Podcast Summary
Investing in personal growth benefits not only the individual but also those around them: Investing in personal growth leads to positive changes in one's own life, benefiting loved ones and creating a more fulfilling and adaptable life
Investing in personal growth and mind management not only benefits the individual but also has a ripple effect on those around them. Tara Lowenthal, the host of Unfucked Your Brain, emphasizes this point as she shares her own experiences of personal and business growth. She explains that every time she invests in coaching and mind management, she is able to create positive changes in her own life, which in turn benefits her students, family, friends, and romantic partners. Furthermore, she encourages the practice of loving lightly, which means allowing change and growth rather than clinging to attachments. This approach can lead to a more fulfilling and adaptable life, both personally and professionally.
Love is a result of our thoughts and perceptions, not possession or intensity: The depth of our love isn't determined by how hard we love or possess, but by our thoughts and appreciation for what it is
The depth of our love or specialness of the things or people we love is not determined by how hard we love or the extent of our possession. Rather, our love is a result of our thoughts and perceptions. We may believe that our desires for certain relationships, possessions, or experiences are a sign of the depth of our love, but in reality, it indicates the degree to which we have placed our happiness, worth, and sense of self in the hands of these external factors. Love is a feeling created by our thoughts, and when we love something or someone "hard," we become attached and may make it harder for ourselves by associating it with possession and temporal needs. True love is appreciating and enjoying the person, thing, or experience for what it is, not for what we think it will do for us.
Beliefs about worth and value lead to attachments and suffering: Recognize that our worth and value come from within, not external sources, to reduce suffering and enjoy the present moment.
Our attachments to external things, whether they be relationships, possessions, or professional success, often stem from deeper beliefs about our worth and value. These beliefs can create feelings of happiness and security when we have the thing we desire, but they can also lead to suffering and unhappiness when we lose it. We tend to associate the depth of our love for something with the pain and suffering we imagine we would feel if we lost it. Instead of "loving hard," we should strive to "love lightly" by recognizing that our worth and value come from within and not from external sources. This can help us enjoy the present moment and find happiness in the journey rather than just the destination. Additionally, coaching can be beneficial in helping us uncover these subconscious beliefs and work towards a more liberated perspective.
The power of loving lightly: We value things based on the pain of loss rather than happiness gained, leading to conditional and manipulative love. Loving lightly means not linking worth or happiness to possession or access, allowing for more presence and engagement in relationships.
Our brains are more wired towards fearing unhappiness than embracing happiness. This bias can lead us to attribute more value to things based on the pain we feel when we lose access to them, rather than the positive feelings they bring us. When we make someone or something responsible for our happiness, our love becomes conditional and manipulative, making it harder to truly love them. Loving lightly means not associating our worth or happiness with possession or access to the thing or person, and being able to love them regardless of their behavior or circumstances. It's not about not caring, but rather about loving without attachment or expectation. This pure form of love allows us to be more present and fully engaged in our relationships and experiences, without the added stress and strain of conditionality.
Appreciating and cherishing with understanding of impermanence: Loving lightly allows us to find joy in the present moment and navigate life's ebb and flow with ease and resilience, without equating it to apathy or indifference.
Loving lightly means appreciating and cherishing what we have while understanding that it may not be permanent. It's about finding joy in the present moment and maintaining a sense of self-worth and value beyond external circumstances. This approach to love allows us to navigate the natural ebb and flow of life with ease and resilience. It's essential to remember that loving lightly doesn't equate to apathy or indifference. Instead, it's an act of abundance that stems from a deep sense of inner security and self-acceptance. By loving lightly, we can cultivate a more fulfilling and adaptable relationship with people, places, and things, ultimately leading to greater happiness and contentment.
Exploring self-love, security, and living life on purpose: Focusing on self-love, security, and living life on purpose can lead to deeper connections and true freedom.
By focusing on self-love, security, and living life on purpose, we can learn to love other things more lightly and find true freedom. This concept is further explored and applied in The Clutch, a feminist coaching community where individuals can receive personalized help and learn new coaching tools to deepen their understanding and practice of thought work. Joining The Clutch offers a supportive community to connect with like-minded individuals and guarantees life-changing results. To learn more and join, visit www.unfuckyourbrain.com/forward/theclutch or text your email address to 347-934-8861.
