Podcast Summary
Perception of safety and security influenced by thoughts: Being vulnerable and allowing healing can create a sense of safety and security, which can be influenced by our thoughts rather than external factors.
Our perception of safety and security can significantly influence our lives, and it's often linked to our thoughts rather than external factors. Cara, the host of Unfucked Your Brain podcast, shared her experience of helping a client rewrite her story about past trauma and how the feeling of safety is created by our thoughts. She emphasized the importance of being willing to be vulnerable and allowing oneself to heal. Another client's story reminded Cara of her own journey and the gift of being a guide for others on their path to change. Ultimately, the podcast aims to teach listeners how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire their brains and get what they want in life.
Trusting the Process of Personal Growth: Having faith and trust in personal growth can lead to significant transformation, even during difficult times. If you feel drawn to changing your mindset, trust the process, even if it seems unconventional.
Having faith and trust in the process of personal growth, even during difficult times, can lead to significant transformation. The speaker shared her experience of guiding clients through their struggles, despite their own doubts and fears, and how she felt a deep connection with those who resonated with her podcast. She also shared an unexpected experience of seemingly psychic abilities during a consultation call. The speaker emphasized that if someone feels drawn to the idea of changing their mindset, it's a sign that this approach is the right one for them, even if it may seem unconventional or woo woo to some. Overall, the message is that trusting the process and having faith in oneself can lead to remarkable personal growth.
Trusting our inner guidance: When we find a practice or philosophy that resonates deeply with us, trust the feeling and give it a try, even if our brains introduce confusion and doubt. Trusting ourselves can help us make decisions with confidence.
Our bodies and minds have innate needs and desires, and when we find a practice or philosophy that resonates deeply with us, it's more likely to bring about positive change. The speaker uses the analogy of a nutritional craving to illustrate this point. If you feel a strong pull towards thought work or any other practice, trust that feeling and give it a try. Our brains may try to introduce confusion and doubt, but if you trust the process and it makes sense to you, it's worth pursuing. In Greek mythology, the story of Odysseus offers a lesson on decision-making. Despite understanding that confusion is an illusion, making a decision can still be challenging. By recognizing our inner guidance and trusting ourselves, we can navigate the metaphorical straits of uncertainty and make decisions with confidence.
The importance of commitment and perseverance in making decisions: Stay committed to long-term goals by creating accountability structures, setting clear objectives, and developing discipline to focus despite distractions
Just like Odysseus and the Sirens, we are often faced with temptations and distractions that can derail us from our goals. The story of the Sirens serves as an analogy for the importance of commitment and perseverance in making decisions. Odysseus' solution of having himself tied to the mast represents the need to establish strong commitments and create situations where giving up is not an option. In our modern lives, this could mean setting clear goals, creating accountability structures, and developing the discipline to stay focused despite distractions. It's easy to get bogged down by decision paralysis or the allure of short-term pleasures, but by committing strongly to our long-term objectives, we can navigate through the challenges and stay on course.
Fear of future regret drives decision making: People struggle with decisions due to fear of future regret and shame, not the present situation or decision itself.
Fear, not confusion, is the primary reason people struggle to make decisions and experience commitment issues. The fear isn't about making the wrong decision in the moment, but rather about the potential future thoughts and feelings of regret and shame. Even when it comes to tangible concerns like being unable to pay a mortgage, the fear stems from what we might think and feel about the situation, not the situation itself. Our brains don't distinguish between present and imagined emotions, so we end up experiencing fear, shame, and guilt now just by imagining them in the future. This fear-driven decision-making process is futile because we can't predict what an unmanaged mind will do. Instead, we should focus on managing our minds and emotions in the present to make informed decisions and reduce fear.
Our emotions don't determine our decisions, but our thoughts do: Recognize that emotions don't control decisions, instead, learn to manage thoughts and challenge self-critical patterns for confident decision making
Our feelings of guilt, shame, anxiety, and regret are not caused by our past decisions, but rather by our brain's pattern of self-critical thinking. These thoughts are ingrained in our brain and would persist regardless of the decisions we make. Therefore, it's essential to learn how to manage our minds and challenge these thought patterns to make decisions based on what we truly want, rather than being held back by our emotions. When making decisions, it's helpful to ask ourselves what we would choose if we could feel however we wanted, or if our feelings didn't impact the outcome. These questions can help us tune in to our desires and make decisions that align with them. Ultimately, while our decisions do have consequences, it's our thoughts and emotions that determine our experience and reality. By learning to manage our minds, we can make decisions confidently and tune in to what we truly want.
Managing the mind for happiness and wellbeing: Thoughts create emotions, an unmanaged mind can lead to negative feelings, commitment is key, doubts and fears are illusions, and managing the mind is a continuous process.
While the choices we make in life such as jobs, living situations, or relationships may seem significant, the real determinant of our happiness and wellbeing lies in the management of our minds. Our thoughts create our emotions, and an unmanaged mind can lead to negative feelings regardless of external circumstances. Once a decision is made, commitment is key, even if doubts and fears arise. These feelings are an illusion, like the siren song that promises happiness but ultimately leads to danger. The real danger comes from acting on these feelings, rather than recognizing them for what they are and staying committed to our choices. It's important to remember that managing the mind is a continuous process, and it's okay to experience doubts and fears along the way. The key is not to act on them.
Embrace Decisions and Manage Negative Emotions: Learn to manage negative emotions and commit to decisions for personal growth, even if challenging. Ask which decision aligns with our desired adventure, not which one causes less negative feelings.
Making a decision and sticking with it, despite feelings of anxiety, regret, or fear, is essential for personal growth. Our brains naturally react to change with these negative emotions, but they are not reasons to change course. Instead, it's crucial to learn how to manage these feelings and commit to the decision, even if it's challenging. The wrong question to ask is which decision won't cause negative feelings, as both options will likely produce them if we don't manage our minds. The better question is which decision aligns with the kind of adventure we want to have and is worth committing to, despite the potential negative emotions. To effectively manage our minds and deal with negative feelings, we need to learn the tools to change our thoughts daily and develop the ability to commit and stick with our decisions. This is the essence of personal growth and the hero's journey.
Embrace emotions, manage mind, seek help: Acknowledge negative emotions, manage mind, and seek help through programs like 'Unfuck Your Brain's The Clutch'.
It's natural to experience negative emotions like anxiety, guilt, and self-doubt, and it's important to acknowledge and manage them, but not let them consume us. You are an expert in handling these feelings, having dealt with them throughout your life. While managing your mind is crucial, it's also essential to keep moving forward and not let these emotions hold you back. Additionally, there's help available to make this process easier. The "Unfuck Your Brain" program offers a self-coaching course, The Clutch, which provides guidance on how to apply thought work to any situation and comes with access to expert coaches for support. The program has proven effective for many people and will soon release bonus podcast episodes featuring client testimonials. So, embrace your emotions, manage your mind, and don't hesitate to seek help if needed. Remember, you have the power to change your life. Visit unfuckyourbrain.com/theclutch or text your email address to 347 934-8861 for more information.
