #FamilyBrand, #ActLikeYouGotSense, #Wedontdothat, #reflectivespace, #Behaviorpatterns, #Integrateandassimilate, #Selfpreservationandprotection,

Call to Action: 

• Post comments! Leave us a review!
• Share your family social codes or social codes that you think should be canceled altogether. 
• Any topics you want us to discuss?

Sound Editors: Kyle Davis and Dwayne McClendon
Music: Maxwell Music
Photography: K.Cross Photography

CHAPTERS
0:00  Introduction
1:44 Sibling Check-In
6:33   Sibling Sound-Off Segment
34:20Sponsorship: S2 Mediaworks
35:15Savage Segment: The Unspoken Codes
44:58Savage Segment: Defining Social Codes
58:10Savage Segment: How do we define social codes as siblings

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This episode discusses understanding the differences between valuation and validation in our lives. How and what we value in our lives and what we consider valid in our lives.  Andre and Anitra share examples of how we use this knowledge to make decisions and the importance of your sibling relationship in defining valuation and validation. 

Have you ever wondered what determines your value system?  Or even the relationships that you consider valuable and how we justify and validate those relationships.  The episode explores the impact that value and validation have on each other and how we use that scale to invest in or disconnect in the relationships in our lives.  

Let’s take a deep dive into defining value and validity and the influence of our family experiences based on the choices that come from those definitions. This episode is for you if you question your worth, if others seem to lack value in who you are in their lives, and/or if you often do not feel accepted in your current relationships.  The Savage Siblings share ways to avoid indecisiveness, understand your worth and choose to move forward beyond validation to purpose. 

Memorable Quotes:

• Validation shows itself in your response, not the review. ~ Andre
• Validity doesn’t always come with “great job”, but constructive criticism can lead to validation. ~ Andre
• It's innate to want to be seen, heard, and recognized.  We will seek it out. ~ Anitra
• The world is going to try to define you, don’t let that prevent you from moving forward. ~ Anitra
• The world is going to challenge you, but don’t let it stop you.  ~ Andre
• Find value in the character assassination as well as the character affirmation. ~ Andre
• If you aint’ got no hater, you don’t know your value. ~ Andre
• Learn from the imperfections and use them as an opportunity to grow. ~ Anitra
• Value me, my experiences already validated me. ~ Andre
• Value is an individual journey of creation and circumstances for improvement. ~ Anitra

Keywords: 

#MentalHealth, #therapy,  #psychotherapy, #relationships, #psychology, #healing, #counseling, #ministry, #theology, #transformation, #change, #counselor, #therapist, #wholeness, #healthy, #health, #lifestyle, #mental, #emotions, #emotional, #spiritual, #minister, #christianliving, #christian, #wellness, #lifecoach, #forgiveness, #SavageSibling, #Savage, #Sibling,  #Brother, #Sister, #Family, #Parent, #S2Mediaworks, #SavageSiblingsPodcast, #Keyboardconnections, #Techfriends, #Validation, #Valuation, #Hater, #YourWorth,  #Decisiveness,

Call to Action: 

• Post comments! Leave us a review!
• Share the ways your sibling challenged or encouraged your worth and value growing up! Or perhaps you’ve had enough relationship experiences to understand valuation and validation and put those in proper context.
• Any topics you want us to discuss? Let us know! 

Sound Editors: Kyle Davis and Dwayne McClendon
Music: Maxwell Music
Photography: K.Cross Photography

CHAPTERS
00:00:00 - Introduction
00:01:42 - Savage Segment: Fair Partnership
00:08:18 - 
00:32:40 -
00:33:26 -
00:58:41 - Closing: Thanks for joining us!

Brutally Honest. Relentlessly Transparent. Unapologetically Authentic.

Imagine stepping into a boxing ring, sweat dripping from your brow, adrenaline pumping through your veins. Now picture the same intensity applied to your mental health, transforming traumas into triumphs, and emotional reactions into controlled responses. That's what we're diving into today. A unique conversation that correlates the discipline of mastering boxing strikes to mastering our mental health wellness practices. We'll unwrap the concept of post-traumatic growth, and discuss how turning pain into powerful learning can mold us into the individuals we strive to be.

But it's not just about fighting our inner battles, it's about maintaining healthy relationships too. Setting concrete boundaries and controlling your emotions! Feeling overwhelmed and overreacting because of past experiences? I've got you covered! We'll delve into how these practices can help us evolve into our best selves. So, tighten your gloves and get ready to rumble. Welcome to the Be Crazy journey. Let's knock out those mental health obstacles together!

Music credit to Kalvin Love for the podcast’s theme song “Bee Your Best Self”

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Ever had a moment where someone else's joy didn't make you happy? Today on Be Crazy Well, we have an illuminating conversation about navigating complex emotions like anger, resentment, and the blurred lines of fear and sadness that they often mask. Through a poignant narrative about a mother and her two daughters, we tackle the concept of 'learned helplessness' and reveal how sometimes, in our quest to do good, we might just be causing more harm. This episode paints a vivid picture of how our reactions to trauma can shape our lives and the role of mental health practices in helping us to become the individuals we aspire to be.

Are we poisoning ourselves with resentment? What happens when we hold expectations for the people we help? As we peel back these layers, we discuss the potential dangers resentment poses to our physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and financial health. Along the way, we question why anger isn't recognized as a primary emotion and why it's crucial to teach our children self-care. Join us as we explore these intriguing topics and more, demonstrating how understanding and embracing our emotions can propel us towards personal growth. Remember, growth isn’t always about moving forward, but sometimes about digging deep. So grab your headphones and join the mental health evolution with Be Crazy Well.

Music credit to Kalvin Love for the podcast’s theme song “Bee Your Best Self”

Tune into our CHW Streaming Radio and the full lineup at cominghomewell.com
Download on Apple Play and Google Play

Online-Therapy.com ~ Life Changing Therapy Click here for a 20% discount on your first month.

Contact Suzi at suzigma@gmail.com or (818) 470-2013 and share your story.
suzilandolphi.com
vetsandplayers.org
wildhorserescue.org

Thank you for listening! Be sure to SHARE, LIKE and leave us a REVIEW!

This episode discusses understanding the differences between valuation and validation in our lives. How and what we value in our lives and what we consider valid in our lives.  Andre and Anitra share examples of how we use this knowledge to make decisions and the importance of your sibling relationship in defining valuation and validation. 

Have you ever wondered what determines your value system?  Or even the relationships that you consider valuable and how we justify and validate those relationships.  The episode explores the impact that value and validation have on each other and how we use that scale to invest in or disconnect in the relationships in our lives.  

Let’s take a deep dive into defining value and validity and the influence of our family experiences based on the choices that come from those definitions. This episode is for you if you question your worth, if others seem to lack value in who you are in their lives, and/or if you often do not feel accepted in your current relationships.  The Savage Siblings share ways to avoid indecisiveness, understand your worth and choose to move forward beyond validation to purpose. 

Memorable Quotes:

• When the gift has more value than the cost, you can go further in life. ~ Andre 
• Sometimes siblings have to reaffirm our value. ~ Anitra
• Can I find value in something greater than what I am? ~ Andre
• I need to assign a value to an experience. ~ Andre
• Role of valuation occurs before you choose the action. ~ Andre
• Value will shine a light on inconsistencies. ~ Anitra
• Bad sources of valuation will make you look at what others view as validation. ~ Andre
• Identify good and bad sources to see if they are fair partnerships and use teachable moments to move forward. ~ Anitra
• Fair partnerships benefit both if you set boundaries and make sure you are valued. ~ Anitra

Keywords:
#MentalHealth, #therapy,  #psychotherapy, #relationships, #psychology, #healing, #counseling, #ministry, #theology, #transformation, #change, #counselor, #therapist, #wholeness, #healthy, #health, #lifestyle, #mental, #emotions, #emotional, #spiritual, #minister, #christianliving, #christian, #wellness, #lifecoach, #forgiveness, #SavageSibling, #Savage, #Sibling,  #Brother, #Sister, #Family, #Parent, #S2Mediaworks, #SavageSiblingsPodcast, #Keyboardconnections, #Techfriends, #Validation, #Valuation, #Hater, #YourWorth,  #Decisiveness,

Call to Action: 

• Post comments! Leave us a review!
• Share the ways your sibling challenged or encouraged your worth and value growing up! Or perhaps you’ve had enough relationship experiences to understand valuation and validation and put those in proper context.
• Any topics you want us to discuss? Let us know! 

Sound Editors: Kyle Davis and Dwayne McClendon
Music: Maxwell Music
Photography: K.Cross Photography

CHAPTERS
00:00:00 - Introduction
00:01:01 - Sibling Check-In
00:08:18 - Sibling Sound-Off Segment
00:32:40 - Sponsorship: S2 Mediaworks
00:33:26 - Savage Segment: Valuation vs Validation
00:58:38 - Closing: Thanks for joining us!

Brutally Honest. Relentlessly Transparent. Unapologetically Authentic.

To everything there is a season. Join hosts Montez Dove and Cedricia Thomas as they share highlights and recap some of the most memorable moments on their podcast journey. In this episode, Montez and Cedricia discuss episodes 36-39 as follows: ”I’m NOT Okay,” ”Sensitivity,” ”Victim or Victor,” and ”Steward Well.”

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This is my second conversation with somatic therapist, embodiment guide, intuitive body reader, soul coach, and meditation facilitator, Erin Pace.  

If you haven’t already listened to episode 12 titled, “The Body is a Realm of Wild Discovery”, I recommend you go back after this episode and take a listen.

Embodied, sensual movement is a deep passion of mine as I know first-hand, in my body, mind and soul, how supportive and healing it can be. I’m thrilled to have had these conversations with Erin in order to spread awareness about the positive impact this type of movement can provide, especially for women who are lacking trust and connection to their bodies. 

We speak about:

• Honoring the depth of emotion women hold in their bodies, and  embracing the experience of emotion in the body 
• Feeling emotions requires a commitment to connection to yourself and embracing what is happening within you
• Emotion is held in the body until we escort it away 
• How we desensitize as a way of survival and how our sensitivity in our bodies is a genius 
• Honoring, forgiving and allowing our bodies when they ask for rest
• How inviting ease can make space for more energy in the body
• Being with the intelligence of the body and what may show up when you check-in and visit 
• The remembrance of connecting with the divine and the sacredness of all  
• When women awaken to aliveness and wholeness in their bodies, there may be another quest inside of them to connect that to their eroticism 
• Women’s inability to receive 
• Using Erin’s A.L.I.V.E acronym as a daily touchstone or affirmation practice, starting with the phrases “I am” or “Am I?” – Aware, Listening, Intentional (or Inspired), Valid, Evolving 

Quotes:

• “Emotion can feel like a scary foe, and I invite that is should be a sacred informer” - Erin Pace

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Lori began writing at an early age; it's how she makes sense of the world. Writing gave her a place to document her thoughts and dreams, and record the stories she created in her head, but it wasn't until recently that she began publishing her poetry, essays, and kids books. In addition to four self-published books on Amazon, she also writes for her blog (Psychedelic-Love.com) and on Medium.com. Her essays are centered around love, relationships, psychedelics and personal growth. When she's not traveling the world, she lives in the Bay Area.  

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Reason to Believe (poetry)  https://www.amazon.com/Reason-Believe-Inspirational-Lori-Krein/dp/1737459914/

Meditation in Manhattan (self-help)  https://www.amazon.com/Meditation-Manhattan-Finding-Chaotic-World/dp/1491045442/

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This week we tie up some loose ends on some previous episodes. 

• Update on School  in followup to  "the disappointment episode"
• Update on family life including bonus parents, step parents and "otherhood" in followup to last week's joy episode 
• Retrospective:  How "Maleficent" changed my mind about motherhood
• Bonus + Mini Music Therapy - a  followup to "the forgiveness episode" 

References:
Notkin, M. (n.d.). Otherhood: The unexpected lives of modern women. 

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• Joy Intro 
• Foreboding Joy 
• Wine Mom Culture
• Gray Area Drinking 
• Why alcohol interferes with joy
• The neuroscience of joy
• The pink cloud and joy 
• A joy inspired music therapy session 

Guest Info:  Jen Butler spent a decade as a stay-at-home mom before becoming a Certified Professional Life and Recovery Coach and SHE RECOVERS® Coach. To cope with the rollercoaster of motherhood and enabled by wine mom culture, Jen was stuck in the fog of gray area drinking until 2018. As a coach, she provides connection and accountability – the keys that helped her start her journey to alcohol freedom – to gray area drinkers and multi-hyphenate moms who struggle with anxiety, perfectionism, and overwhelm. In addition to coaching, Jen is a blogger and aspiring memoirist, fitness instructor, and non-profit board member. Jen lives north of NYC with her husband, two children, and three dogs

https://www.joyinduring.com
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Resources:
 Brown Brené. (2022). Atlas of the heart mapping meaningful connection and the language of human experience. Ebury Digital.

David , W. (2015). Consolations: The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning . Many Rivers Press .

 https://www.ted.com/talks/jolene_park_gray_area_drinking?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

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